Komal was right - Page 7

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

Firstly once again fantastic post Kools

So ridiculous really , the expectation to have an unconsummated relation for LIFE . That was what she , Pratigya had EXPECTEd .

Okay i don't understand why is it that expecting consummation of ones marriage is such a wrong thing. I have read posts where every time Krishna talks abt consummation of marriage is condemned. Okay he was wrong to force himself on her which was an outcome of his frustration. After that he has made efforts to change and started acting like a wuss which was much appreciated by Prats fan then the character herself😆. He agreed with the friendship deal but since then where has their relation progressed. She is still uncomfortable when he talks abt their marriage, she still gets frigid when he even attempts to hold her hand or cuddle her. I just find it difficult to comprehend how the physical aspect of a marriage can be so easily ignored by Pratigya?
. It may come as big shocker to some idealistic mind s but Marraige is the biggest business deal of life ............in which give and take is very necessary to make it succesful . It cannot be taketake take all the time .

What is Pratigya contributing to this deal ? Zilch . No income coz she is not working , no physical or emotional support , no kids , NOTHING . Laying out clothes in morning , making bed theek thak and going to kitchen to cook one item perhaps ..the rest of it is done by Kesar Amma and Piyasiya..........bas this is all she does .Sometimes not even that much , she goes in morning to sort out maayka problems and returns late at night to ask hubby if NOW he wants Bhujia 😆

Krishna is not working . But his Dad's wealth is at his command so on that basis he is keeping her in that aalishan haveli , and it seems as if her basic needs r being fulfilled with SS's money ..........the saris and costly jewllery .etc He gave her support in all the pangas she took with his family from day one . Right upto this point when her Dad is obstinately creating a ruckus and unecessary tamasha. In effect what Krishna is doing is biting the hand that feeds him ..........his Dads hand , coz he is going against his dad in his bid to support his wife in her so called quest for justice .

Thats the way it works in REAL life . If women enter marraiges thinking We can have these kind of filmy marraiges where we can live unconsummated , childless lives for years , talk of Dosti , Sachchai etc and fight on regular basis with in laws especially if they r gonna live in a joint family , their marraiges will land in a divorce court .

She wants Dosti , She wants no touching , she wants support in her fight for so called justice , she wants this and that . Everything she wants except a real marraige . He has wanted a proper marraige since day one but never got it .

Take, Take Take and not give doesn't work in any relation we will exclude blood relations sometimes even they peril in such situations. Pratigya talks of friendship even that is based on a give-take relation. Every relation satisfies certain aspect be it physical, emotional, financial of the parties involved then only it survives else it slowly dies.One has to make contribution in one way or the other way.I mentioned it in Meraria's post in their relation its all abt what Prats want not what their relation wants.

I dont think she is cut out even for a nuclear family , forget living in a joint family .I think she is cut out for DIVORCE.

Nuclear family has its own challenges which demands involvement at different levels. I think she is cut out for an ideal daughter and she is doing a fantastic job of that. Kudos to her for that.

KC ...........😃

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

So ridiculous really , the expectation to have an unconsummated relation for LIFE . That was what she , Pratigya had EXPECTEd . . It may come as big shocker to some idealistic mind s but Marraige is the biggest business deal of life ............in which give and take is very necessary to make it succesful . It cannot be taketake take all the time .

Thats the way it works in REAL life . If women enter marraiges thinking We can have these kind of filmy marraiges where we can live unconsummated , childless lives for years , talk of Dosti , Sachchai etc and fight on regular basis with in laws especially if they r gonna live in a joint family , their marraiges will land in a divorce court .

She wants Dosti , She wants no touching , she wants support in her fight for so called justice , she wants this and that . Everything she wants except a real marraige . He has wanted a proper marraige since day one but never got it .

I dont think she is cut out even for a nuclear family , forget living in a joint family .I think she is cut out for DIVORCE.

Originally posted by: a_uma

You are absolutely correct Kool, marriage is not some kind of game - I win or you win -

One should not loose sight of the following facts :

1. It's true that Krishna harrassed prats and her family in order to MARRY her, however many serious incidents such as Nitin's beating, her kidnapping etc were caused by Angad, not Krishna....

2. It was Prats mistake, not Krishna's, that she thought HE was responsible for her kidnapping and agreed to marry him...

3. Krishna married for LOVE, Prats married for HATE...

4. Consummation in marriage is not some favour the wife bestows on the husband.... it is a normal requirement of marriage..... non-consummation is one of the important grounds for divorce in most countries...

5. Several posts in this forum have commented that Prats never asked Krishna to do anything for her, she never wanted to marry him, etc. etc, however the truth is she DID marry him....this sksd ladki told SS "humey ye rishta manjoor hai, shaadi ka tareek pakka karvadeegeeye". What rishta did she think she was agreeing to anyway? Where was here fight for sachchayi then? She looks more like a con-artist in this situation, misleading everyone with her lies, secrets even before marriage.

6. As a husband he DID DO many things for her WITHOUT HER ASKING, which many husbands don't do in real life ... such as going against his parents' wishes....

7. No one can deny that Prats is concerned about her maika than her sasural...

8. Prats has not yet disclosed the truth regarding Angad kidnapping her... so Krishna has no idea till date WHY she is so against him and his touch....

9. From Krishna's POV, he has given her enough time to adjust to married life and his impatience and forceful behaviour in friday's episode is quite understandable.....

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

KC ...........😃

So wonderful to read ur post ! . U know what suprises me ? That whenever Krishna talks of consummation , he is regarded as a rapist 😆 It seems the ideal thing for a husband to do is......... . Look at his wife's face tukur tukur silently as she paces in the bedroom or sits upright with light on , thinking of her maayka's endless problems . It seems its BUT NATURAL for a husband to NOT be puzzled , irritated , angry at constant rejection from day one of marraige

He shud NEVER think of physical intimacy its TABOO in a marraige , the moment he thinks that way , he is some kinda weirdo

But not thinking of physical intimacy for LIFE is it seems is NOT being a weirdo

Shrinking from a mere hug from a husband and running with a harassed face although the poor dear has till now abided by all ur rules is not weird

Not wanting husband to even LOOK at u or share a chaddar with u is NOt weird

What exacty was the marraige Pratigya had in mind is a deep dark mystery , perhaps never to be found in the annals of any married life on this planet

Give and take is BAD . Take Take Take [ from womans side only ok] is GOOD . 😆

Yesterday when he put condition so many were incensed .How dare he put condition this and that .........it seems the right to put aNY kind of condition is only HER monopoly [ just see the number of conditions she has laid till now . Unspoken , firm WEIRD rules which he MUST abide by .]

It seems good Prtigya pushed him away , a THIRD rape was stopped once more valiantly by her ..😆 OMG . Really ? Just one push by a woman stops RAPE ? If the Rapist fully intends to do it , that is ?

The truth is Krishna was only trying to send her a message ...........That don't take me and our marraige for granted , bas . If he was that kind of a man he wud have destroyed her long back . Instead he loved her so much , so much , that he allowed her to emasculate himself instead . That was what he was referring to when he said Saand SE Bakri bana diya. But Na he shud NEVER speak about hIS feelings , it only has to be HER way , even in the conversation .

Originally posted by: MERARAI

He is shown in an SBS clip telling Aman to get back on his saas's case and not waste his time sitting outside drinking chai. Typical Krishna, good at getting people to do his bidding.

Originally posted by: Dreamygal301

Absolutely true. Krishna was never asked to sit down let alone chai, naasta and anything else !!....She'll probably mention this to her parents, another thing they will ram down Krish's throat!!...

Originally posted by: MERARAI

I remember an instance when the Prof. had the audacity to lecture to Takur SS about his parmpara and sanskaar and how they treated any guest who came to their home with izzat and offered them food and he was proud of it. Audacious, I say, bec' he was saying it to the very person he refused to even ask to sit in his home when he came with the first sagun that Krishna had to defend his sasurji and ask his bauji to have a seat. Audacious, bec' he never offered a glass of water to SS when he came with the second sagun either that SS made a sarcastic comment about asking guests to bring their own tiffin to the wedding. The entire Sax family were rooted to the floor.

The only time Prats looked hurt was when Prof. got upset the following morning that Krishna had come to visit. his wife for a few minutes. She had to be taken to the terrace where she served him some food. The same man was tripping over his feet trying to please Jagmohan bec' they were ready to accept Prats as their bahu.