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FOR PARO : š
The Cv's deserve a round of applause for y'day's episode ..... before u begin to think whether The pathetic track has finally unhinged my mind, let me say that the round of applause is for the fact that they did not allow boredom to creep in, in what was a static episode ..More than 3/4 of the episode, All the characters were in recumbent position and all were eating ...Despite that they managed to hold us for all of those mins by showing us the faces and the emotion's flitting across the faces ....
"Your family and your love must be cultivated like a garden. Time, effort, and imagination must be summoned constantly to keep any relationship flourishing and growing." -Jim Rohn
A episode which was spent on singing paeans of Pratigya's Virtues ...Amma starts the ball rolling and she is partnered by SS and the Aarthi combo ably assist them as the chorus and we get one cacophonous song ....while Krishna listens in on completely enthralled ..
A Good episode where we see Krishna holding back and not jumping blindly to his wife's defense , An episode where Amma spits venom in a reasonable tone..An episode in which Amma did make few valid points ..An episode which served to mirror the difference between two peas from the same pod ..An episode which showed that Pratigya still has a long way to go before she is capable of understanding marriage , relationships, Husband, father and balance [-ing of relationships]
"Family life is too intimate to be preserved by the spirit of justice. It can be sustained by a spirit of love which goes beyond justice."
-Reinhold Niebuhr
Krishna's reaction : Krishna maintained a stolid front throughout the dissection of his wife's temperament , That he was in an unenviable position goes without saying ..for what Amma and SS said had a kernel of truth ..being politely spoken and showing respect without being respectful has been the hallmark of Pratigya's attitude towards them ..That she has not tried to gel with them is again true .. that she has never tried to mingle with them preferring instead to spend her free time at Sax house is a fact ...when such accusation's are thrown out and bandied about ..The normal reaction would be a stout defense of his wife regardless of the shining truth in their words ...but when this defense just glances off their armor and leads into escalation preserving a quiet front is the intelligent thing to do ...which Krishna did ...But before we shake our hands and congratulate Krishna on his intelligence..Lets us also understand that the words of Amma and SS did not vanish into thin air ..It has penetrated ..and his silence is also an tacit acknowledgment of Pratigya's adversarial behavior ..earlier he could sweep it under the banner that she is educated and from a different family than his and that would halt the Thakur's tirade ..but now he does not have that luxury ..cos there is another educated Girl and from the same family who is mingling with them and and is making an attempt to be like them, she is dutifully by her Man's side, slogs in the kitchen and maintains a charade of being dutiful Bahu ...This is noted by Krishna and it is quite natural for any sane person to wonder at the different attitude..
"To put the world right in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must first put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must first cultivate our personal life; we must first set our hearts right." - Confucius
I wonder at the necessity of Pratigya's frequent trip to Maika ..why is it needed..one view is that she went to console her parents ...I ask, cant this consoling be done over the phone ?? Alright, even if we accept the premise that she had to personally go and console them ..could not she have left after finishing her obligation as a bahu and wife ...lets not forget that Pratigya is also a wife and DIL along with being a daughter ...Just what was the urgency ?? the incident happened 4 days back..and her early morning visit will not avert or unwind what already has happened ?? could not she go with her husband in the evening AFTER completing all her duties as a wife and Bahu ...and her return..the less said the better ...She comes and without even a glance at her husband starts on her father, Father's concern, worries ...Does she even a take a second to look at Krishna and wonder why the normally ebullient Krishna who always used to rush to hug her or would start a rapid fire questioning is keeping silent ..Not only silent but has turned his back on her ....No..It does not sink into her that her cheerful , extrovert Hubby is withdrawn and morose...All she can think about is her father ...Pratigya shud remember that she is now a wife and her husband , his self -respect is paramount ..U cant expect that ur hubby will agree to be a second fiddle all ur life..Marriage doesn't work that way.One day the string may snap and tear a gash into their relationship ...
"The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life." -Richard Bach
A telling statement is made by Pratigya in course of conversation with Papa "As long as Krishna is with me ..Those PPL cant do anything to me "...Very illuminating !! ..It implies that She is aware that "THOSE PPL" do not consider her as her own ..and she is sticking there only bec of Krishna..Shud not that be a warning bell to a sanskaari Pratigya who says she values relationships..shud not she be working towards building bridges with "THOSE PPL"..After all she is going to spend her life time there and not in Sax house ... As a educated,conscientious person ..would not u work towards mending the fences ....Second Pratigya said she considers Krishna's Parents as her Apne ...then how did they become "THOSE PPL" in the conversation..doesn't it throw light on the fact that Pratigya has never accepted them with her heart but her acceptance is so, bec of the marriage and society dictums..Pratigya has to get her priorities clear and pretty fast too..cos the House of cards has begun to collapse.
Kyunki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi 2
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