Ira's way to deal with problems.

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Hello everyone.
We all have bashed the Shekhars a lot , so have I!
but i think fact remains that the major problem is with Ira and due to her upbringing of Sanchi.

yes, everyone else has pampered her too but we have seen Daddu , Alok and Choti maa being sensible but Ira has never been sensible.
today, that fact came more into light by her way of dealing with pain. when she or her family member is hurt, she doesn't try to think how she can make the pain less, instead she emphasizes on it even more.

everyone in KB, loves sanchi and is feeling her pain, but the sensible thing to do is to make your daughter come out of it. by making her realise she is better without the relationship , but what does ira do? she prods on about the wound and keeps making everyone realise how bad the situation is.

ofcourse, here im not considering how evil sanchi is. but just a normal girl and her family.
acc to me, its from ira that sanchi has got the gene to overreact and be so hyper and not think sensibly.

in a way sumitra too is similar, even if everyone wants to think sensibly, sumitra fires up and makes a mountain out of a mole. like she did when sanchi's rishta came, she made up things about anandi's wish in this and was so hyper about it all. she didnt even let anyone else put their point of view,.

right now too, everyone is silent and want to analyse the situation and think about it but she';s screaming like a banshee and talking so much nonsense about samaaj and all. hasnt she had enough life lessons to start thinking about her son's happiness rather than the samaaj. where was the samaaj when she her daughter was pregnant before being married properly. didnt she support her daughter at that time? now why doesnt she think rationally for a second,

ira has always been like this but i dont understand why has sumitra's character been butchered so badly!

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Jan50 thumbnail
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Very good post. Yes Ira is arping and harping on the misery so much that even if Sanchi wants to forget( just hypothetical thought) she would not let her. She loves to wallow in self pity and
"The whole world is out to cause my Daughter and me so much misery " mode.
Any nor mal intelligent mother who has so much control will try to take the mind off from this.
But how ever her doubts about Anandi's knowledge on Ganga is reasonable. But why Anandi,
She herself had that doubt. So why did'nt she take action? Why did'nt she try to convince her daughter to forget him? Does she think the whole world owes er daughter snething?. May be that was the attitude
Of the whole Shekhar family. That is what caused the whole problem.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Ira is too melodramatic, and bised, she blamed Anandi today widout ny resson. And that day she was buttering Anandi for her doughter. Anandi is lyk a toy for her jab chaha use kiya, pyar kiya, nafrat kiya, blame kiya and maafi maang liya.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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exactly what i was thinking. she dosent want her daughter to move forward or be happy.. she wants her to be miserable & will keep reminding & make her live in self pity. why to blame anandi & her mayka.
whaty alok & choti maa were telling was the right way to go about it.

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Jan50

Very good post. Yes Ira is arping and harping on the misery so much that even if Sanchi wants to forget( just hypothetical thought) she would not let her. She loves to wallow in self pity and

"The whole world is out to cause my Daughter and me so much misery " mode.
Any nor mal intelligent mother who has so much control will try to take the mind off from this.
But how ever her doubts about Anandi's knowledge on Ganga is reasonable. But why Anandi,
She herself had that doubt. So why did'nt she take action? Why did'nt she try to convince her daughter to forget him? Does she think the whole world owes er daughter snething?. May be that was the attitude
Of the whole Shekhar family. That is what caused the whole problem.


exactly!! she loves to pity herself n her daughter n als0 blame the whole world for their misery! thats so stupid
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: KiranlovSriti

Ira is too melodramatic, and bised, she blamed Anandi today widout ny resson. And that day she was buttering Anandi for her doughter. Anandi is lyk a toy for her jab chaha use kiya, pyar kiya, nafrat kiya, blame kiya and maafi maang liya.


yes, i forgot that!

it was so irritating just one day before u r requesting her and being so lovey dovey to anandi and now she is accusing her of spoiling things! sick
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: naq5

exactly what i was thinking. she dosent want her daughter to move forward or be happy.. she wants her to be miserable & will keep reminding & make her live in self pity. why to blame anandi & her mayka.

whaty alok & choti maa were telling was the right way to go about it.


yes, telling ur daughter to be sensible n try n start moving on is the better thing or keep on reminding her how bad has happened to her!!!
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Wonderful post. We cant paint all the shekhars with the same brush. Slowly one by one are trying to recover except Ira. Ira seems to have persecution complex. Same with sumitra.

You have analyzed very well. Expecting more posts from you. Seems you are balanced and sympathetic in your thoughts.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

Wonderful post. We cant paint all the shekhars with the same brush. Slowly one by one are trying to recover except Ira. Ira seems to have persecution complex. Same with sumitra.

You have analyzed very well. Expecting more posts from you. Seems you are balanced and sympathetic in your thoughts.


aww thank you for ur kind words, just wanted to share my thoughts with everyone!

and yes they're all recovering, even shiv i hope will be fine soon, but it looks like on both sides, ira and sumitra keep on bringing down everyone even when they try to move up!! 🤢
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Saanchi is no more a mystery

it is clear she has inherited ALL the traits from Ira who is the bigger Saanchi

tunnel vision , extreme selfishness , arrogance and petty behaviour

See Ira

any mother would not even talk about the matter anymore and instruct family not to talk on the topic anymore

but she is constantly rehashing same topic

in FRONT of Saanchi who just won't let go

the latest is asking Anandi did u know of JAGAN affair

arre how does it matter now whether she knew or didn't

the man has broken off and is married to the girl he chose

he made it clear as water he does NOT want ur daughter for a bride

When Saanchi is rehashing and accusing Anandi instead of deftly changing topic Ira is joining her and making issue

the moment Jagya broke off , she turned and gave Anandi venomous look while leaving ,,,,,,as if YOU will pay now , my daughter suffers then these guys will know too , THEIR daughter will suffer too

and the moment they reached home she lashed out again as if she was just beginning

Anandi not going to Singhs is not enough punishment for her

she wants to make life hell for her

her behaviour with CM is abominable too , don't know why Mahi doesn't stand up for his mom

CM loves Shiv , has brought him up like son

any woman will feel grateful in joint family

CM need not do it , she has son of her own

but Ira makes petty issues of it

same way CM said the right thing today ...good it happened at this stage , we must all help Saanchi to start over etc

what Ira must be saying

but she is talking bitterly to CM ...How u will understand...her dukh is great , this and that

she , along with Saanchi wants to rehash this issue and keep on pampering the dukh and spoil atmosphere of house when in reality

its a mere engagement that did not work out and the guy was never liked or respected by them in the first place ...they should privately heave a sigh of relief

Truly Ira must be slapped . She pampers and pampers her daughter rotten , calls other's children names , curses them , slaps them in their own domain .

I hope Ganga is not self effacing to her and remembers the slap to her Daktarsaa and does not put her on a pedestal coz of the label Anandi's saasra

i want Ira to be astounded by Ganga's spirit .

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