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Posted: 15 years ago
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arre shumi beta
she is slow processor🤣
maybe when she will have 2 kids she will realize her mayaka isnt her home but her sasural🤣
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: steffroc

arre shumi beta

she is slow processor🤣
maybe when she will have 2 kids she will realize her mayaka isnt her home but her sasural🤣

good one 😉🤣🤣🤣
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: tanthya



@AH ;

Let us consider that a woman lives for 75 years ......and in that 75 years ,,she lives with her parent's for 25 years and where does she spend the rest of her 50 years and with whom ??

which house will lay more claim on her loyalty and affection ,,,the house where she spent her childhood or the house where she is going spend her old age ,watched her children grow and all .....where many many important events occurred ,milestones reached ??


I just hate the gender social norms that limit me from doing anything I want to on my own.😡😡
When will it change??????? If ever!!!!! 😭
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: AlmostHonest



Why can't both houses be her own? Why does maika have to become paraya??! 😕 Just coz she got married she can't call her dad's place her own? huh?! 😕 Why can't she be equally loyal towards both houses ... I really dislike this thing that we have in our Indian culture.. beti paraya dhan 🤢 How come beta gets to keep his own house but beti becomes parayi.. it sucks!

I don't get it either and I equally detest this notion. 🤢🤢 Why can't it be both???? Plus, the whole name change thing.......that's another BS!!!! All these rules are made for oppression!!!
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: rachna789

I don't get it either and I equally detest this notion. 🤢🤢 Why can't it be both???? Plus, the whole name change thing.......that's another BS!!!! All these rules are made for oppression!!!

I agree with you. Why does a girl have to stop being loyal to her parent after marriage. If her parents are sick why can't she go take care of them. It is my mother who fed me as a child. She is the one that held me when I was sad. So why should I forget her just because I a married. Even now when I am worried about something it is my mothers voice that reassures me that I can handle it. So why should I not think that her home will always be a haven for me.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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@nisha2010 ,...i am sorry dear...i was in hurry i did not even had time to read your post twice.

Originally posted by: nisha2010

to brand something wrong as culture is not right

well...i respect your POV.for most of the born and brought up indians culture is in their blood atleast for me😊.leave alone the exceptions. in my case i live in canada, even though i like western dress i love to were saree.pizza is my favourite but if you keep cheese pizza and chicken biryani side by side obviously i will grab chicken biryani😛. as a true indian i will never degrade my county cultures as wrong.if you analysis them in detail all the cultures have reason and strong significance behind it.these cultures were followed by hindu GOD and GODDESS.even though i am a muslim i respect other religion and their culture😃

Originally posted by: nisha2010


earlier girls were never educated in india coz anyway they were to go to sasural by age of 15 -16 by 20 -25 years their family is complete and this is their life............first she lives in shadow of her father,he takes decisions for her ,maybe her brother...true.cuz parents know their child's need likes and dis likes.for sure parents are her well wishers.they want to give the best to their child and parents are more experienced than me.so what is wrong if we go with their decisions.why should i want to take life time big decisions on my own .some times i may be wrong .

then lifetime her husband......this case depends up on how you reciprocate your husband.

so she is never educated to take her own decisions........anyone who breaks away from this rule r condemned...not absolutely like that.now a days before taking big decisions most of the parents are consulting with their children😃

Edited by shumi. - 15 years ago
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: tanthya



It only proves that Pratigya has still not come to terms with reality ...is refusing to accept the truth ... even when Aarushi Asks pratigya :"Didi ,if SS comes to take you back , will you go ?" .

She will reply " even<font color="#0033ff"> my heart is not willing to go</font> there ,but Papa has said so ,<font color="#ff0000">ANd I have to go </font>" not I want/will go !! ...what does this mean ,it means she never treated the thakur's villa as her home .....

when you subconsciously have not accepted that fact ,then one does tend to betray it unconsciously ..who knows ,Amma has picked up this tiny points and realizes that Pratigya dos not consider herself as the bahu of the house and quite predictably dislikes her


Pratigya lies ...only tragic part is she herself believes this very lie and is unaware of the false note of her statements ...



Prats is a girl with a lot of pride in her sanskaar. Nainaji has on several occasions reminded her that a girl's home once marriage is her sasural. Yet it seems like Prats is once again showing her selective sanskaar along with her selective lies, memory and treatment of Krishna.

Sometimes it seems Krishna knows her better than she knows herself. He is not afraid to tell her to her face what he thinks of her. He is honest about who he is warts and all so he is able to see it when others around him are up to bogus stuff. He even tells SS he is gajab notanki to his face. When will Prats face the truth about her true nature and live with it.
Edited by MERARAI - 15 years ago
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Posted: 15 years ago
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@shumi.............i respect your pov............ even i respect my culture, my parents................but my education has taught me analysis................not to accept anything wrong.................many things in name of culture r misused............life has been good to us but its not that garden garden for everybody........ 😃
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: rachna789

I don't get it either and I equally detest this notion. 🤢🤢 Why can't it be both???? Plus, the whole name change thing.......that's another BS!!!! All these rules are made for oppression!!!



I know its so *beeeeeeeeep*unfair!!! Why should a girl change her surname and why should she stop considering her dad's house her own? I always thought such things no longer exist but guess not ... 😲 Thankfully my parents are supercool ppl and would never dare call me paraya dhan 😆 My mom kept her maiden name and I am gonna do the same ... I like my surname better than my bf's lol I am not gona change it !! U don't change urs either we'll show them 😉

Edited by AlmostHonest - 15 years ago
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Posted: 15 years ago
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abay this larki is confused about her feelings.....well sometimes she has no feelings at all....and most of the time she has this one look on her face

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