Merry go round !! - Page 8

Originally posted by: MERARAI

Tanths

I disagree that Krishna has never communicated his feelings to Prats. He is not one for long baashans so it may appear so. He has on quite a few occasions said that she has time for everyone and everything else but not for him. He asked her to care about just his needs and them as a couple but seems Pratigya is not very inspired and excited about that. Some people thrive on resolving other people's problems and leave their own piling up until it becomes a landfill and they are forced to wake up and realize in a hurry, panicked that the foundation in not on solid ground. Krishna didn't react his usual way yday. He had time to reflect until she returned. He basically told her "Carry on" and left. Instead of reflecting on what she may have done she goes into the kitchen looking for what? She already ate at her maike, so what was she doing in the kitchen? Oh yes! taking on another problem. Either she is dense and took Krishna's words literarily or she shoves his reactions aside as her ego thrives on living with the "savior complex".

Any girl raised in a home with both parents learns a thing or two whiile growing up. Why hasn't Prats learned to read Krishna's body language? Is her preoccupation with maike and being their savior so important that she ignores that he is visibly upset? She seems to be someone who thrives on crisis. It gets her adrenal juices flowing, there is a sense of adventure and lights up her life. I, personally know a few people who thrive on solving other's problems and their families are the casualty.

Prats uses different rule books when playing the game. She switches from football (American) to soccer without warning. It's one set of rules for maike she looks up to and another to the sasural she detests. Doesn't she realize that Krishna (whom she claims to love.......I don't buy that yet) is a product of the very people she has no respect for and detests? Talking down and out to get her sasural for every wrong they have done while giving her maike a free pass doesn't go unnoticed by the very people she lives with.

It's going to take Krishna making it crystal clear and taking a tough stand for her to realize that she has a choice to make.........where does Krishna stand in her list of priorities? On the top or bottom.

Mera,

when I said lack of communication..I meant the Adda type convo or the time when he says will get money for Aarushi's marriage ...I meant an extended and extensive one...whenever Krishna has expressed his need..it was almost always entrenched in other expectation's...SR, Kesar's rights ..and she shirked it off ...and also there is a firm conviction in Pratigya's mind that Krishna like a loyal dog will always be there watching out for her ...It is this complacency that has to be shaken..

Originally posted by: gawker

i think as women we eventually learn how important it is for the guys around us to feel respected and needed. i can think of no guy in the real world who would have taken as much *putting down* as krishna. especially when he was such an alpha male to begin with.

this amount of disrespect from a spouse would normally make a guy quite incapable of feeling any love for the woman concerned. pratigya has had a free ride till now. its going to get bumpy unless she bucks up.

Funnily, I too have not seen any Alpha male behaving this way ...had this happened in real world...there would have been a grievance redressal conference between two families to sort out the daughter's penchant for maika ...

Der se hi sahi ...but Krishna has begun to address this problem ....

Originally posted by: telstra

god post tanthya as always.one thing i want to ask in the end of epi k was angry with p or with his parents.and i think taali donon haath say bajti hai thakurs never considered her as a bahu humiliates her infront of everyone including servants plus she has seen with her eyes what amma and shakti did with kesar so i think its very natural behaviour of hers towards them.infact i admire her for still respecting them after soo much insults. yes p is wrong its high time she should focus on her marriage and give k due respect and should not take him for granted explain him her point of views because she should be knowing by now that they both have different opinions on different matters and more importantly they need to talk in which she has to assure k what he meant for her because i think k is still unsure about her feelings for him. with kesar part coming up i am sure things will get worse between them.

Thank You, Telstra...

In the end..Krishna was not angry at anyone..he was weighing the words of his parents ..

Thaali donon haathon se zarror bajthi hai..par yeh bhi dekhni hai kaunsi haath pehle utithi Thaali bajane ke liye ...😊

The only time when Pratigya stated the truth was when she said to both Amma And SS..U have lost any respect I have had for u ...


it definitely will get worse and KP will drift ...but I fervently hope that when they unite again it will be on equal footing and sincerely pray that she willnot be elevated to Sati Savithri..and Krishna becoming a mute Toy again..

Originally posted by: shy2729

The saxena clan does not and has never pretended to represent the educated class. They are the classic example of what we may call middle class mind set. Where education is not for self edification but is an acquirement which gives them ability to earn their livelihood. In case of a girl, education makes her more of desirable bahu.

What they call majboori is more of a moral cowardice.

For them the society is neatly divd. into the good(sax), bad(ugly) and the ugly(Thakurs).

Time and again they have made a mockery of marr.

In what ways is the status of komal better than kesar. Neglected, rebuked and an embarrassment. Adarsh does not live her but merely bears with her existence.

I know its a bit bold of me to say so, but as a wannabe pratigya let me say it.

For P, K is good enough within the confines of the bedroom but in the outside world, he is a liability, better kept in the background.

A woman can also have her share of faults and P is everywoman. Let us finally accept that . K's faults are glaring but p's run deep. the middle class sensibility of her has taught her to camouflage them for appearances' sake.

👏👏👏

Mera my fear is that what you and I and most of the forum views as complacency might be twisted around by the cvs to show K in a bad light and P to be the heroine again. If they do want to show reality then they should show that the best of us make mistakes and we learn from them.
Sorry Tanths when I went back after posting you had just said the same thing. Unintentional mistake!

Originally posted by: yummimommy

Mera my fear is that what you and I and most of the forum views as complacency might be twisted around by the cvs to show K in a bad light and P to be the heroine again. If they do want to show reality then they should show that the best of us make mistakes and we learn from them.
Sorry Tanths when I went back after posting you had just said the same thing. Unintentional mistake!

No, Probs ..Yum Mum ..The more ppl with similar views means that the CV's if ever they visit this forum will take note of our aspiration's and incorporate it..😃

Originally posted by: telstra

you are most welcome to help us 😊 we need support

Do you really need my support ? I don't think so . 😉

Originally posted by: HamiSky

Its not that Pratigya treats K as a piece of wood or furniture, nor sees him a liability in front of others...she very well knows that he is her life n she is more than happy to spent her rest of life with him. But as a wife, she lacks in setting her priorities. She unknowingly ..in the name of supporting right n erasing wrongs..she is erring..definitely erring.

For Krishna..as tanth pointed out....now there is a bahu who is educated...has come from the same (not even similar) middle class sanskari family...so when the other can gel ..he will obviously start thinking about where Pratigya is failing..for him till now she was perfect ..perfect to the core..her different priorities have gone unnoticed or largely ignored by him.

Both are flawed characters.....if Pratigya lacks in being a part of her in-laws household..Krishna himself never insisted her on that...
so the next phase in their relationship would be setting this right..which wen set right takes the husband-wife relationship to a new high level.

Well said Hams....👏

Sometimes I think cvs visit and other tomes I think they lie. During the wedding scene K wad quite obviously disturbed by the insults hurled his way. Maybe the cvs meant it to be obvious or maybe it's my imagination. Previously he seemed oblivious to the insults

Originally posted by: tanthya

Thank U Binny !!

I have never said that Krishna is not responsible for the current situation..In fact ..I had said y'day itself that Krishna fully deserved it.

One of the reasons for the current impasse is the passivity of Krishna in his dealings with Pratigya...his stretching over backwards to accommodate her wishes ...his lack of communication , and another is the inability of Pratigya to grasp the concept of marriage and her ignorance o f the fact that for a relationship to thrive..u need to work at it ..merely planting a seed and hoping that it will germinate into a bountiful plant is being dumb ..That is exactly what pratigya 's attitude is ...

as for Thakurs...Amma did not start out negatively..it was only when she realized that Pratigya was making her Baba's life miserable did she turn into a poisonous snake ....A normal reaction of a Mother,,,and SS was not out for her blood..it was only when she outed the BR secret in front the guests and made a laughing stock of them..A cruel blow to the status conscious SS ...I would not give a clean chit to Pratigya in this ..

Thanths

I never said the Tachurs always hated her I simply stated that if prats is finding it hard to accept them well they never made much of an effort to accept her either there is a subtle difference between not hating another individual and actually trying to incorporate them in to your family !!

prats needs to understand how a relationship grows agreed at the same time though Krishna needs to understand that stating your anger and storming away is not how a relationship works just because he has had his say does not mean the conversation is over it's just as important to listen to your partners POV. This seems to be a serious problem they never try to make the other understand what they are going through instead only want their partner to accept what they are saying !!

As for the Tachurs if they had made even 2 percent of the fake effort they are showering on this little brat it would have made all of the difference all prats needed was a bit of affection and acceptance because when she entered this house she hated Krishna not his family regardless of their indifference she made an effort and they simply ignored it !! and now their hatred and her repeated interference in her families problems has made things even more difficult for both !!!