- My child of course. Your bond to your child is much greater than to your spouse. Think about it. Aside from love (not that it is not a powerful emotion, it certainly is) your relationship with your spouse is conceptual. It, on a very basic level, is all thought. Your bond to your child is much greater. That is your own flesh and blood, the pride of your existence, the person that is the future of your family. In the animal kingdom, for example a lion, the lioness will have a child with the male lion, but then discard him. The baby is much more important.