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hussainramso

@hussainramso

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Posted: 14 years ago

#61

Tanths it's not that P can't take care of herself but at times the best of need help. There is a lot of leg work involved in P next undertaking. I consider myself to be very independent. I lived w/ 2 kids for 3 yrs in Toronto while my husband flew in from NY on the wkends . I did it alone but I needed the emotional support.

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corvette

@corvette

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Posted: 14 years ago

#62

Sathya - you should get paid for all your good counsel....

Ka bey? Sabo duniya ko muft ma gyaan dene ka kono theka khol rakha hai???😆

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Sharmila

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Posted: 14 years ago

#63

Even I live alone with my young d'ter as my hubby is a shippie. I am so used to taking all major decisions alone that at times, I behave like P. Too much mental independence can make the other partner feel like an interloper.

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tanthya

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Posted: 14 years ago

#64

Originally posted by: Binny1247
Thanths

Excellent Post 😃

According to me if prats is responsible so is Krishna both have been glossing over their problems with a kiss and a hug this was bound to happen, sooner or later both would be forced to realize the necessity of not simply brushing aside their issues but dealing with them talking things over with each other !! These taunts her frequent visits to her fathers house are mostly a result of their lack of communication !!

I don't mind that Krishna chose to remain silent while his wife was being taunted because his love, and support have always been present and at t his particular moment many of the accusations were correct !! Prats needs to get her priorities straightened out her husband should be the first on her list by now she should be able to understand his mood alterations by looking at his behavior if not she could at least make an effort to understand his stance before she begins to talk about her family the way Krishna makes an effort to understand her when he realizes she is upset !!

If prats needs to acknowledge him and stop giving her family all of the importance Krishna needs to openly state his problems his silence has simply made her actions acceptable !! And it's time he began to think for himself, he should know prats well enough by now to understand she has made an effort to take care of his family what made it difficult was their behavior towards her many question when did they become those people and I would like to know when did the Tachurs ever think of her as their own she was always the professors daughter before their DIL !!! Both K and P need to look past their family members and concentrate on their relationship they can no longer overlook everything it's time they sat down and talked about their problems or things will only get worse !!!

Thank U Binny !!

I have never said that Krishna is not responsible for the current situation..In fact ..I had said y'day itself that Krishna fully deserved it.

One of the reasons for the current impasse is the passivity of Krishna in his dealings with Pratigya...his stretching over backwards to accommodate her wishes ...his lack of communication , and another is the inability of Pratigya to grasp the concept of marriage and her ignorance o f the fact that for a relationship to thrive..u need to work at it ..merely planting a seed and hoping that it will germinate into a bountiful plant is being dumb ..That is exactly what pratigya 's attitude is ...

as for Thakurs...Amma did not start out negatively..it was only when she realized that Pratigya was making her Baba's life miserable did she turn into a poisonous snake ....A normal reaction of a Mother,,,and SS was not out for her blood..it was only when she outed the BR secret in front the guests and made a laughing stock of them..A cruel blow to the status conscious SS ...I would not give a clean chit to Pratigya in this ..

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hussainramso

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Posted: 14 years ago

#65

Originally posted by: shy2729
I don't do it anymore because he's back but yes it was hard to adjust for the first 6 months. I wasn't use to consulting anyone on major issues.

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tanthya

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Posted: 14 years ago

#66

Originally posted by: yummimommy
Tanths it's not that P can't take care of herself but at times the best of need help. There is a lot of leg work involved in P next undertaking. I consider myself to be very independent. I lived w/ 2 kids for 3 yrs in Toronto while my husband flew in from NY on the wkends . I did it alone but I needed the emotional support.

Yum mum,

I did not say that Pratigya needed caring ..it is Krishna who is vulnerable

secondly ...Whenever Pratigya needs support,TLC...She seeks her Papa and not Krishna ...it is almost like Oedipus in reverse ...She treats Krishna like a dim witted busboy...it is this trait that needs to be addressed

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hussainramso

@hussainramso

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Posted: 14 years ago

#67

Originally posted by: tanthya

Yum mum,

I did not say that Pratigya needed caring ..it is Krishna who is vulnerable

secondly ...Whenever Pratigya needs support,TLC...She seeks her Papa and not Krishna ...it is almost like Oedipus in reverse ...She treats Krishna like a dim witted busboy...it is this trait that needs to be addressed

She does have that Electra complex it's rare in
our culture it is usually the other way around.P blond faith in her father and the belief that he is Aristotle is very annoying. I hope that the recent attacks on K by Sucs and P silence are leading somewhere. Cvs should not ignore this later on and leave it unresolved.

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gawker

@gawker

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Posted: 14 years ago

#68

i think as women we eventually learn how important it is for the guys around us to feel respected and needed. i can think of no guy in the real world who would have taken as much *putting down* as krishna. especially when he was such an alpha male to begin with.

this amount of disrespect from a spouse would normally make a guy quite incapable of feeling any love for the woman concerned. pratigya has had a free ride till now. its going to get bumpy unless she bucks up.

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MERARAI

@MERARAI

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Posted: 14 years ago

#69

Originally posted by: tanthya

Thank U Binny !!

I have never said that Krishna is not responsible for the current situation..In fact ..I had said y'day itself that Krishna fully deserved it.

One of the reasons for the current impasse is the passivity of Krishna in his dealings with Pratigya...his stretching over backwards to accommodate her wishes ...his lack of communication , and another is the inability of Pratigya to grasp the concept of marriage and her ignorance o f the fact that for a relationship to thrive..u need to work at it ..merely planting a seed and hoping that it will germinate into a bountiful plant is being dumb ..That is exactly what pratigya 's attitude is ...

as for Thakurs...Amma did not start out negatively..it was only when she realized that Pratigya was making her Baba's life miserable did she turn into a poisonous snake ....A normal reaction of a Mother,,,and SS was not out for her blood..it was only when she outed the BR secret in front the guests and made a laughing stock of them..A cruel blow to the status conscious SS ...I would not give a clean chit to Pratigya in this ..

Tanths

I disagree that Krishna has never communicated his feelings to Prats. He is not one for long baashans so it may appear so. He has on quite a few occasions said that she has time for everyone and everything else but not for him. He asked her to care about just his needs and them as a couple but seems Pratigya is not very inspired and excited about that. Some people thrive on resolving other people's problems and leave their own piling up until it becomes a landfill and they are forced to wake up and realize in a hurry, panicked that the foundation in not on solid ground. Krishna didn't react his usual way yday. He had time to reflect until she returned. He basically told her "Carry on" and left. Instead of reflecting on what she may have done she goes into the kitchen looking for what? She already ate at her maike, so what was she doing in the kitchen? Oh yes! taking on another problem. Either she is dense and took Krishna's words literarily or she shoves his reactions aside as her ego thrives on living with the "savior complex".

Any girl raised in a home with both parents learns a thing or two whiile growing up. Why hasn't Prats learned to read Krishna's body language? Is her preoccupation with maike and being their savior so important that she ignores that he is visibly upset? She seems to be someone who thrives on crisis. It gets her adrenal juices flowing, there is a sense of adventure and lights up her life. I, personally know a few people who thrive on solving other's problems and their families are the casualty.

Prats uses different rule books when playing the game. She switches from football (American) to soccer without warning. It's one set of rules for maike she looks up to and another to the sasural she detests. Doesn't she realize that Krishna (whom she claims to love.......I don't buy that yet) is a product of the very people she has no respect for and detests? Talking down and out to get her sasural for every wrong they have done while giving her maike a free pass doesn't go unnoticed by the very people she lives with.

It's going to take Krishna making it crystal clear and taking a tough stand for her to realize that she has a choice to make.........where does Krishna stand in her list of priorities? On the top or bottom.

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tanthya

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Posted: 14 years ago

#70

Originally posted by: yummimommy
She does have that Electra complex it's rare in
our culture it is usually the other way around.P blond faith in her father and the belief that he is Aristotle is very annoying. I hope that the recent attacks on K by Sucs and P silence are leading somewhere. Cvs should not ignore this later on and leave it unresolved.

Electra killed her mother for murdering her father ...but here it is a need for approval, an almost pitiful urge to be petted and praised by her Papa ...Happens with only child sometimes which gradually tapers off..but here it si sustaining ..

I want Krishna to maintain his sober and quiet demeanor and not regress back into the slave mode..methinks this wish will be granted 😊

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