Second Hand Jawaani # 21 ( Members Only )

Thank you Beena for another superb idea and thread. Congrats girls for the new thread.

Relationship to me is the fuel of our day to day existence as humans...just imagine a life devoid of any contacts. Family, friends, neighbor even pets give us a sense of belonging, an abode and existence in this vast world of strangers...otherwise we'd be just another face in the crowd of others. We feel home when we're in the cocoon of our relations, our comfort zone.

SHJ and my crooner friends are my home in IF...each of us is unique but bonded in a common denominator of acceptance, friendship and varying levels of gutterpanti. 😆😆And IPK is our umbilical cord that entwined each of our otherwise diverse lives into a relation of love: friendship.

So thank you my friends for giving me a place in your lives, hopefully your heart ( even when we disagree over Barun/Sanaya/ Arnav/Khushi) as you all are in mine. Love you.🤗

Originally posted by: UltimateBarun

Hayee...how philosophical ...absolutely loved the web n spider relationship showed by maddy...coffee sippingvreminded me ig baghbaan...u ve written verything so bootifully..that I almost passed out after reading first 2 lines..but again had to grab oxford dictionary to undrrstand the depth of relationship.

Padhte padhte laga ki ek sadee nikal gayee
Jo barf kahi dil dimagh pe jam gayee the woh bhi pighal gayee
Ab sab kuch saaf nazar aata hai
Tum ab ghussa karogi to karlo..mera kya jata hai

Waisa baba kyun nai jhalak dikhlata hai?
By baba I mean baba sehgal..thanda thands pani wala

Not the naariyal pani wala...




Sehgal to phir bi aa bhi jaye..
Sobti ns jaane kahan baitha hai apna moo chupaye
Ek baar aake ek smile de jaata
Iss thread ko padhne ki thakaan lejaata
😉

Originally posted by: beena14

'When we trust someone, we become vulnerable, yet to find love and joy, we often have to risk becoming vulnerable."

Fix your gaze on a spider's web, and marvel at its texture - a fragile gossamer, yet resilient enough to trap a frantic fly or stand up to a gusty wind! Now ponder any close relationship in your life, whether with your parent, child, sibling, spouse, or lover. Just like a spider's web, these close relationships are fragile yet strong. However, they also enjoy different trust dynamics. For example, even if you've dated your spouse for a decade and a half before marriage, it takes at least four or five years of living under the same roof to build trust, tolerance, and a capacity to withstand ego shocks. In a parent-child relationship ,Biology helps to jumpstart the trust building process even before birth. Have you observed four year olds look admiringly or adoringly up at their parents. They do not puzzle over their parent's capacity to care for them! Other close relationships also share the blessings of an innate trust. We feel completely at home in these relationships. Often, we take them for granted, and suffer pain and loss when we no longer can rely on them for nurture.

Let's leave the warm and fuzzy glow of close relationships for the heady buzz of light friendships. A ladies' night on the town, a school reunion, a road trip with childhood friends, or just sitting on barstools in a coffee shop sipping lattes - the giggles, the hiss of light gossip, the "laugh till you cry" jokes. What would we do without the fun! It would be too boring to wait four or five years to build trust and then share a coffee. In the realm of coffee shop or book club relationships, the "here and now" element relieves us of the need to make lifetime commitments . We can enjoy the relationship in the present tense, and move on. We often need our light-hearted and enjoyable social network to lighten the emotional load of our close family relationships. The former is a lemon meringue, the latter chicken biryani - what is an entree without dessert!

Beena Di