Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
I agree . . I have been thinking about this for a long time and I don't approve of Krishnas behaviour with his parents a bit . .
I am not talking about SS and Amma as villains or individuals here .I am merely talking about them as parents. As Parents they both love Krishna a lot .
They kept aside their pride , their wishes ad accepted the girl he chose for their bahu . For his sake they went to that house only to be met with sour faces and disrespect . Do you call it respect when Amma on the first day talks rudely to Pratigya and doesn't show her an ounce of respect. Pratigya hadn't even opened her mouth at this point and already Amma had the hate on for Prats.
Then the girl came , and inspite of spending lavishly for a grand wedding and honeymoon , they find that the girl is not giving an iota of happiness to their son . She has not even consummated the marraige with him . They don't find this out at all....this was way later. In the beginning they do think that Krishna is happy...and its not Amma's business if Krishna and Prata consummated their marriage on the first night or not. Amma was butting her nose into something that wasn't her problem. Krishna never told anyone whether he was happy or not for that very reason, he didn't want anyone else putting their nose into his relationship. And most families would ask their son, why isn't your wife happy....i thought she loves you??? But no.....they don't care about Pratigya the new DIL who has moved into their family, they only care about their son....SO SELFISH.....
SS did not tell her GO . She opted for it . Very arrogantly , losing her temper , uncaring about the fact that she was washing dirty linen in public , she declared she will leave the house . Maybe you are not married or maybe you are, but seriously if your husband were to hit you I think you'd probably react somewhat similar to Pratigya..(i personally would knee him in the groin....but that's just me....😡) and why wouldn't you leave your husband's house.....at that point in time it had nothing to do with the inlaws, only between husband and wife and instead of letting them deal with it, SS had to but his nose into the situation.......Elders in the family need to descalate a situation not escalate it....
SS is a crude Man .He too lost his temper and took her by the hand and took her to the door . Go , he said . Is he so wrong from a sasur's POV ? Yes he's wrong......he has no right to kick his son's wife out of his house.....he shouldn't have reacted with his temper, but instead of let this settle and thing figured out the situation.
After that Krishna gave his parents havoc . U guys did this U guys did that .Ur just a baap , for Pratigya I will fight the world , this and that .Ideally , ss shud have told him to get out and stay out . Still SS controls his temper while Amma watches on , stunned at the way son dances for his newly wedded wife who gives him nothing except hate . How will she like Pratigya as a mother in law ? Come on...amma hasnt' liked Prats from day 1 so none of this made any difference to her...and frankly I'm proud of Krishna for at least sticking by Prats in front of his family. He's the only support she has where as his parents need to learn that their dear little son is no longer little and can look out for himself and his FIRST AND UTMOST responsibility is his WIFE. AFter marriage a son is no longer first a son...he's first a husband.
In Laws like their bahu mainly coz she is giving their offspring , son , happiness ....not just for butler duties. wow.....what about him giving her happiness. People are so selfish that if they can't even see when their son does wrong...then too bad for them.
Krishna backanswers his parents in front of Pratigya all the time. He does not give them a shred of respect , or value .Clearly he tells them I value my wife above u guys .Naturally they are gonna resent Pratigya , such statements of Krishna are tactless and will not endear Pratigya to them. Whether Krishna defends Pratigya or doesn't defend her, they have hated her from the beginning because she's from a different caste and they couldn't persuade him to not marry her. It wasn't her fault and thye just cant' figure this out. Aren't our Elders supposed to be a bit more worldly educated....CLEARLY not in this case.
Whatever the reasons SS has phoned twice and made the move . Seeing this Krishna feels that he has brought SS down to his heels and gives them attiude saying But wait I gotta consult my wife first . what if Prats doesn't want to go back....he's absolutely right that it's THEIR decision, not hers alone or his alone...what's wrong with that.
Instead of doing this why doesnt he set up his own nuclear family ? It is not good to be so arrogant with parents , they give us birth and life much before our spouses come in our life . If Krishna's goal is pleasing Pratigya , he should stay with her and accomplish his goal .Constantly making his parents bend in front of her is shameful . They desrve some respect , uneducated , crude though they may be ....the parental relation is entitled to respect .I remember when Krishna said that Pratigya will do everything you tell her to do, she'll uphold every task in this house, but she will NOT change her name. That's not disrespectful. And Pratigya was doing this.....she didn't change her name but she was fulfilling everythign else that a daughter in law should. He just wasn't following SS advise for how to treat his wife and that's what was bothering SS and Amma. Do you think that Krishna should have listened to his parents when they said treat her like your shoe.....?????
If his wife is educated and too proud to adjust , fine , he shud move out .What he shud NOt do is gloat that his parents have now come down from their high horse in front of his wife .His wife NEVER got off her high horse and if he feels this is her victory , he is wrong .,All she succeeded was in sowing more hate in her in laws mind in the long run . Let me correct you here...Pratigya was not too proud to adjust, she was adjusting. She was doing every chore that Amma asked of her, (except serving meat, and even then she did that when Amma made an issue of it). His wife was never on a HIGH HORSE as you put it.....she never talked back to Amma whenever she was spoken to rudely, for the most part she kept her mouth shut even when Shakti and SS would stay stupid sexist stuff.....And she respected Krishna infront of the family. She did all the house work and she saved their future grandchild from Shakti's evil intentions.. She's always looked out for the best interests of the household they are just too stupid to see it. They are also to stupid to realize that their son is hopelessly in love and will do anything for her and its not her asking this of him, he's just doing it.....(although I beg to differ with this because I don't think he'll do anything for her....but that's their perception at least)
He is youngest and favorite so SS and Amma havee indulged his every whim . He does not even realise how much he takes them for granted or how much he disrespects them in his craze for his ladylove . They disrespect his love every chance they get...and even Krishna knows it. He knows that Prats is not making him do anything, he's doing it out of his own love for her....they blame everything on Prats and he knows that she isn't too blame for any of it....
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