DOTW -''will u marry her/him if u found out that''

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Ron

@ronshaan

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Posted: 11 years ago

hi all...

in this topic we will discuss- will u marry him / her if u find out that...
for the 1st option is - She/ he can not have kids

few days ago me and shweta were discussing that if such happens then shweta said to me she wont leave her going to be husband just because he can not have kids i was happy to hear that
I m watching YEH HAY MUHABBATIEN .. a lady name - ishita had one accident in her childhood hence she is not able to have kids, she did not know that till the day she faced issue / pain in her stomach and she and her going to be husband found out she can not have any baby / kids
that lover left her / broke the engagement and said he had choice so he married other lady and that woman can have kids.
after that her mother tried to find a groom for her but who ever came refused to her after knowing she can not have kids (even liking her for her beauty / personality ext ext...)

what's your take in this ???

what would u do ???

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b4uvarun

@b4uvarun

Voyager

Posted: 11 years ago

Ha ronit good topic :)
But i already gave u answer,
But i think v can marry when v love him or her :)
its all depend on love :)

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Ron

@ronshaan

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Posted: 11 years ago

yeah u have replied me on shaanse ... copy paste it here too.. to share with other friends on psh forum !1

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Ron

@ronshaan

Stunner

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Posted: 11 years ago

people might say oh i m with u no matter what i love u ext ext but when the real time comes .. they claim they need kids and leave u n go... that's the reality

in the show - YEH HAY MUHABBATIEN - she did not know about her no being mother .. that was new to her when she was going to engage some one - her boyfriend of 15 yrs ... he left her because he wanted kids and she let him go.. yes it hurt her allot but still she could not stop him !!!!!!!!

Well some time it happens that a man can not have kids.. and his wife leaves him for that fact... Pyarr hay lakin logo ko bache b chahiye !!

years ago i watched one show which had a story
a man who had wife... had only daughters from her... He blamed her / his family blamed her ... misbehaved with her / divorced her and kicked her out of his house... sent her back to her mother's home without those girls she had... and one day he re married some one.. sadly his 2nd wife gave him a baby girl too...
his 1st wife re married too.. to other man and she had a baby boy
one day that man saw his 1st wife and was surprised to see her with baby boy .. he realized that its not her who had the issue .. it was HIM !!!

aLSO

in the past ... if a couple do not have kids .. his family used to blame the wife (long b4 they used to check up the man if he has the issue with having kids) they used to humiliate her n make their son re marry = sadly the same issue would happen to 2nd wife... so how can 2 wives have same issue... they later on realize that its him who has the issue
i think that time man felt that if they have baby girls only / no babies at all all fault is their wife's Not their's may b their ego's would be hurt if some one say go check your self if the issue is with u

people claim they want their own blood..
well after having those kids ... some times those kids kick them and go away or misbehave with them
some time adopted kid give u more then your own child
for example - Mrityunjay V/S aditiya In ek boond ishq
Mrityunjay - an adopted child - grow up as loyal man to his father n mother can do any thing for them
Aditiya - A real blood child - Grow up as spoiled .. can misbehave with his parents / hurt them / who knows might kill them 4 money !!!
BUT SADLY - HIS MOTHER - NEVER ACCEPTED HIM AS HER SON BECAUSE HE WAS NOT HER BLOOD 👎🏼 SHE SPOILED HER OWN

the reality is like this !!
they might claim they love her / him but when such reality comes out their so called LOVE FLY OUT OF THE WINDOW !!!👎🏼

in short - they wanted a wife / husband to have kids .. the love that they claim about over n over again is not for the person is for the person who will give them kids !! if she can't then ... SORRY MY LOVE ITS NOT THAT U WERE BAD .. ACTUALLY I GOT A CHOICE SO BYE BYE !! 👎🏼

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payal7

@payal7

Dazzler

Posted: 11 years ago

OMG guys That is one very heavy duty topic !!!!!! but an interesting one.

Ronit - I did see the promo for the serial you are referring to. The subject matter did make me think. If handled correctly the serial could really make people think about this social issue.

its a very emotive subject and I really don't think anyone can say with certainty how they will react unless they are faced with the situation.

However a woman who cannot have children is no less a person than any other woman and should not be made to feel that is somehow incomplete. Marriage and children are not the be end and all end. There is much more to life than that.

I think most couples want children but in the Asian culture there is a very strong desire to have "your own" children rather than adopt.

For centuries women have been blamed for giving births to girls rather than boys (not something they can control in anyway) as well as not having children. Often their lives have been made hell for this "perceived" flaws. The fact that the punishment is given out by women to other women is the worst thing.

At least part of this behaviour comes from lack of education so serials like these are good as they are watched by the masses especially the older generation who would not necessarily have access to education but who are the main culprits for dishing out the punishment.

In my humble opinion - having children is a big responsibility and should not be undertaken unless you are able to take care of the child physically, emotionally and financially. The desire in the Asain sub continent of having children or indeed having children until you have a boy is completely irresponsible.

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Ron

@ronshaan

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Posted: 11 years ago

yes payal this is a big issue and made me think over this

when i asked the same question on my forum shaanse i got replies like the husband would have re married and left the wife in order to have kids... Yes that makes me feel oh how cruel but yes people do that too.. they want kids and if they do not get it.. they think of other options like adopting a child or even hiring other woman to give birth to their child

people do not choose adopted child because they claim he might grow up and when he finds out that he is not their son he might leave them n go in search of his real parents... that's why people dont take that risk (being honest - even real children leave their parents when they grow old)

any ways

feel free to read this topic here.. read other views as well !!!

http://shaanse.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=583

you said it very nicely people should get ready for raising kids !!

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Julie

@JulieD

Voyager

Posted: 11 years ago

Great topic.

It's really up to the individual what how they feel about kids. Some people feel they are incomplete without their 'own' kids. For others it doesn't matter if you adopt. If I am in such a situation, I would not leave my fiance and I hope that my fiance would feel the same way too.

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Sara Baksh

@sara1993

Voyager

Posted: 11 years ago

Nice topic Ronit, well if i were in such a situation i would not leave my boyfriend/fiance just because he doesn't want to have children...yes i would be heart broken because i really love kids but i would not leave him maybe as time passes by he might change his mind same goes for if it turns out that i cannot have children, i wouldn't mind adopting after all they're still kids who deserve to have a family of their own so i trust that my other half will support and stand by me no matter the circumstance as if he truly loves me he should understand.

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Ron

@ronshaan

Stunner

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Posted: 11 years ago

thanks for the views sarah and julie

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arslan

@Aizaz

Voyager

Posted: 11 years ago

#10

I personaly know a couple in which they came to know after their merriage that wife cannot able to give him a baby but they waited 21 year and after that man get 2nd wife and when she give birth her first child he gave that child to his first wife.

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