Great discussion going on here. Loved reading different viewpoints.
Angie I seriously hope (against hope) that the makers show Sarita's 'devotion' to Raj as unhealthy - u called it Stockholm syndrome. It's a devotion that's undeserved, not reciprocated and not even respected by the one it's offered to. I hope Sarita understands this - that would be her true evolution.
In a way, I can understand why Sarita has absolved Raj - in the context of this show. In this show, if a man has an affair after 20+ years of marriage, the ones who are blamed are his wife (for not keeping the distractions out of his vision) and the 2nd woman (who trapped the innocent, helpless man) - no one says anything to our dear Sohu. So, essentially, according to this, men are but passive creatures easily led and it is up to the wife to win their heart or love (without any effort whatsoever from men's side). But I don't really blame this thought process - it's the way gender dynamics have been defined in society. In all our fairy tales, it's the job of the princess to enchant the prince with her beauty / love. Then the prince will fight the witches and slay the dragons for her.
In fact, in this forum, I have read opinions about how Raj should end up with Divya because Sarita could not win Raj's love in 10 years. Raj's love is not any trophy nor can love happen when one of the partner is so unreceptive and closed (strictly my view). Of course it happens in shows. The girl would save husband's business, jump into fire for him, solve all the issues faced by his family and in the end our noble hero would bend and bestow his great love on her. Sarita knows that she could not do any such thing so the fault is hers and hers alone.