Shekhars - shamelessly conceited! - Page 8

Originally posted by: SRKLuvr

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That isn't the problem Surabhi! The Shekhars already reprimanded Sanchi for her actions told her it was wrong and came to apologise and clear the misunderstanding but you tell me how are they supposed to feel when barely two days after breaking a 6-8 month long engagement Jogia declares he loves another and marries her in front of their eyes? Are they not bound to think that was Jogia in love with this woman when he was engaged to Sanchi? Is this the real reason he wanted to break relations and just used Sanchi's words asa convenient excuse? Put yourself in the place of a reasonable human.

Reasonable human? If Shekhars had been reasonable then they wouldn't have raised a daughter as badly behaved as Sanchi. If they were reasonable then they would have never agreed for this rishta in first place - given that they has misgivings about Jagya's past. If they were reasonable then they wouldn't have exerted pressure on Singhs by sitting there and waiting for them to take a decision that very night about their proposal. If they were reasonable then they'd have known the basic nature of their child and known that nature does not change within months!
If they were reasonable they would not have asked Anandi, their DIL to coach Sanchi about fitting into family of her ex husband! They have always dragged Anandi into it never wondering how inappropriate it was.

If they were reasonable then they would have informed Singhs before reaching Jaitser. It's not about taking permission. It's about at least letting the other party know that you're coming!

Everything happened on spur of the moment. Yet Shekhars are behaving as if Jagya betrayed them by declaring love for Ganga or putting sindoor on her head.

They reached there, uninvited.

Regarding your other post about Jagya's instability, may I know why guys like you and Tanvismile defended him when he recklessly left Anandi and married Gauri without even checking legality of their relationship, let alone considering moral obligations?

In Sanchi case, this instability argument matters less because he never chose her and was forced to accept her proposal. And he wouldn't have hurriedly married Ganga if Sumitra had not created such hungama and at least let him explain things.

Though I agree he was at fault for not clearly explaining the truth to anyone about his feelings about Sanchi. If he had even told Bhairon the truth on phone at least, then things wouldn't be so bad today.

Originally posted by: SRKLuvr

Akad? How so?A guy comes and breaks relations with your daughter just on the threshold of their marriage after so many months of being engaged to her citing reasons of incompatibility and then when they find out the reason they thoroughly reprimand their daughter for being wrong. But you guys are telling me that two days after breaking relations with their daughter they see this man declare his love for someone else and marry her and they shouldn't be upset and think now is this the real reason he did not want to marry Sanchi? Is what Jogia did in the least bit understanding or considerate? Sanchi may be selfish and mean but she is still human and no girl deserves to be treated like Jogia treated her! lso because this is the third time he's done it! Why should he not be reminded of his past when he's still doing the same thing? Knowing of her feelings for him he doesn't talk to her when he breaks the marriage not before not after he doesn't pick up her calls and then immediately goes and marries somebody else how is this fair? Come on peoples think what you would have done in their situation.

Akad in the sense how Ira bashed Anandi and dragged her into this and how she barked at Singhs despite seeing herself that they had NO idea of what Jagya had done, or what was happening. Bashing Singhs and dragging Anandi into this was akad only.

Even before coming to Jaitser Ira had said she would hold Jagya by his ears and make him forgive her and her daughter. If this is not akad then what is?

What declaring love? They are making assumptions that this was planned by Jagya. Whereas it was sudden, a family drama was already on and it is THEY who reached there without informing anyone.

How badly did Jagya treat her? He was avoiding her from day one. It was she who was being chipkoo and shameless. Even yesterday, Jagya did not talk to Sanchi himself. He only replied her when she shouted, that he loved her and not anyone else. And because Ganga was suffering a lot so he decided to speak up and not let doubts linger.

Marries someone else is not something Jagya can be bashed for. It happened. He did not plan it.

The difference in his last two relationships and this one was that in last two relationships he was also involved and had reciprocated girls' feelings, shared dreams, hopes, loved together and shared intimacy.

But in this one, Jagya had never ever reciprocated Sanchi's feelings or given hopes to her or made any promises. He broke the engagement because of her behaviour, it was confirmed that she was the same Sanchi and had not changed. Shekhars can reprimand her once but that's not how things continue.

And it is only Singhs, Anandi or Gauri and their families who have right to talk about Jagya's past. Shekhars do not know anything so they can't use other women's names to make a sympathy case for their daughter.

Also, the biggest point is that if they are so ashamed and disgusted at his past then why did they want to marry their daughter to him? Why are they angry at him for breaking rishta with her? Why they wanted to convince such a man to accept their perfect daughter?

No matter what they felt, the place was not their own house. It was Jagya's own hospital. They shouldn't have behaved so loud and crude at a place like this.

And what do they want? Make him accept Sanchi by trashing him? Or make him feel regretful for rejecting her?

This level of rudeness and even physical violence, they did not resort to, even towards boys and families of those boys who had tried to rape Sanchi.

Once Jogia agreed to get married and even got engaged he can't use the excuse that he didn't like her because he should never have agreed to marry then. Even if he didn't plan it so what? He still went ahead and married her right? Utterly shameless person!

Skepblun yes blame everybody but Jogia. So the Shekhar's fault that they didn't call before coming? Would that have changed anything since Jogia walked in at the last minute? Sanchi is mean rude spoilt. Jogia was ten times worse but I didn't hear people blaming the Singhs for his upbringing at the time. Shekhars never wanted this rishta but they trusted the Singhs and Jogia. Nobody pressured Jogia or Singhs they were very happy about the rishta and Jogia went along with it. That isn't the Singhs fault they were expecting him to say no. I don't even agree with the last two " reasonables" HOW DOES DOING ON THE SPUR OF THE MOMENT CHANGE HIS ACT? We can just as easily do a murder and say Oh! it was spontaneous I didn't plan it! The point is he did it! In front of everyone! As for the Jogia Gauri time, at that time I felt this show wanted to portray what happened when victims of baal vivah fell in true love then it ruined the life of the other baal vivah victim. I felt Jogia and Gauri's love was true and that baal vivah should not be encouraged but all the same I never supported the way he brutally left Anandi as there is after all a right time and place to do these things. However I didn't know at that point in time Jogia's love was a crock and that he actually switches girls as often as he changes clothing

Originally posted by: SRKLuvr

Skepblun yes blame everybody but Jogia. So the Shekhar's fault that they didn't call before coming? Would that have changed anything since Jogia walked in at the last minute? Sanchi is mean rude spoilt. Jogia was ten times worse but I didn't hear people blaming the Singhs for his upbringing at the time. Shekhars never wanted this rishta but they trusted the Singhs and Jogia. Nobody pressured Jogia or Singhs they were very happy about the rishta and Jogia went along with it. That isn't the Singhs fault they were expecting him to say no. I don't even agree with the last two " reasonables" HOW DOES DOING ON THE SPUR OF THE MOMENT CHANGE HIS ACT? We can just as easily do a murder and say Oh! it was spontaneous I didn't plan it! The point is he did it! In front of everyone! As for the Jogia Gauri time, at that time I felt this show wanted to portray what happened when victims of baal vivah fell in true love then it ruined the life of the other baal vivah victim. I felt Jogia and Gauri's love was true and that baal vivah should not be encouraged but all the same I never supported the way he brutally left Anandi as there is after all a right time and place to do these things. However I didn't know at that point in time Jogia's love was a crock and that he actually switches girls as often as he changes clothing