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This is gonna be a long one, folks...😆
I make a post after so long and I am all set to bore you people. 😕 Sorry. But these things on my mind need to be said.
Madhubala- Ek Ishq Ek Junoon.
The promised epic of love between a Superstar and an ordinary girl.
Ek Alag Chhe Anokha Ishq...
Alag Chhe my foot ! 🥱
Anokha Ishq...the little finger of my foot ! 🥱
RK - A self-obssessed egoistic superstar who has earned his place and fame on the grounds of his own hard work and merit after facing numerous past hardships. Right from the get go, what has defined this unique character is not his extremes BUT his balance of dual extremes. More explicitly, his innate ability to walk the fine grey line between the light and darkness.
He is not good, neither is he evil.
He is just human, with the full error-prone packaging to boot. 😆
He can be a hero amidst men, or he can be a villian to top all villians. He can be a man amidst men, or he can be a kid amidst adults. He can be a most understanding, protective, cherishing lover or he can also be an obssessive psychotic lover.
A veritable Anti-Hero who knows both his flaws and his strengths.
Madhubala - A simple girl who crosses the anti-hero and her life is changed forever. She is a kind, naive, compassionate, sacrificing and very patient being. She is adaptive, accommodating but also short-sighted and stubborn.
Point to note - I did not call her "strong", nor did I call her "understanding".
She may be simple, but her ideology is the most complex of all ideologies - "To always do the right thing."
Why I call it complex you ask? 😆 The reason is many-fold :-
One - It is not always easy to define "the right thing". It takes a lot of maturity and the ability to understand other POVs before deciding on what is the" right" course of action.
Two - There can be multiple "right things" at the same time. So which one should one choose? It takes perception and fore-thought to evaluate all the various consequences of a single action and then decide which is the "best" course of action.
Three - "Knowing" what is right is NOT the same as "doing" what is right. A person may know what is right, but the methods of achieving that result may be extremely flawed. All's well that ends well, is not always the right outcome of a journey.
Four - The "right thing" can be a fork between two roads namely - "the easy way" and the "hard way". Both are "the right way" BUT the hard sacrificing noble way is not always the best , the easy self-serving selfish way is not always the worst. It again takes maturity, perception and fore-sight to choose the best way.
Having said this, I do not think I need to explain whether Madhu has been able to follow her ideology or not till date. 😆
Yeh Kalyug hai, Satyayug nahin. The principles of goodness have not changed. But the methods of applying those good principles have changed drastically to keep pace with the growing darkness.😆
Just like one has to grow with the times, similarly one has to grow in any story in order to make the story meaningful.
In 1.5 years of watching a show, what have we received?
One - A greyshaded male lead who is the only one to experience character development...a development which very conveniently takes a regressive path whenever there arises a need to uphold the female lead's stagnant character.
Two - A female lead whose naivete and ambiguity has repeatedly been the cause of distress to everyone surrounding her. Without Fail.
Three - A couple, where the male lead has gone so far ahead in development as a person that the female counterpart stagnates and pales in comparison.🥱
Four - A relationship that has stripped that male half of everything than he is, step by step...and proved how cruelly shallow and insensitive a female half can turn out by being too naive for her own good.😵
So now we come to the current track,
RK has finally been stripped of all that makes him RK...his singular stardom, his pride, his simple wife...RK is swimming in a sea of insecurities...the most important being his POV that he is losing his wife to the glamour world.
One notes that RK has already tread this path with Dipali. Perhaps that is why he hates her so much now. So RK is already experienced about how the lure of the spotlight can change a person. I think that is why RK is doubly insecure with Madhu.
He believes that he already knows what pain ...more severe this time because it is Madhu...is heading his way in the future. He believes he can fight a man but not the entire industry. He believes it is prudent to protect himself and distance himself from the source of that pain, Madhu, before that pain can destroy what is left of him.
He is unable to hate her, unlike he does Dipali, so he believes he has to be stoic and indifferent to her.
It is the coward's way...but this is what a normal person does after facing repeated abandonment.
The curse of RK's life - people ALWAYS abandon him, be it father, mother, brother, girlfriend, maasi, colleagues, fans, secretary, lover, wife.
And right now, he has no one at his side to understand him. To him, he is all alone. So like a man drowning in his own sea of insecurities, he is searching for the first hand that helps him survive.
And miraculously in comes a girl, Ria, who is ready to stand (or drink) beside him without judging him. Who is willing to lend an ear (albeit a drunken ear), without mocking his vulnerabilities. So he is relieved to find a friend.
He is not right. But he is not wrong either. He is just human.
He has always been a fighter...he has fought by right or crooked means to keep his love at every step...be it after unwedding, by public proposal, by public apology, against a criminal, against the court, even against Madhu herself...
but this issue of abandonment is not something he can fight. Because he is not the one with the control here, the people abandoning him have all the control in this situation. He can only protect and defend by forming a cold shell around himself...but the fight must be fought by those abandoning him.
His love for Madhu is still the same. But his greatest fear of abandonment is winning the internal war going on in his head.
Madhu, on the other hand is by far too complacent and takes things too lightly. Until recently (before RK asked her to stop playing God) no one has ever pointed out her mistakes to her. She is the most pampered character of the show. People have put her on a pedestal and she has grown far too accustomed to staying on that self-righteous pedestal.
She is a good person...but she is too naive to appreciate the difference between "what is right" and "what is best"...and everytime she is faced with these two choices, she has ALWAYS maintained an ambiguous stand...be that about befriending a criminal, be that about protecting her dignity after unwedding, be that in Meera's case, be that while making a movie, be that with everything that came after the movie.
Naivete is appreciable ...but only in a young innocent girl, unaware of the world's vices.
Naivete in a woman is nothing but a lack of emotional development that frequently exerts itself as a superficial undependable character prone to bouts of stupidity.
Honestly... thats distasteful...especially because it violates the natural essential qualities of human growth through experience.
Madhu has grown stagnant ...not growing...
RK has also always pampered her, never letting her take responsibility for her actions.
In this unbalanced relationship, he will be continually forced to grow faster and grow alone, in order to compensate for his partner's stagnancy. He will be forced to experience relapses in judgement and commit errors because he has no real guidance from her in matters of importance. He will be forced to lose himself in order to sustain her.
I keep waiting for Madhu to grow up...but a part of me has accepted that Madhu will always remain that compassionate but naive girl trapped in her own romanticism, unable to ever become a woman.
Unless she steps down from her pedestal, unless she stops playing God...I fear Madhu will never become a woman in the true sense...let alone a wife.
And that too the wife of an anti-hero !
RK ki Biwi - She has been gifted that title by RK...but keeping that title is another ballgame altogether...that is a title that must be earned through numerous battles, with the world, with RK as well as herself.
"Har kisi ko nahin milta yahan pyaar zindagi mein."
Why ? Because love is God's gift to the chosen ones.
Chosen for what? Chosen to use that gift correctly for a lifetime, chosen to fight to keep that gift safe for a lifetime.
Love is not everything. But love is the most important thing.
Her words to Bittuji...I tolerate everything because i know he loves me, and not because i love him...
It is clear that she is justifying her pedestal...she has not understood her mistakes...she has not done any self-introspection...she is implying that she is perfect, and is deigning to love a flawed man, as if it is a charity she is doing.
What Madhu forgets is that one does not "tolerate" anything in love. In love, one accepts the person with his flaws and not inspite of his flaws... and then they work together OR even against each other to maintain that love for the next fifty years...
"Junoon sirf pyaar ko haasil karne ka naam nahin hai. Uss pyaar ko saari umar mehfuz rakhna bhi ek Junoon hai. Aur shayad sabse bara Junoon bhi."
RK has proved he has both these kinds of Junoon. Has Madhu ?
After being the one to fight this battle everytime, RK has finally given up the fight and retreated within himself...but even then he knows Madhu well...he tells her everything about the friend except the fact that the friend is a girl.
Why? Because RK has gone through the pains of Madhu's complicated relationship with another man. So he does his best to not return the favour.
But again he is right and wrong. He is right to protect her from an insecurity he has faced. He is wrong to shield her from the facts to prevent future misunderstandings.
But even CVs have to follow Newton's third law. What goes around, comes around. 😆
So will Madhu too allow RK to lose? Because she is the one with all the control in this battle. It will depend on her...whether she chooses to stay as an immortalized romanticism on a pedestal...or break her inhibitions and become a real human being.
Ria, if handled well by CVs, can have a pivotal role.
She can do what everyone else has failed.
Make Madhu grow up...make RK to "allow" Madhu to grow up.
Only then can they have a good strong relationship.
Unless this happens, I fear Rishbala are better separated rather than repeating a vicious cycle again and again.
Sorry to bore you all.😆
I just had to say what was festering in my mind for so long.
Please do share your thoughts. 😳
I make a post after so long and I am all set to bore you people. 😕 Sorry. But these things on my mind need to be said.
Madhubala- Ek Ishq Ek Junoon.
The promised epic of love between a Superstar and an ordinary girl.
Ek Alag Chhe Anokha Ishq...
Alag Chhe my foot ! 🥱
Anokha Ishq...the little finger of my foot ! 🥱
RK - A self-obssessed egoistic superstar who has earned his place and fame on the grounds of his own hard work and merit after facing numerous past hardships. Right from the get go, what has defined this unique character is not his extremes BUT his balance of dual extremes. More explicitly, his innate ability to walk the fine grey line between the light and darkness.
He is not good, neither is he evil.
He is just human, with the full error-prone packaging to boot. 😆
He can be a hero amidst men, or he can be a villian to top all villians. He can be a man amidst men, or he can be a kid amidst adults. He can be a most understanding, protective, cherishing lover or he can also be an obssessive psychotic lover.
A veritable Anti-Hero who knows both his flaws and his strengths.
Madhubala - A simple girl who crosses the anti-hero and her life is changed forever. She is a kind, naive, compassionate, sacrificing and very patient being. She is adaptive, accommodating but also short-sighted and stubborn.
Point to note - I did not call her "strong", nor did I call her "understanding".
She may be simple, but her ideology is the most complex of all ideologies - "To always do the right thing."
Why I call it complex you ask? 😆 The reason is many-fold :-
One - It is not always easy to define "the right thing". It takes a lot of maturity and the ability to understand other POVs before deciding on what is the" right" course of action.
Two - There can be multiple "right things" at the same time. So which one should one choose? It takes perception and fore-thought to evaluate all the various consequences of a single action and then decide which is the "best" course of action.
Three - "Knowing" what is right is NOT the same as "doing" what is right. A person may know what is right, but the methods of achieving that result may be extremely flawed. All's well that ends well, is not always the right outcome of a journey.
Four - The "right thing" can be a fork between two roads namely - "the easy way" and the "hard way". Both are "the right way" BUT the hard sacrificing noble way is not always the best , the easy self-serving selfish way is not always the worst. It again takes maturity, perception and fore-sight to choose the best way.
Having said this, I do not think I need to explain whether Madhu has been able to follow her ideology or not till date. 😆
Yeh Kalyug hai, Satyayug nahin. The principles of goodness have not changed. But the methods of applying those good principles have changed drastically to keep pace with the growing darkness.😆
Just like one has to grow with the times, similarly one has to grow in any story in order to make the story meaningful.
In 1.5 years of watching a show, what have we received?
One - A greyshaded male lead who is the only one to experience character development...a development which very conveniently takes a regressive path whenever there arises a need to uphold the female lead's stagnant character.
Two - A female lead whose naivete and ambiguity has repeatedly been the cause of distress to everyone surrounding her. Without Fail.
Three - A couple, where the male lead has gone so far ahead in development as a person that the female counterpart stagnates and pales in comparison.🥱
Four - A relationship that has stripped that male half of everything than he is, step by step...and proved how cruelly shallow and insensitive a female half can turn out by being too naive for her own good.😵
So now we come to the current track,
RK has finally been stripped of all that makes him RK...his singular stardom, his pride, his simple wife...RK is swimming in a sea of insecurities...the most important being his POV that he is losing his wife to the glamour world.
One notes that RK has already tread this path with Dipali. Perhaps that is why he hates her so much now. So RK is already experienced about how the lure of the spotlight can change a person. I think that is why RK is doubly insecure with Madhu.
He believes that he already knows what pain ...more severe this time because it is Madhu...is heading his way in the future. He believes he can fight a man but not the entire industry. He believes it is prudent to protect himself and distance himself from the source of that pain, Madhu, before that pain can destroy what is left of him.
He is unable to hate her, unlike he does Dipali, so he believes he has to be stoic and indifferent to her.
It is the coward's way...but this is what a normal person does after facing repeated abandonment.
The curse of RK's life - people ALWAYS abandon him, be it father, mother, brother, girlfriend, maasi, colleagues, fans, secretary, lover, wife.
And right now, he has no one at his side to understand him. To him, he is all alone. So like a man drowning in his own sea of insecurities, he is searching for the first hand that helps him survive.
And miraculously in comes a girl, Ria, who is ready to stand (or drink) beside him without judging him. Who is willing to lend an ear (albeit a drunken ear), without mocking his vulnerabilities. So he is relieved to find a friend.
He is not right. But he is not wrong either. He is just human.
He has always been a fighter...he has fought by right or crooked means to keep his love at every step...be it after unwedding, by public proposal, by public apology, against a criminal, against the court, even against Madhu herself...
but this issue of abandonment is not something he can fight. Because he is not the one with the control here, the people abandoning him have all the control in this situation. He can only protect and defend by forming a cold shell around himself...but the fight must be fought by those abandoning him.
His love for Madhu is still the same. But his greatest fear of abandonment is winning the internal war going on in his head.
Madhu, on the other hand is by far too complacent and takes things too lightly. Until recently (before RK asked her to stop playing God) no one has ever pointed out her mistakes to her. She is the most pampered character of the show. People have put her on a pedestal and she has grown far too accustomed to staying on that self-righteous pedestal.
She is a good person...but she is too naive to appreciate the difference between "what is right" and "what is best"...and everytime she is faced with these two choices, she has ALWAYS maintained an ambiguous stand...be that about befriending a criminal, be that about protecting her dignity after unwedding, be that in Meera's case, be that while making a movie, be that with everything that came after the movie.
Naivete is appreciable ...but only in a young innocent girl, unaware of the world's vices.
Naivete in a woman is nothing but a lack of emotional development that frequently exerts itself as a superficial undependable character prone to bouts of stupidity.
Honestly... thats distasteful...especially because it violates the natural essential qualities of human growth through experience.
Madhu has grown stagnant ...not growing...
RK has also always pampered her, never letting her take responsibility for her actions.
In this unbalanced relationship, he will be continually forced to grow faster and grow alone, in order to compensate for his partner's stagnancy. He will be forced to experience relapses in judgement and commit errors because he has no real guidance from her in matters of importance. He will be forced to lose himself in order to sustain her.
I keep waiting for Madhu to grow up...but a part of me has accepted that Madhu will always remain that compassionate but naive girl trapped in her own romanticism, unable to ever become a woman.
Unless she steps down from her pedestal, unless she stops playing God...I fear Madhu will never become a woman in the true sense...let alone a wife.
And that too the wife of an anti-hero !
RK ki Biwi - She has been gifted that title by RK...but keeping that title is another ballgame altogether...that is a title that must be earned through numerous battles, with the world, with RK as well as herself.
"Har kisi ko nahin milta yahan pyaar zindagi mein."
Why ? Because love is God's gift to the chosen ones.
Chosen for what? Chosen to use that gift correctly for a lifetime, chosen to fight to keep that gift safe for a lifetime.
Love is not everything. But love is the most important thing.
Her words to Bittuji...I tolerate everything because i know he loves me, and not because i love him...
It is clear that she is justifying her pedestal...she has not understood her mistakes...she has not done any self-introspection...she is implying that she is perfect, and is deigning to love a flawed man, as if it is a charity she is doing.
What Madhu forgets is that one does not "tolerate" anything in love. In love, one accepts the person with his flaws and not inspite of his flaws... and then they work together OR even against each other to maintain that love for the next fifty years...
"Junoon sirf pyaar ko haasil karne ka naam nahin hai. Uss pyaar ko saari umar mehfuz rakhna bhi ek Junoon hai. Aur shayad sabse bara Junoon bhi."
RK has proved he has both these kinds of Junoon. Has Madhu ?
After being the one to fight this battle everytime, RK has finally given up the fight and retreated within himself...but even then he knows Madhu well...he tells her everything about the friend except the fact that the friend is a girl.
Why? Because RK has gone through the pains of Madhu's complicated relationship with another man. So he does his best to not return the favour.
But again he is right and wrong. He is right to protect her from an insecurity he has faced. He is wrong to shield her from the facts to prevent future misunderstandings.
But even CVs have to follow Newton's third law. What goes around, comes around. 😆
So will Madhu too allow RK to lose? Because she is the one with all the control in this battle. It will depend on her...whether she chooses to stay as an immortalized romanticism on a pedestal...or break her inhibitions and become a real human being.
Ria, if handled well by CVs, can have a pivotal role.
She can do what everyone else has failed.
Make Madhu grow up...make RK to "allow" Madhu to grow up.
Only then can they have a good strong relationship.
Unless this happens, I fear Rishbala are better separated rather than repeating a vicious cycle again and again.
Sorry to bore you all.😆
I just had to say what was festering in my mind for so long.
Please do share your thoughts. 😳
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