CAn't tolerate Pratigya Now.. - Page 8

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

<font color="#660000">The apology shud be for saying I will show u what a patni can do by leaving the house ............FIRST when all elders were present .

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She is NOT living in a Western culture ........she is living in a rural , small town culture . She was abominably rude on the havan day , there r no two ways about it . She threatened to leave the house FIRST . Even her parents started placating her .Her Dad then did a flip flop and started blasting Sajjan Singh for losing his temper and catching her hand to take her out of the house and tell her OK FINE GO. But even after going back not once did he question her daughter about not consummating her marraige so revengefully nor about being the FIRST to speak about leaving the house .

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Husband wife spats hapen all the time and this was a volatile marraige . She pretended as if LYING was insufferable to her although she had lied like an accomplished liar and even wore the pink sari , saying she was going out to meet Nitin prior to this marraige . Then came the second lie ..........I dont lie in front of GOD Im a God fearing person . WRONG . Her matrimonial vows in front of holy fire mean nothing to her , we all know what respect she gives them .

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The truth was she wanted to make an issue by proving herself right and Krishna wrong and walk out of the marraige with her head held high . That she did and we see that no amount of apology on Krishnas part can appease her .......the more he tries to talk things out the more she hardens into NOT GOING .

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The truth is she Does NOT want a solution to her marital problem .She wants to stay at her Daddys place , be Daddys litle gal , pamper that spoilt Arushi and tadpofy Krishna. Nainaji will oil her hair and she will go to and fro on Civil Lines , eating ice creams golgappas , fudges with Arushi .

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For that one slap Krishna apologised and went so many times to take her back .But it seems she is not interested in having a marraige at all . There is no explanation about being this impractical enough not to understand that I have To live my LIFE there at my sasural , so Its not good for me to make so many enemies by being egoistic at this stage . Its simply not worth it .
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Sajjan Singh has bent many times before her family although they have really insulted him very badly with their intellectual snobbery for the sake of his son .But For the sake of her husband and her marraige she has not bent an inch ..........and instead argued like a hussy with elders .

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This is not a uestion of being educated or even of being a woman . Krishna is illiterate but he asked two important things

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<div>Does one become small if he apologizes in front of elders sometimes just to humor them ?They r elders after all

In this whole issue of principles this and that no one is paying attention to a human beings FEELINGS of happiness and misery [ meaning him]

And He is perfectly right . Even today he said ......Dont do dramas , just say sorry and come inside with me , I will manage my family after that .She has full support of husband and this much compromise any human being does in life .....at all levels we do compromises . It is not question of woman , man , educated , illiterate at all . It is simply a matter of being understanding and realising that bickering gets u nothing , peace gets u everything .

She is being stubborn on purpose is the real truth .And So although I am a woman I cannot feel anything for her at all .

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Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

The apology shud be for saying I will show u what a patni can do by leaving the house ............FIRST when all elders were present . . She is NOT living in a Western culture ........she is living in a rural , small town culture . She was abominably rude on the havan day , there r no two ways about it . She threatened to leave the house FIRST . Even her parents started placating her .Her Dad then did a flip flop and started blasting Sajjan Singh for losing his temper and catching her hand to take her out of the house and tell her OK FINE GO. But even after going back not once did he question her daughter about not consummating her marraige so revengefully nor about being the FIRST to speak about leaving the house . . Husband wife spats hapen all the time and this was a volatile marraige . She pretended as if LYING was insufferable to her although she had lied like an accomplished liar and even wore the pink sari , saying she was going out to meet Nitin prior to this marraige . Then came the second lie ..........I dont lie in front of GOD Im a God fearing person . WRONG . Her matrimonial vows in front of holy fire mean nothing to her , we all know what respect she gives them . . The truth was she wanted to make an issue by proving herself right and Krishna wrong and walk out of the marraige with her head held high . That she did and we see that no amount of apology on Krishnas part can appease her .......the more he tries to talk things out the more she hardens into NOT GOING . . The truth is she Does NOT want a solution to her marital problem .She wants to stay at her Daddys place , be Daddys litle gal , pamper that spoilt Arushi and tadpofy Krishna. Nainaji will oil her hair and she will go to and fro on Civil Lines , eating ice creams golgappas , fudges with Arushi . . For that one slap Krishna apologised and went so many times to take her back .But it seems she is not interested in having a marraige at all . There is no explanation about being this impractical enough not to understand that I have To live my LIFE there at my sasural , so Its not good for me to make so many enemies by being egoistic at this stage . Its simply not worth it . . Sajjan Singh has bent many times before her family although they have really insulted him very badly with their intellectual snobbery for the sake of his son .But For the sake of her husband and her marraige she has not bent an inch ..........and instead argued like a hussy with elders . . This is not a uestion of being educated or even of being a woman . Krishna is illiterate but he asked two important things .

Does one become small if he apologizes in front of elders sometimes just to humor them ?They r elders after all

In this whole issue of principles this and that no one is paying attention to a human beings FEELINGS of happiness and misery [ meaning him]

And He is perfectly right . Even today he said ......Dont do dramas , just say sorry and come inside with me , I will manage my family after that .She has full support of husband and this much compromise any human being does in life .....at all levels we do compromises . It is not question of woman , man , educated , illiterate at all . It is simply a matter of being understanding and realising that bickering gets u nothing , peace gets u everything .

She is being stubborn on purpose is the real truth .And So although I am a woman I cannot feel anything for her at all .

Originally posted by: CanadianAddict

yes she has. and as i said in that thread, she was also stepping on the civil rights lines. but i am also stating that, when he got slapped- he had broken many 'civil' rights himself. he trespassed on property, ruined a private ceremony by basically disrupting the whole place and then showing his anger, and although she slapped him and she too, by doing that had stepped on his civil rights, he did much to her before that. when someone comes on ur property, or rented property, force can be used to kick them out or make a point, which she did with Krishna. he on the other hand just slapped her because she chose to tell the truth, and yes even if it was about their intimate life, still doesn't contradict any civil right....

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

I agree with lovanika's views..........each of them . Even the latest that one does not say sorry only when one is wrong .

Sorry is said for hurting feelings too . Sorry is also said to soothe ruffled feathers. So many times in mother son spats , hubby wife spats we see OK sORRY BAS . It is not necessary that one is necessarily at fault [ btw she WAS at fault for saying Im leaving the house and carrying it too far almost immediately].

The way she is carrying on , with that gigantic chip on her shoulder , she wud not have got along in ANY house after marraige . For every spat if she was going to leave house , demand in laws shud fetch her and refuse any amount of apologies from husbband her marraige wud have resulted in divorce in that illahabadi society shown and this is a fact

And I hope creatives read us as this show tries to show realism and so they shud show these reality checks to Pratigya too

Originally posted by: MERARAI

Some of Pratigya's behavior needs a reality check. If the show intends to portray reality then it should also show the young women of today that their behavior has consequences. Before acting out it's more important to think about the long term consequences and their ripple effects among the family. Prats's choices and ziddi are not always the right way to do. Sure it's a drama and it's manipulated. But showing that her behavior is not always the right way to go will make the drama real.

Sometimes the girl who takes the pratigyas and sets out to teach the men a few lessons in life must along learn a few lessons of her own. Now that's reality.