What kind of SR is this?

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Posted: 14 years ago
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I may be jumping the gun here by basing my opinion on what I saw in the news clipping but presuming it to be true I was feeling a little queasy about the way Komal was virtually begging for Adarsh's amorous attention. How is Komal different from Kesar who has decimated all vestiges of self respect just to get her man acknowledge her existence. If the CVs think this is how an uneducated woman behaves, then they couldn't be more wrong. Any person who has been treated like yesterday's newspaper the way Komal has been will not take it so sportingly. Ego is not deterred by any person's educational qualification.
Are the CVs trying to depict that it is in one's marital interest to tantalise the spouse so much that when the deprived partner gets what she or he wants they will be eternally indebted to the giver of the benediction. Is that the way the cookie crumbles in real life? K was always a short tempered, tempestuous man given to instances of mood swings but there has been a total transformation since the SR. You may say this is love, but he was in love with P since the day he saw her. So what changed him so much. Is it that now he feels grateful to P and now we can expect a Komal who is similarly grateful to Adarsh. Is that a cornerstone of a happy marriage?
These are some of the issues I wanted to discuss with you all. Please feel free to give your opinions. I am keen on understanding the situation through different perspective and therein lies the beauty of the forum.

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Posted: 14 years ago
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oh so u ddnot liked the idea of there SR oh my my share ur gyan how u want it to happen we will ask mera to write an editorial to pops 😆what say ? yaara i knoe its a serious post will reply on a serios note late just avoiding serious topics otherwise it was bid aidu from my side to the forum
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Posted: 14 years ago
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oh so u ddnot liked the idea of there SR oh my my share ur gyan how u want it to happen we will ask mera to write an editorial to pops 😆what say ? yaara i knoe its a serious post will reply on a serios note late just avoiding serious topics otherwise it was bid aidu from my side to the forum
How the SR happens is none of business😆. But why it happened was not to my liking. It is an expression of love one should not humiliate oneself by begging for it. It is like Adarsh is doing some charitable act not loving in the true sense.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Originally posted by: Mili97

K was always a short tempered, tempestuous man given to instances of mood swings but there has been a total transformation since the SR. You may say this is love, but he was in love with P since the day he saw her. So what changed him so much. Is it that now he feels grateful to P and now we can expect a Komal who is similarly grateful to Adarsh. Is that a cornerstone of a happy marriage?

😆...very simple beta! after that so called open space SR... 😉 baba transformed from vertebrate to invertebrate😆
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Originally posted by: Mili97


hmm komarsh ki SR hai toh no business but when kriya was concerned people were giving ideas hmm 😆and for me adarsh is the most stupid spineless idiot character i have ever seen no hopes

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Posted: 14 years ago
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How the SR happens is none of business😆. 🤣 🤣
But why it happened was not to my liking.🤣 🤣
It is like Adarsh is doing some charitable act 🤣 🤣

yaar stop cracking ...my stomach hurts! 🤣
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Originally posted by: telstra

🤣...what a topic...what a discussion!...🤣

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Posted: 14 years ago
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Adarsh is a man who follows the sanskaar, riti-riwaz that his father has tattooed in his brain. Realism has little room when idealism has taken over the greater part o f the brain .

Adarsh does say once in a while after a bout of pouting from Komal "you are my wife" while adding a jab or two about her family members at the same time to keep her in check. Just his way of saying he is better than the riffraff family she comes from. He tells her to shut up ever so often. Just proves he is far from being in love with his wife.

Komal on the other hand may gripe about her plight honestly and truthfully but she has been on the road to falling in love with Adarsh in spite of his rudeness towards her. She has been patient, helpful, took care of him after the accident and lived within the means of the Sax family and adjusted their way of life gradually. She is a young girl who lived life on her terms as a free spirit in many ways at the Niwas and now she wants Adarsh to love her and be a husband in every way so she is trying every weapon at her disposal to earn his love.

Adarsh got her bangles but she flung them when she found out he got some for his sister and Mummy too😲. He took her out to eat a couple of times. He has never been portrayed as a man falling in love with his wife. Maybe he is the reserved kind of guy who can't express his feelings openly.

I wonder if he is consummating the marriage out of a sense of duty and some guilt for treating Komal the way he has all this time even after Prats accepted Krishna.


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Posted: 14 years ago
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see meera has given such a nice answer i hope now mili is satisfied

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Posted: 14 years ago
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Mili

Adarsh is a man who follows the sanskaar, riti-riwaz that his father has tattooed in his brain. Realism has little room when idealism has taken over the greater part o f the brain .

Adarsh does say once in a while after a bout of pouting from Komal "you are my wife" while adding a jab or two about her family members at the same time to keep her in check. Just his way of saying he is better than the riffraff family she comes from. He tells her to shut up ever so often. Just proves he is far from being in love with his wife.

Komal on the other hand may gripe about her plight honestly and truthfully but she has been on the road to falling in love with Adarsh in spite of his rudeness towards her. She has been patient, helpful, took care of him after the accident and lived within the means of the Sax family and adjusted their way of life gradually. She is a young girl who lived life on her terms as a free spirit in many ways at the Niwas and now she wants Adarsh to love her and be a husband in every way so she is trying every weapon at her disposal to earn his love.

Adarsh got her bangles but she flung them when she found out he got some for his sister and Mummy too😲. He took her out to eat a couple of times. He has never been portrayed as a man falling in love with his wife. Maybe he is the reserved kind of guy who can't express his feelings openly.

I wonder if he is consummating the marriage out of a sense of duty and some guilt for treating Komal the way he has all this time even after Prats accepted Krishna.


I fully agree with POV coz you are being factual here. What I am trying to understand is that pushing your spouse to the edge of emotional and physical isolation and then suddenly giving in, does it inspire more loyalty and a feeling of lifelong gratitude.
I'll illustrate by giving you an example. I have a d'ter who is very fond of chocolates and incidently due to the frequent travels of my hubby our fridge is well stocked with it. Whenever my d'ter asks for a chocolate, my usual answer is a no. Consequently she embarks on a pleading spree. As soon she reaches her nth please, I very magnanimously give her a chocolate, with a suitable beatific smile on my face which says, Mummy is nice, isn't she? This serve two purpose, one my d'ter gets to know who is the boss and secondly ,I hope that it teaches her to cherish what she got.
But does this modus operandi work in a marital relationship. In MKAP it is working great but what are its long term ramifications?

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