issue of Love and trust.

Trust and love, are they something that always come together bound and unbreakable immediately when you fall in love?

Can you fall in love with a person even though you cannot trust that person?

As far as I know, and my experience is concerned love and trust doesn't come together. Trust is something that develops along the way after you fall in love with a person and get to know a person to an extent that you know the person like the back of your own hand..

There are stages of falling in love and accepting a person as the one for you...

In the first stage of love, there is nothing more than an attraction and a liking.. you may believe that it is love (because love can be defined in many ways) but it isn't the kind of love that soul mates share. You do not know the person well enough at this stage and it is in this stage that you have the maximum doubts about the other person.. you actually wonder all sorts of things about the person with whom you believe that you are in love..

Many of you who are here on the forum, who has crossed the teen age, I am sure must have fallen in love by now.. And to them I want to ask these questions? In the initial stages of falling in love, did you ever doubt your love? did you ever wonder what kind of a person he actually is? If he missed a date, did you ever wonder whether he is cheating you or not?

May be exactly what i said didn't happen to you, but I am sure that some kinds of doubts would have crossed each and every one of your minds regarding the person you have started to fallen in love with.. I definitely had doubts.. And if you doubt the person you love in any way, I say ANY way, what does that mean??? .. that means that you have not started to completely trust that person.. that means you still don't know the person well enough to completely trust him/her.. but that does not make the feelings that you have for the person lacking in some way.. it just means that you have not reached that stage of love and being together which makes you trust the other person more than anyone else.. And this takes time to happen.

Asad and Zoya are very much like some real life characters, even though at times CVs have taken the creative liberty and had shown some not very real life like situations.

So here is AAK, in whose entire adult life, he has not trusted people after what he went through as a child. Asad is educated and Asad is a successful business man.. And he must have achieved so much in business because he has brains and he must be able to judge people as well. But, there is a big BUT here... when it comes to trusting and judging people on a personal level Asad doesn't trust people at all and have a problem in judging people as well.

Now, when I say this you may ask me why is that? Why cannot he trust people at a personal level if he can trust people at business etc..

At a personal level its always more hard to trust people, for a very simple reason.. It's because here it's your emotions that are involved.. when you start trusting a person on a personal level it's your emotions and your feelings that are at stake and you always have the fear of getting hurt if that trust gets broken in any way..( And Rashid did that to Asad).. But in business, its only the money that is at stake... your emotions are not... and we are more careful about our emotions... that's the difference.

And Asad trusts only very few people with whom he has had good experience when he was young.. His mom,Najma, Ayaan and Tanveer. So it's very much understandable why Asad is trusting Tanveer this much. And Tanveer has very cleverly covered all her tracks till now and at this stage there is no reason why Asad should start doubting her.. there is no situation because of which he can suspect Tanveer.

Asad genuinely believed the sob story that Tanu told to gain his sympathy and he believes that there is a stone eyed person out there who is trying to harm Tanu for some reason.

Today when Asad spoke harshly at Zo because Zo couldn't give him that shawl in time, I really wasn't surprised at all. To me, that's exactly how Asad would behave.. especially towards Zo for whom he is having all this mixed feelings at the moment.. And from the precap of tomorrow, we know that Asad is going to suffer when he learns the truth.. he is going to be in agony and he is going to get hurt himself for doubting Zo and scolding her and being harsh with her, especially for such a thing... but this is how a person like Asad can learn to trust someone and believe in real love and companionship.. Asad needs to go through this.. I really like the way Cvs are developing Asad's character and to me it's a joy to see how he is growing as a person. And to me Asad's character is very real.. And i want to see Asad learning to trust someone the hard way because that's the only way he would learn... i want to see Asad grow as a person and change himself and his ways of thinking and his beliefs.. and how would he learn to do that unless he faces these situations? beliefs that you hold from your childhood does not change immediately just because you have fallen in love.. It would change only when faced with some hard truths, the hard way,😃

Originally posted by: s120

Kaussar, I missed you 🤗 Thank you for this post. This is so beautifully explained. 👏

I know that Asad has implicit trust in Tanu and as of now, she hasn't given him any reason to suspect her. Asad is a man who takes people at face value and I don't think he'll doubt Tanu unless he catches her red-handed. But today I was disappointed in him because I was expecting Zoe's fire phobia to be addressed and how could he forget such an important detail about the woman he loves. Was it a blooper or done purposefully because the CVs wanted Aapi to tell Asad about Zoe's past so that it has a larger impact. I felt he was insensitive and rude to Zoe today when he asked her to back off from Tanveer.

I do agree that he has changed a lot from what he was earlier and still he needs to go a long way but today it was a bit much. And its like he doesn't learn from his mistakes. He's done it so many times before, not given a chance to Zoe to speak, cut her off and then later realising that he was wrong and repenting. That's my problem, its like a cycle that keeps on repeating.

Originally posted by: Drea_QH1fan

I absolutely loved this post 😊

I dont know much about love so can't give a detailed comment. But your post helps me to understand it and Asad a bit better.

Originally posted by: cherryfrasier

I agree with you but even before the trust is earned or given one must have Respect And that is what he did not have.

we all want ASYA thats a fact, but i would love to see him show her respect, even if he is still in the stages of trusting...

Originally posted by: cool_sri

agree...good post...