27/2 The Skipped Dargah Meeting! - Page 6

Jyoti: Seriously! 😡 Her attitude left me disgusted!😡 Insane man! So absurd on a part of a woman to think like that!😲 & was sounding so unrewarding! 😕Her statement was nasty & ridiculous! 😡 Very unappreciative! 😕

Originally posted by: jyoti06

Sometimes I wonder being a woman and a mother herself ,how can someone think of separating another mother from her own son and then expect that girl to come there and shower all motherly love on her son's kids ?? 😕..

Yash's mother's tone was so selfish today .,.it looked as if she is doing some sort of favour on Dubey family with this Rishta ...how can she forget that her own son too is not a first hand material to b feeling proud of 😡

Sorry just jad to blurt out my frustations because when I was watching it with my family at dinner time ,my MIL was like Yash's mother's reaction is normal ...I m like huhh 😕

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

Well this is quite simply explained, actually. It is because most mothers don't think with 'motherhood' as a concept in mind. They do whatever they feel is right for their child at that time. So they are not thinking about motherhood on a conceptual level, as we are right now, at all. They are practicing it on a very personal and narrow level where the rest of the world can go bhaad mein to give maximum happiness and minimum difficulty and complication to their child.

Now we have to remember that Yash's mother has seen her son go through the worst, something that no parent wants to see. She sees him struggle with his grief day in and day out and strive to give attention and time to his daughters. While she views her family with emotion, she has no emotion for Aarti yet. It is all practical. She is not empathising with Aarthi but just thinking what she could do for their family.

So being a mother herself does not mean that she is thinking about 'motherhood' on a grand scale. It just means that she will fight for what she sees as the best solution for Yash, blind to other people's emotions and motivations.

i think MILs are expected to be the best exmple of hypocrisy...a rule for their sons and daughters another for the bahu😡

@Nightstarr:Well its just human nature I feel ...I mean see my MIL feels Yash's mother ka demand is natural and she is just a normal woman and loves me too..so I wont say my MIL is like Yash ka mother ..she is quite a modern day woman but she still feels Yash's mother did no wrong with such demand as initially every mother will think in favour of her son or daughter only ...its just that I feel no family wants to accept a woman with past baggage irrespective of whether the man is carrying similar baggage or not and thats why we still say its a male dominated society

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

Well this is quite simply explained, actually. It is because most mothers don't think with 'motherhood' as a concept in mind. They do whatever they feel is right for their child at that time. So they are not thinking about motherhood on a conceptual level, as we are right now, at all. They are practicing it on a very personal and narrow level where the rest of the world can go bhaad mein to give maximum happiness and minimum difficulty and complication to their child.

Now we have to remember that Yash's mother has seen her son go through the worst, something that no parent wants to see. She sees him struggle with his grief day in and day out and strive to give attention and time to his daughters. While she views her family with emotion, she has no emotion for Aarti yet. It is all practical. She is not empathising with Aarthi but just thinking what she could do for their family.

So being a mother herself does not mean that she is thinking about 'motherhood' on a grand scale. It just means that she will fight for what she sees as the best solution for Yash, blind to other people's emotions and motivations.

Yes, it is hypocrisy but that is the trademark of the Indian mother. She will stoop to any low, sacrifice any morals and fight off any obstacles for the happiness of her child! I am not condoning this, just playing devil's advocate here.

Yash's mother is being calculative here, not emotional. She would have to approach this from an irrational angle ("love has its reasons which reason knows not") in order to comprehend the possibility that Aarti could love both her child and her step-children equally as it can't be explained how in any rational way. Try and see!

To her at this point, the rishta is all business, a game of give and take. They are making Aarti and her in-laws' situation more comfortable by accepting her without dowry, so how will Aarti's family repay them? By reducing their complications and making their situation more comfortable, ie no Ansh.

But this is not a business deal. It is a relationship that needs to be formed, like Yash said on pyar and vishwas, not on some sort of bargain or barter system, where children are the commodities!

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

Yes, it is hypocrisy but that is the trademark of the Indian mother. She will stoop to any low, sacrifice any morals and fight off any obstacles for the happiness of her child! I am not condoning this, just playing devil's advocate here.

Yash's mother is being calculative here, not emotional. She would have to approach this from an irrational angle ("love has its reasons which reason knows not") in order to comprehend the possibility that Aarti could love both her child and her step-children equally as it can't be explained how in any rational way. Try and see!

To her at this point, the rishta is all business, a game of give and take. They are making Aarti and her in-laws' situation more comfortable by accepting her without dowry, so how will Aarti's family repay them? By reducing their complications and making their situation more comfortable, ie no Ansh.

But this is not a business deal. It is a relationship that needs to be formed, like Yash said on pyar and vishwas, not on some sort of bargain or barter system, where children are the commodities!

@Mansi:At present Yash's mother is only thinking about her own family ...she is not bothered about Aarti's feelings or emotions and feels that they r doing a favour by getting their son married to a widow .....she feels if Aarti carries Ansh with her ,then mayb Aarti will act all sautela with Yash's kids ..but here how can she assume that if Aarti does not bring her own son with her ,then she will b able to shower all love on Yash's kids without remembering her own son even once ?? 😕...So her assumption itself does not make any sense in this case ...Aarti's love for Yash's kids will hv nothing to do with whether she brings Ansh with her or not ...

@ Samana :

Originally posted by: jyoti06

@Mansi:At present Yash's mother is only thinking about her own family ...she is not bothered about Aarti's feelings or emotions and feels that they r doing a favour by getting their son married to a widow .....she feels if Aarti carries Ansh with her ,then mayb Aarti will act all sautela with Yash's kids ..but here how can she assume that if Aarti does not bring her own son with her ,then she will b able to shower all love on Yash's kids without remembering her own son even once ?? 😕...So her assumption itself does not make any sense in this case ...Aarti's love for Yash's kids will hv nothing to do with whether she brings Ansh with her or not ...