Mukut is wrong, BUT

Originally posted by: -Unknowndesire

He's wrong yes but he's a man with feelings as well being in an arrange marriage with someone you don't love. it's all UB fault for wanting the perfect Bahu it's always been about her & want she wants and not her sons happiness.

I fell more bad for those poor kids they don't deserve this it's actually a huge turn off Mukut isn't even thinking about them.

Originally posted by: golpokobita

I disagree to the last line.

Its not all UB's fault. It a fault of Mukut too.. and of all in the family.

Mukut, instead of fighting for his rights and happiness, agreed to UB's proposal. May be he was scared otherwise he would lose the property or family or all the worldly things. He agreed and married Kaumodi, born two children and pretended to the world and to his mother that he is a good and responsible man. And during all these he still kept his chosen love life alive, took an alternative way and continued having relationship with another girl. So he is destroying several lives (his wife, children and Mayuri) for his spinelessness and selfish desire.

What Manav did now, being the youngest, fought for his love and made his mother accept his love..., it is in fact Mukut, who should have done that years ago and that might have saved other brothers, too.

UB is UB today, because others allowed her to become that.

So its not all UB's fault.

Originally posted by: golpokobita

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">I disagree to the last line.</font>

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<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">Its not all UB's fault. It a fault of Mukut too.. and of all in the family.</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">Mukut, instead of fighting for his rights and happiness, agreed to UB's proposal. May be he was scared otherwise he would lose the property or family or all the worldly things. He agreed and married Kaumodi, born two children and pretended to the world and to his mother that he is a good and responsible man. And during all these he still kept his chosen love life alive, took an alternative way and continued having relationship with another girl. So he is destroying several lives (his wife, children and Mayuri) for his spinelessness and selfish desire.</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">What Manav did now, being the youngest, fought for his love and made his mother accept his love..., it is in fact Mukut, who should have done that years ago and that might have saved other brothers, too.</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">UB is UB today, because others allowed her to become that.</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">So its not all UB's fault.</font>

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Originally posted by: princessunara

true!! agree with everything!!
sorry my last line was not meant as a summary of the full post! i think i better edit it cz the full post I have put the blame on Mukut and only last minute remembered to add UB in to it!

he was wrong not to raise his voice and fight it out before it became so complicated! he made his bed, and now he feels the heat and cannot lie on it!
He is very wrong in everything except for feeling what he does, that at least i can understand..
not that it makes any of it right :((

Originally posted by: jaya100

I agree totally Sunara. I do feel bad for Mukut even though he is responsible for letting UB bulldozer him into marrying someone he hadn't even seen. Mind you it's got to be hard to argue with someone like UB and we don't know how old he was and what his life experiences were at that point in time and also a lot of times the oldest child in the family is the one who abides by all the rules although in this case the following 2 did as well.
this is very true! the eldest kid is like the guinea pig for the parents to experiment with and due to lack of examples to compare with usually the eldest child does have to give in a lot and adhere to every rule, while once the elder 1 gets older and more independent the younger ones get to see that and they seek that freedom way way early!!
I always wondered why Manthan left home and was it that he didn't want to marry Sanjana but UB perhaps convinced him and brought him back home.
hmm.. r u sure di it was Manthan who left? anyway I think despite being the black sheep he actually cares for his wife unlike Mukut! And lol Sanjana is stupid but i think she is quite in with the romantic parts.. meaning they have a better hubby-wife relationship..
I think it was easier for Manav being the pampered younger one who knew how to get around his Mom, but having said that perhaps if he hadn't discovered her deceit he would be in the same boat as his brothers.
yup!

My heart bleeds for Kaumudi but at the same time she knows her husband isn't happy and I wonder if she's ever tried to figure out the reason why...he keeps telling her all you know how to do is cook, does it occur to her to ask him what he wants or to tell him she's not happy either. Both know there's something missing or wrong in their marriage but they haven't tried to address the issues.
i know!! but then again being so village bought up its not normal for her to be so forward i guess. she thinks she has lots of inadequacies and takes all the shit dished out at her! so these addressing issues in marriages happens ONLY in modern marriages, i doubt any traditional marriages every goes through that. they busy their heads in the sand box n try to stick it out.

Unfortunately, people are under the misconception that having a child or two will solve all marital woes whereas in reality children no matter how loved they are add stress onto a weak marriage. I don't subscribe to the policy of staying together for the sake of the children because a home with 2 unhappy parents is worse than 2 homes with 2 happy parents.
true i agree. Its dependent on situation to situation. I have a very close family example where a family stuck together for a baby, n they r still unhappy but the kids r quite happy and brought up with lots of emotional security as opposed to had they separated earlier..
but it will be different in another situation..so.. but in a situation like this where differences seem to be so vast, a separation might be the best!

Here though if a separation were to occur than more than the children the negative affect would be on Kaumudi.
exactly!! its gonna ruin her life unless a separation involves Mukut leaving home and Kaumadi and kids staying with the in laws and being given emotional and financial security.. that would be the best solution right now.

If they show Kaumudi standing on her own feet and leaving Mukut that would be something totally different but I doubt that would happen but I hope the track won't be all about how Kaumudi with CC's help changes for Mukut but that she changes for herself and her well being and Mukut should be shown to appreciate Kaumudi for who she is. I hope the cvs will spend time on exploring this track because the cat they have is awesome, and not just use it to show how CC sorts out everything.
ya a combination of all these might be good..

The PH's intention was to make the show light hearted but they have so much talent on their hands that they should consider changing that thinking and actually going into depth with the emotions the characters are facing particularly for this track.