Indian culture , traditions

So I recently engaged in a debate with someone purely on basis of a fictitious show. Do you think Indian society should ACCEPT unwed mothers with open arms? Should the unwed mother be treated the same as she would if she were married?

Well i would be lying if i said there is no stigma attached to unwed pregnant women, in our prestigious Indian culture, especially since virginity before marriage is so treasured.

i dont know about indian, pakistani, srilankan, nepali, bengali, somali, mianwali, or any other culture but in my view unwed pregnancy is not appropriate. most of the world follows a system and that is marriage. in my view pregnancy should happen in that context. thats my take.

I have a problem with is irresponsibility and not taking precautions. I also think it is wrong to have a child when you are not financially, emotionally and physically ready to raise a child.

Otherwise it is a woman's prerogative when she does or doesn't want a child.

If a child is born out of wedlock whether planned or unplanned. I don't think anyone is to be "blamed" or "shunned' for it. However, both the man and woman are equally responsible for caring for the child.

Even if a society thinks it is sinful or morally wrong - the child is blameless and innocent. They didn't have anything to do with how they were conceived. To ensure that the child has a happy, healthy life and grows up to be a well adjusted human - the onus is on society to treat both parents with respect, be supportive and guide them in the right way to raise a child. The way Indian society treats unwed mothers, the taunts of wh**e, immoral, loose and s**ts do nothing but cause psychological damage to an innocent child. Society literally bullies innocent kids demeaning them calling them illegitimate bas***ds and mocking their mom. I don't see how such behavior is the moral high ground.

Now I wonder, what is people's take on a single person - male or female adopting a child?

Now I wonder, what is people's take on a single person - male or female adopting a child?

Originally posted by: ITrustMyHeart

Now I wonder, what is people's take on a single person - male or female adopting a child?

A single person adopting a child is far more honorable than accepting an unwed mother in society with no doubt. Sushmita Sen ex miss Universe in 1994 had adopted two girl child. Since then celebrities have been adopting orphanage kids. It is taken very positively.

So what is the problem with unwed parents? That they had sex before marriage?

The only difference between an unwed mom and 99% of the world's population is that sex before marriage resulted in a baby.

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

So what is the problem with unwed parents? That they had sex before marriage?

The only difference between an unwed mom and 99% of the world's population is that sex before marriage resulted in a baby.

I wouldn't want to kill the new life, so I'd give it away for adoption to some family who might understand me and if once I'd become emotionally and financially stable I'd see if I can take the child back...but hey who am I kidding!

Originally posted by: Gumrah...

Another debate:

What will you do in unplanned pregnancies, where you can't afford to keep the baby: Will you go the abortion route or adoption?

Personally, If i wasn't financially or emotionally ready for a baby, id definitely abort the child rather than give it away to adoption.

Always, always use protection – birth control and condoms if sexually active. If birth control fails, I think abortion is a good choice.

It is always nice to think of giving up a child for adoption. However, it is very difficult to actually give up a child for adoption. Orphanages and foster care systems are already overcrowded and broke caring for unwanted children.

In the end it is the women's choice. Some women cannot even afford pregnancy due to work/school. Some women are not emotionally ready for childbirth and then giving up. Some women are ready to deal with the cost and challenges of pregnancy. Some women are able to bear a child and give them up. I respect and support both choices.