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bheegi

@bheegi

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Posted: 12 years ago

Since the infamous Maburt nikaah and Asad forcing Zoya to SM, we have all discussed this issue about Zoya's self respect.

Yes, Zoya does have a lot of self respect but when it comes to Asad, her equation is very different from what most women would do.

Asad has humiliated Zoya so many times but she has always returned to him even if he just shows up with tears. Asad is both her weakness & strength- remember slap scene, airport scene etc. It's the same situation here. Even though he disrespected her and hurt her feelings, the moment she saw his caring side, she just melted in his arms. That's very consistent with Zoya's character. I know a lot of people feel she doesn't have self respect but when it comes to asad, her longing for him outweighs any other conflict in her mind. Any other woman would have walked away a long time ago but she stayed back despite the thappad and then even at the airport, she came back running to him after he had kicked her out (via the immigration officer.)

That's why, even though we all feel she should go back to NY, I doubt she will ever do that. She is completely and madly in love with Asad and can go to any extent for his happiness. At this point in her life, she can't separate from him emotionally or spiritually. So, any thought of another man in her life is also futile...

She can get angry with him but not separate from him.

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Waqt Zaya

@WaqtZaya

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Posted: 12 years ago

I wonder sometimes dii if really Zoya is Gul's alter ego then she really must have been more stupider n foolish than me lol

Jokes apart are we all not the same?
Once no matter the How much the He makes u cry hurt u tear u apart u say I will never meet him not olforgive him but once the He comes says a rukha sukha sorry everything forgiven n firgotten n starts the same all over lol

Asad toh phir bhi rota hai depression mein chala jata hai zoya kaunsekhet ki mooli hai aafter all lol

P.s. friend logo ke personal life se inspired thought lol

Edited by MisHumptyDumpty - 12 years ago

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@RosyRosh

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Posted: 12 years ago

Love ur post as always bheegs!

Zoya has always been the one to stamd up for anything and anyone but when it comes to just her and asad she has easily given in. She does stand up in yelling and giving him and ear full but for zoya shefeels the only person she can say is hers is asad and is easily able to forgive him and give into him probably out of fear of loosing him. She does love him to much to stand up for herself against him.

But this being said if we are referring to why she easily gave into asad and not stand up for herself over this whole nikaah thing.. its because she listens to asad and feels like he has a right over her at the end of the day.. whatever she did with signing the papers was her own free will and has no one to blame but herself for her situation.

She just considers asads words to much to ignore. And everyone does thay with the people thy love even in real life. Look at ur own parents. U love them so much that u may hate them for some decisions they enforce on you and u have every right to say no to them but u dont because you care to much of their word.

Same her with zoya. asad is literslly her entire world. She feels she has no one to say is hers except him. So that persons words and decisions mean the world to you on occasion. Doesnt mean you dont have self respect. It just means your love is much greater and inportant and if u genuinly loved then that love wont be away from you for to long.

Edited by -Shayari- - 12 years ago

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Waqt Zaya

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Posted: 12 years ago

Its sad but yes she herself said I m nad at u but then truth remains I can't stay mad at u any longer

Sad cause even if he sells her she will forgive him n we for the sake ofddialogues n hugs as such will melt n want n wish them to be together n want them married but failing to understand the graveness of the situation. :/ :/

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anushreemishra

@anushreemishra

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Posted: 12 years ago

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thanku for making this post di we will get to see lot of POV here...

I agree di zoya is a independent woman for whom self respect is very important but yes when it comes to asad all her ideologies,her rationality just goes out the window because she is madly in love with asad but here i am not blaming zoya forgiving asad but how this whole forgiveness and patch up was dealt with😕

Di i get it that zoya has been humiliated a lot many times but she has always forgiven asad and had a girl like zoya been in that situation she would have left asad a long time ago but we all know its fiction and asya are the end game so yes i am not against zoya returning to asad all i want is for asad and zoya to realize the gravity of the situation so that this never happens again it is like everytime asad scholds zoya nd he is forgiven nd zoya does nothing well will they learn...also i am disappointed the way everything was patched between asad nd zoya so soon..in the slap fiasco asad bringing coffee for zoya nd saying sorry was a big deal nd then after teh airport engagement he went all the way to get her back but this time just a hug and some looks😕a little thanda IMO...asya are at that point in their relationship when there should have been more intensity and i don't mean physical one...

copy pasted my response from faasle thread😆

Edited by anushreemishra - 12 years ago

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Vashti

@VashH

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Posted: 12 years ago

I totally agree . they both cannot live without each other and have confessed this several times . I am a believer of romance and just love to see couples happy in love . this is something money can't buy . Asad and Zoya pine for each other and you see it in each episode . I always put my take on the messages of each meeting or even thoughts of each other in my music .I feel safe sharing them with u ..knowing its safe . take a look at my thoughts on this episode .to me this was the message sent out

http://youtu.be/z9k8p5hM3-A

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-khaleesi-

@-khaleesi-

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Posted: 12 years ago

Nice post! 👍🏼 I second you completely.

She won't leave him because her love and longing for him would always take precedence. In fact her walking away would be out of character as she has always been really selfless. Also, this does not make her any less strong or modern. Loving someone UNCONDITIONALLY makes you strong even if that love is your weakness. It gives you the power to fight for it and she'd do just that. Modernity does not mean that you put yourself before anything and everything else. But again it depends on how one perceives modernity and progressiveness.

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@RosyRosh

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: MisHumptyDumpty
Its sad but yes she herself said I m nad at u but then truth remains I can't stay mad at u any longer

Sad cause even if he sells her she will forgive him n we for the sake ofddialogues n hugs as such will melt n want n wish them to be together n want them married but failing to understand the graveness of the situation. :/ :/

Anks for the love of asya anything is game 🤣

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@metoyou

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Posted: 12 years ago

This self respect issue is quite a delicate issue, if I may say so.

See, Zoya is deeply and madly in love with Asad. She can go to any extent for him and will bear any sort of pain for him as well.

Like you mentioned, she even went back to him after the slap.

Does this make her a weak woman? Uhm not exactly.

Some of us may think so, but it really depends on what kind of person you are. I agree that the slap was not acceptable but her love for Asad is so much bigger and deeper than the pain and humiliation from the slap was not felt by her. Is she blinded by love?

Perhaps yes, perhaps not. She just had full faith and trust in her love and was willing to fight for it.

Most of us would have probably left the man we love because our self respect is our biggest pride.

Eventually, it totally depends on what kind of woman you are.

Some won't take a sh*t, some can take a lot...

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bheegi

@bheegi

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Posted: 12 years ago

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Originally posted by: MisHumptyDumpty
I wonder sometimes dii if really Zoya is Gul's alter ego then she really must have been more stupider n foolish than me lol

Jokes apart are we all not the same?
Once no matter the How much the He makes u cry hurt u tear u apart u say I will never meet him not olforgive him but once the He comes says a rukha sukha sorry everything forgiven n firgotten n starts the same all over lol

Asad toh phir bhi rota hai depression mein chala jata hai zoya kaunsekhet ki mooli hai aafter all lol

P.s. friend logo ke personal life se inspired thought lol

The only difference is the gravity of the situations here are much more pronounced than ones we face in our lives...

I think it all stems down to Mangalpur

Mangalpur made Asad realize what she means to him and it made her realize that he will go to any extent to be there for her when she needs him...that's why all the other incidents (even though big like slap etc) are forgiven and forgotten when they are together

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