U, Me Aur Hum : Epi May 3

U, Me Aur Hum: Epi May 3, 2013

jaise badal pani ka yaraana hai

jaise gul aur khushbu ka dostana hai

waise hi rahe hum tum, waise hi jiye hum tum

o tere mere hathon mein koi bhi pinjara na ho

ek duje par apna hak to ho, kabza na ho, har haal me

tum, tum bhi raho, main main bhi rahu, hum hum bhi rahe ho...

Communication and maintaining one's individuality are the keys to a successful marriage. A couple that can communicate and a couple that can keep their 'you, me and hum' identities separate are the ones who are most likely to have a successful marriage in the long run.

" Tum dono tho bilkul aise ladh rahe ho jaise 10 saal se shaadi shuda ho'.bilkul husband and wife jaise."

Only a doting and experienced woman like Dilshaad could have made that statement when she caught Asad and Zoya arguing in the living room. Dilshaad, very perceptive about people and relationships is absolutely right. As a married woman myself, I totally concur with what Dilshaad said today. In the real world, most couples communicate via three ways- talk, fight, or silence. While the first two ways are effective, the third one is usually a sign of a dysfunctional marriage. Aren't we happy that our favorite couple is communicating and not in silent mode?

Both Asad and Zoya are very strong personalities, two individuals with distinct identities. Perhaps, it's their distinctiveness that attracted them to each other in the first place. Of course, that does mean more arguments, more clashes and more verbal fights. Despite these differences, these two individuals have unknowingly gotten closer and have become inseparable to the point that when apart, they actually lose their identities.

When together, it's their individualities that glare at us. We see their differences and so does an outsider (eg Tanu) but what one fails to notice is the subtle 'hum' in their relationship. This is what Dilshaad has noticed and that's why she believes that they are indeed made for each other.

It's the 'hum' in their relationship that makes them put up a united front when DB confronts them, when Dilshaad questioned them about the engagement (when they got back from the airport), when they agreed to a formal engagement after Dilshaad's feigned illness and now will join in the jashne-saugat next week. The 'hum' in their relationship craves for each other's company. That's why, they find the most trivial reason to be together, to poke each other, find each other in a large gathering (Valima), dream about each other once they are alone in their bedrooms, risk their lives and principles for each other.

Our beloved couple is a bit nontraditional in the sense that most couples reach this stage of constant bickering after years of marriage. So, one can only hope that their relationship will actually progress in the reverse gear. As they continue to understand and live with each other, we will probably see a shift from bickering to more sweet nothings, from glares to smiles, from inability to look into the eye to more eye locks, from finding excuses to touch each other to finding it impossible to not touch each other.

What a wonderful journey that would be for all of us and for this couple, who are hopelessly in love but are afraid to express it? Will they ever express it in words? I doubt it. They have always been guided by their actions and that's how they shall continue to evolve into their 'you, me aur hum' relatiohship.

Precap:

1. Zoya, Zoya, Zoya'why are you so foolish? It's a good thing that you have turned your brain cells on, but drawing blood from someone? Please leave it to the professionals. Imagine the wrath of your Akdu Ahmed Khan when he finds out what you have done to his tehzeeb-e-afta.

I wouldn't be worried about Asad-Tanu. Asad would never leave his museebat for the tehzeeb-e-afta. If he does, he would be signing a contract for the most dysfunctional relationship in the world.

Why didn't he call Aapi-Jiju? He is an introvert. That's it. I wouldn't take this as a negative sign. He is committed, just too bashful to admit it. As always, he wants Zoya to do the dirty work for him. Imagine after marriage, Zoya will be the one fighting with the milk man, banker and newspaper man toowhile he holds her responsible for Global warming and other perils of the world.

Even in Tanu's case, Zoya will gather all the evidence but hopefully, Asad will catch her read handed and ask her to leave his house and life forever.

My Fav scene:

Zoya teasing him in her room. SJ was just delicious in that scene 😳

No comments about Siddiqui household today'old wine in new bottle.

Asad is not prepared fully. In his heart he wants to do this but his jerk brain doesnt allow him. As for Zoya, she finds this marriage a destiny's decision and want to go with a flow. Asad needs to see that Zoya is prepared to spend her lifetime with him. She likes figthing with him. She likes caring for him. She likes demanding from him. She likes the attention he gives to her. She loves everything about him. Asad needs to get out of shadow of his past and see towards his future which is being woven. I just hope his Ammi knocks some sense in him.

Originally posted by: Salwa_Mehrin

Asad is not prepared fully. In his heart he wants to do this but his jerk brain doesnt allow him. As for Zoya, she finds this marriage a destiny's decision and want to go with a flow. Asad needs to see that Zoya is prepared to spend her lifetime with him. She likes figthing with him. She likes caring for him. She likes demanding from him. She likes the attention he gives to her. She loves everything about him. Asad needs to get out of shadow of his past and see towards his future which is being woven. I just hope his Ammi knocks some sense in him.

Lovely post you have written beautifully^^

I m not good at expressing my thoughts😆

Lovely post Bheegi 😊

Great post. You always see the episode in a different angle and bring a new light altogether. Hats off.
Zoe in precap is scary! I hope she stops doing these things.

Wonderful post..I loved how you described Asad and Zoya..Asad again continued to be delusional in his love for his tehzeeb ki dukaan😆 Its kinda amazing that Asad has this unconditional platonic love for Tanveer and trusts her so blindly that all logic flies out of the window..I kinda pity Tanveer cos its not often that people are blessed with such friends and in her greed she is well on her way too blow it all away..I really hope Zoe dwells on it further..As Dilshad said, they sounded like a much married couple arguing over their conjugal rights😆 The other scene where Zoe asks for a gift was really well done..Surbhi is so good with those instant switch in expressions..Zoe was the woman in control and i loved the mild flirting she indulged in..

LOVE this:
"Despite these differences, these two individuals have unknowingly gotten closer and have become inseparable to the point that when apart, they actually lose their identities."

They actually seem to enjoy those fights!!! Their fights aren't led by anger at all! AsYa as always were a treat to watch today!!! I loved Karan's acting (always do--he's the best) in the scene where AsYa are talking about the rasam/Ammi/jiju and all that! Karan's cute little smile at Zoya when she was asking him for a gift and when she kinda showed a desire that she wants to live in this moment of being his wife even if its nakli..dil say jhoot talk...Karan enacted it so well...Asad loved it and was happy to hear that..wanted to just smile big but controlled it..Karan emoted it perfectly!!! And I loved how he was just staring at Zoya in that scene..just looking at her with so much love in his eyes!!!
One thing I noticed today that Asad kept mentioning that nakli part in AsYa's last conversation but every time he said it..they both looked hurt and sad as if they both just wanna shout out from the roof tops that its asli but couldn't!!! Also I felt like..more than telling Zoya that its nakli..he was just kinda reminding himself about it again and again!!! He wants it to be real so badly..he's doing all the rasam for "mom's sake" but the both know the real thing that's its not the mom, it's what their heart wants!!!
Looking forward to the gift. Asad is full of surprises. He's definitely more romantic than Zoya can even imagine! It's not an easy thing to love someone and "try" to hide it. Its really hard to try to push someone away when all you want is to be close to that person more than anything else. Asad's love for Zoya is so deep--it's the unselfish love..true love...that's why whenever asad says or does anything romantic..it just affects Zoya immensely !!! I know my thoughts are all over the place today haha..just loved these two today!!! What's your take on Tanveer's pregnancy secret..will Zoya find out or Tanveer will catch her before Zoya finds out..change the report or something..


P.S. Sorry about the typos..writing from my phone!!!

Great post Bheegi!