Oh I agree with all the posts that Krishna has NOT changed after the marraige , He was like this even before the marraige ............it is normal for him . What I am saying is 'being secure in the knowledge that his parents love him come what may ' is sort of taking them for granted . And someone needs to give this to Krishna straight . Amma tries , but unfortunately SS drowns her voice each time by butting in and dismissing off her hurt emotions as a mother by labelling it as 'Parpanch' or petty womanly politics .
I am not saying Amma is a very good woman .Neither am I saying the way she talks to Pratigya is good . What I am saying is she notices that the bahu her favorite son brought is not giving any personal happiness to her son and yet her son defends her by talking back to his family ALL THE TIME in front of the bahu herself . How the hell is she supposed to feel as a woman or mother ? Forget Amma , tomorrow if our children grow up and defend their spouses and backanswer us in FRONT of them , we will take it as the ultimate insult . Even in a normal family this will create resentment for the new bahu , the common reaction will be She is acting proud with us coz he disrespected us in front of her , if he doesnt give us value why will she ?
All I am saying is that if they go on resenting Pratigya more and more , It is Krishna's fault .....his tactless behaviour ensures it that they resent her more . Each time he has made THEM bend before her and no one likes that . It never ends .Yes SS phoned for secret selfish purposes ......they have no way of knowing that .From their POV he phoned twice .He told he is sending car .What is the answer ? Must consult my wife first . Then perhaps the suggestion u go and bring her back , she and her family r still sticking to it . When SS goes , some smarty answer from Wife even there ......perhaps An apology is demanded now from the old man .What Im saying is .is this good ? In the zest for showing a so called 'love story' and the unconditional support of a husband for his wife .............they are devaluing the parental bond ............the natural pride a son feels in his father , the blood bond . Telling his wife and her parents that Listen , My dad is a proud man and I really dont think , making him bend so much reflects good on your sanskaars or my own too . He is sending car , he has even dropped the bahu shud apologize condition , Enough . Now teach your daughter to come down four steps too .
The respect here shud be given to the grey hairs . They showed every sanskaar in this serial except the sanskaar that apologizing to elders even if they r wrong sometimes does not make a person amall or weak . It often happens that elders r very mulish , very wrong even . What one has to see is the larger perspective ....that we owe our life to them . I would respect Krishna more if he at least once tells Pratigya that My Bauji is crude , uneducated and may not be to ur liking but he is my Bauji .Bas , plain and simple.......everything comes in that sentence . He does not have to listen to the wrong things SS tells him to do ....infact , Krishna has his own judgement of things . All Im saying is We wud like to see a display of respect , although in a rustic , crude way for his own parents once in a while . He gives enough of it to Sasurji , Saali Saheba , Wifey although they repeatedly insult him . . MCP SS is . Yes .But he loves Krishna deeply . That love needs cognizance just as his chauvinism needs annihilation [ later by Pratigya .] I dont somehow see that love getting that cognizance .U dont just use ur Dad for extracting money all the time .Krishna fixed the marraige of his sister WITHOUT the old man's consultation partly for HIS purposes . Who had greater right over deciding Komals future .Krishna or SS ? Each time SS has bent before Krishna due to his Pratigya craze .Somewhere there shud be a line is all I am saying .
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