|Why Punar Vivah? - Episode 4 Discussion| - Page 8

Oh .. so it is indeed Leena Jumani?

i was watching the show again in youtube and wanted to share this:
the show seems to be a bit diff in their outlook altogether...modern... with real characters and natural situations...
take for example the dinner table convo itself... as jyo has mentioned the whole famly is at the table together...something we can equate with and they don't wait for the father to preside as we is busy with something, may be he must have asked them to start...something else that happen in todays family... no hype or drama
the banter b/w the husband and wife something else that happens in our homes and from the reaction of those present without much participation from their part it is obvious that this is a sort of routine😃
take another instance the younger son cooking...that too seems something cute... proclaiming the modern outlook and the freedom that is given to the children in the family...they are given the freedom to express themselves...
the only steroe type seems to be the daughter in the family.
yash seems to be a very balanced person...and i have a feeling that the fact that he is the tmiddleson has a lot to do with that...any middle daughter out there😉
it is often seen that middle kid is the most balanced person in the family...(oh if u r thinking i am one, then u r wrong i am the youngest of three girls😃...) the first son/daughter has to take the weight of being the next in line...the expectations on him is great and so is the love showered on him coz he is the first child...
in the case of the last child, he is again pampered by everyone and given the least responsibility.
now for the middle child it is a constant fight ... whatever he has done has been done by his bro before him...and he has to fight not to be in the shadow of his bro...the pampering wud have been less and to break away from the shadow of his bro he will develop an individuality sooner... he will have learned to project himself f more from imitation ans self teaching... he wud have realized if he is to be heard he shud he shud establish himself ... i think for the same matter the confidence level of the middle child who emerges from the shadow of his brother will be greater...
we can see the same in Yash... a man of few word, doesn't depend on other to do everything for him, quick to action quick to analyse ad take decision... we see that in the way he solves the problem of the jammed remote and the way he derives to the conclusion that they have made a mistake from the phone convo with Aarthi.
from his soliloquy to his wife's pic it becomes clear that they used to have this kind ofconversations once they retired for the night...something else that is very real to life...don't most couples do that...i mean the ones who do have time to spend together in this fast paced life...a sharing of the days events when they were apart, an expression of their take on what happened n the day... oh i do feel sad for yash...how he must miss those moments..may be aarthi must must have pointed out the faults in his judgement or reaction to a pearticular situation in the privacy of their bedroom... i do feel that message comes thru in his admitance that he might have been wrong to shout at ramdulare when he talks to Arpita... and he do admit his over protettiveness towards his children...( wud i be wrong in saying Yash is the continuation of Maan, after he partnered geet and evolved?)
but all said it needs to be seen if he will give the same status, the status to speak freely and correct him to Aarti...i guess not, at least not in the beginning... he may not even give her the right to correct his children...he speaks of love and trust yes Aarthi will have to prove herself to gain his trust...
ok i feel this has become longer than i intended... so will stop here ..may be i will think from aarti's point of view in another post...hope i didn't bore u with my blabbering😳
Bindu(oh that means full stop ...something i hope u r not thinking i shud have done a few sentences before😆😆😆
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@Bindu: Great points, especially about Yash's characterisation. I had never thought of his position as the middle child with all these factors in mind. And it really rings true to what we know about him. He is clearly a quick and decisive thinker and gets things done without hassle, but only after he has heard the entire break down of the situation. This is a perfect balance between an older child, who might be over-cautious thanks to all the pressure and a younger child, who might be too impulsive. Also, it seems the older son deals in the family business while Yash sort of balances that with his own business and Pratik seems to march to his own tunes. 😆 Really excellent characterisation of the three brothers there.

Nobody kill me, but it kind of reminds me of the characterisations in Hum Saath Saath Hain and I am guessing Arpita was something like Sonali Bendre's character in that movie, which is why Yash tells Aarti that he doesn't like girls who talk too much.

And this is another aspect of your analysis that I completely agree on, that this is the kind of conversation Yash and Aprita had in their moments alone, when they would go over the whole day. I get the feeling that Arpita wasn't one to talk much but just listened and let Yash come to his own conclusions, maybe with looks and subtle hints regarding what she thought. To me this was what was reflected in his monologue.

Also judging by his conversation with her, and his complete lack of bitterness at his bhaiyya-bhabi's banter, I get the idea that he is still very much in a relationship with Arpita and people asking him to remarry is nothing short of cheating in his mind. However it is not healthy, and distinctly creepy, to be that committed someone who is not there to participate actively in the relationship. I am not saying he shouldn't remember and love her all his life, but being in a relationship with her with this intensity is not allowing him to heal his wounds or even grieve properly.

Insofar as the five stages of grief are concerned (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance), I would say Yash is still in the denial mode, only to be occasionally yanked into the stage of anger when people mention remarriage. But then he automatically defaults to denial once again. Psychologically speaking, this is again, really unhealthy.

I liked the yesterday's episode it was realistic with people haveing normal talks at dinner time

Another thing that caught my attention is the surname of yash I mean she did JKR before where syndhiyas were there & now here also they are there

Interesting discussion going on 👏

Jyo, yeah totally agree that the differences between Aarti and Arpita are what is going to make it easier for Yash to make a place for her. He was one person when he loved and was married to Arpita, but he is a different person now, somewhat after her loss, with different needs so maybe a different partner is also needed for his curent circumstances.

Your comment reminded me of my mother who, during Yash's monologue in the 2nd episode, when he says "main tumhari jagah kisi ko bhi nahin de sakta" my mother said "to doosri jagah banale na!" 😆 I think that is what he will do for Aarti in good time.

^^True ..who asked him to give the same place to Aarti ...he can make a second khopcha in his heart na 😆😆😆