My Right But Not My Responsibility

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Posted: 14 years ago
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We all have had a very busy weekend for most of us who are glued onto Pratigya as Pearl wanted it😃. The discussions on the forum has made me think and just wanted to know your point of views.

Pratigya's has been married to Krishna for quite some time now. All her actions have hinted that she should get unconditional support from Krishna because she is his wife and in most cases he does give it. At times he does express his concerns and frustrations which are mostly ignored by her as the drive to make things correct is stronger. Now my question is why hasn't she taken the responsibility to make him more responsible. She tries to get him to fight for the cause of justice without making him realise he needs to start taking responsibility for himself and his wife. We first become responsible towards ourself, then our loved ones and then the society. Pratigya had the previlage to get an opportunity but Krishna was denied it by his very own parents
The precap again re-iterates this trait of hers. She points out to Baba how he can he be fed in the family without lifting a single finger whereas Kesar has to do house chores to get food on her plate. As much as a I agree with the logic and the fact that Baba needs a wake call but i still see it as attack rather than making him aware of his shortcomings. What was her intention? Was it to bring about a constructive change in her husband or to unleash her anger and frustation. Did she say those words to tell because it hurts her everytime he gets humiliated left right and centre by his own family.
Is she ignorant of the fact that Baba is going thorugh a lot of insecurities because of his short comings if yes then it contradicts her own action when she complied with agreeing to reassure him with love. Why is that when Baba tries to divert the topic of unemployment it is allowed by his own biwi enter into a safer zone. When will Pratigya stop thinking about just herself and think of them two as a couple. People say Baba is selfish as he cldn't see Kesar's pain isn't Pratigya selfish when all she sees her need to be right and ignore all the ridule Baba faces because of her actions.
Mera pointed out in one of her post whenever Krishna gets humiliated she just stands there watches it as an spectator. If she can vioce out her opinion for Kesar why can't speak and tell her in laws: You guys have made him like this. It is your fault you have never given any boundaries to him. You have stopped him from being responsible and today u have the audacity to pick on him.
Why is that an illiterate husband can understand and see his wife is going through a hell in that house because he decied to marry her why can't an educated wife comprehend that her actions have led to his isolations and alienation from his own family. When will Pratigya take the responsiblity as a wife and not just demand her rights as a wife😕😲
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Do you really think Krishna is THIS pathetic? 😲😲 That he needs his hand held inside his own family, defended to his own mother, father and brother? That he needs his wife to point him in every direction, that he has no thoughts of his own, no conscience, no say?

He is her husband, an equal - not in every way, but at least her equal in strength and sheer force of personality. He is different but he is worthy of her and will be even more worthy of her as the show goes on.

Pratigya is already accused of not pandering to his ego. In spite of those accusations, many of us are able to see that she is very kind to him, careful not to hurt him, never presses a point when she sees he is not ready, makes allowances for his male pride. How can you expect her to truly insult him and his pride by directing his every move as if he had been a child of four?

I do hope you were joking 😕

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Posted: 14 years ago
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Originally posted by: soapbubble

Do you really think Krishna is THIS pathetic? 😲😲 That he needs his hand held inside his own family, defended to his own mother, father and brother? That he needs his wife to point him in every direction, that he has no thoughts of his own, no conscience, no say?

He is her husband, an equal - not in every way, but at least her equal in strength and sheer force of personality. He is different but he is worthy of her and will be even more worthy of her as the show goes on.

Pratigya is already accused of not pandering to his ego. In spite of those accusations, many of us are able to see that she is very kind to him, careful not to hurt him, never presses a point when she sees he is not ready, makes allowances for his male pride. How can you expect her to truly insult him and his pride by directing his every move as if he had been a child of four?

I do hope you were joking 😕

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Supporting your partner doesn't make the person recieving it pathetic. If that is the case then i wonder what u can say about Pratigya? Now why can a statement coming up she never asked for it then why does she gets frustrated when she doesn't get it. Supporting your partner in private or public is a jesture to express your love according to me. It surely doesn't mean my partner can't fight for himself so i will do the job.
A spouse works in harmony to run the marriage smoothly. If she thinks he needs to change his approach towards things she should also think that he also needs an wholistic improvement which means he needs to be guided in that direction.
A male ego which is hindering his groW*H is of no use. She is ready to humiliate him by cleaning her dirty laundry in the open and disclose her bedroom secrets in da open but would not telling him of his short comings privately
BTW i by mistake i pressed the like button for your post😃

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