Indian culture , traditions - Page 2

Having the ability to give birth is a blessing from the Lord. There is no denying it. I do however think we cannot ensure a child's safety by giving it up for adoption. Maybe they will be taken in by a family or maybe not. So it's always good to know whether one is physically, mentally ready to bare responsibilities of a child. I do believe one has every right to decide whether they want the baby or not.

I don't think any society accepts unwed mothers with open arms so why just question the subcontinental societies? It would be quite unrealistic to expect them to do so. Even in the most liberal families in the west, there will always be initial shock, apprehension, fear, stigma, what have you. Of course people come around later and that is how it should be from the start but in many cases it isn't. Pregnancy, childbirth, parenting isn't a cake walk. It is a huge responsibility and one that stays with you life long. So you better know what you're getting into. If you are going to be sexually active, then it is both your's and your significant other's responsibility to ensure protection unless you're ready for a baby, emotionally, mentally and physically. Accidental pregnancies mainly happen because of carelessness (excluding any form of rape) or because one partner assumes the other is taking care of protection. The girl should be on some form of birth control and the guy should wear a condom, AT ALL TIMES, if you don't plan on having kids. Forgetting either or relying on ridiculous methods like pulling out is what causes accidental pregnancies. Of course, I am not denying the fact that abstinence is the only sure fire way of preventing pregnancy. However, it is unrealistic to expect everyone to wait to be sexually active until they're ready to have children. Therefore, if both partners are using some form of birth control, the risk is reduced considerably to almost none.