Good to see Jaitser again !!
Great to see Bhairon and DS and a sensible topic get discussed. Loved DS's views on the subject and what she naturally thought was - hiring a womb for rent - and that the baby will be very lost bcoz it learns to associate with the mom and recognize her heartbeat and voice.
I agree - the world is not a perfect place and am sure the baby will feel displaced and lost for a while until it learns that another voices and pair of hands are always around and loving - and learns to seek comfort from them.
But DS voiced a centuries old thinking that a child has ears in the womb and does build some senses in there and one cannot just negate the role the womb plays or rather - how the behaviour of the carrying mother - will affect the baby.
But then - we cannot seek a perfect world - here - you have the best of both world - you have control of the DNA of the kid and then - you have the nurture of the kid in your hands.
In case of an in-family adoption - you have all the messes that Shiv's family is going thru.
Whether people share at the start or not - the family that gives will never forget that a member is living in another family and will always want to keep and strengthen ties with that member. The family that takes - will never be allowed to forget that this kid is a gift and their methods of raising up the kid and taking all important decisions for that kid - will always be 'second judged'.
In case of a regular adoption - you have no control on DNA - and the bonds are forged on pure love and care alone.
But you face the heartache of the kid wanting at some point - to go out and seek its biological parents and find out why they gave up and how are they doing and if he/she has any siblings, if they can do anything to help their 'donor' family.
All choices come with its own set of riders.
I hope Jagya finds Phooli and she agrees to hatch their baby !! That would be the best possible combination I can think of. She has always been a good childhood friend and she cud use the money and it wud make her bonds with BH stronger - with no chance of complicating any relationships.
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