12/4 Dragon Club:SP-Radha's PV..All are invited - Page 20

@ Meena : To my knowledge , I feel a marriage of a couple is certainly meant to live a long life " together" be it a young or old couple !! Love , sex, kids were the secondary priorities!! And as far as old age marraige is concerned , I guess the couple doesn't really seem to enjoy all those stuff like a young couple do!! I think the age and the maturity had a lot to do with it!! At that age , they actually like to have that companionship in each other than any thing else!! And they like to feel they were always with each other till their death and its only possible with a life partner!! And I believe it depends on their own way of thinking and mindset!! Hope I made some sense!!

Originally posted by: anonee

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The Indian style of thinking re: people over 50 was because generally few people lived beyond that age.

Now times are changing as can be seen for the need of Seniors Jeevan Sathi or Punar Vivah. So the mentality and speech too has to be adjusted to accommodate the growing elderly population. Believe me with youngsters being unwilling or unable to care for their aging parents and aging parents being unable to afford Senior Ashrams/Housing I will not be surprised if Indian mentality changes soon to accepting something more than companionship for seniors.

Actually its upto the senior citizens too .. whether they r willing or not ... I mean after marriage , noone really is coming to chk inside your bedroom .. u r married , so u can do whatever u want with your wife and vice versa 😉😆... u hv the legal right with u 😛... I feel Companion ship is something which married couple of all age grps need whether its young or old ... its not about companionship .. its about whether there can b more to the marriage for a older citizen than just companionship and this is a individual choice I guess 😳

Now please do not hit me for saying this -

@ Jyo : Lovely take !! Looking forward to the Ishy v/s AarYa track !! I cant wait anymore for this track to start but have to wait for another 3 long days!! 😆

And Loved what you said about Ishita brainwashing Yash about Aakash and gaining sympathy from Yash!! But I dont want Yash to be too dumb or too naive!! He should listen to her until Aarti tracks her out!! Later Aarti can handle it !! 😉 😆

Originally posted by: cssudha

@ Jyo : Lovely take !! Looking forward to the Ishy v/s AarYa track !! I cant wait anymore for this track to start but have to wait for another 3 long days!! 😆

And Loved what you said about Ishita brainwashing Yash about Aakash and gaining sympathy from Yash!! But I dont want Yash to be too dumb or too naive!! He should listen to her until Aarti tracks her out!! Later Aarti can handle it !! 😉 😆

@ Jac : Yup dear!! I think our demands were gradually being fulfilled!! Lets see whether it is the same with this track too or not!! 😆

@All, enjoyed the episode. More on that later but right now wanted to focus my attention on Bua.😆

I know there has been a lot of talk going on about Bua's wedding. And that has got me thinking. 🤓

I think Bua has conveyed that had SP considered her PV after her husband had passed away, she would have considered it, isin't it? But would Bua want to get married at this time or moment? What if ArYa brought a groom for her? Would she agree? First of all, where would they find a groom for her? If there is a single guy who is ready to marry at this age, well and good. But what about if it is a guy who has been married and who has grand kids? Will Bua be ready to integrate into such a family? Will the family members, ie the sons and the daughters readily accept Bua? Not everyone are Yash and Aarti.

From Bua's perspective, she is at an age where she is set in her own ways. Now if she has to marry and go somewhere else she will have to adjust and change her habits and what not to assimilate into the new family. Akash being so young found it difficult to do so. How will Bua fare? Wouldn't all that be legitimate worries that Bua will have if ArYa or the rest of the family asks her to consider re-marriage at this point of time? Unfortunately in our culture, a woman seems to be doing a lot more adjustments than a man in a marriage. Will Bua have that confidence at this age? Will ArYa or the rest of the family members be able to give her that guarantee that she will lead a peaceful, respectful life in her new family. If I was in Bua's place, I would shudder thinking about all the adjustments I would have to make. I mean Aarti and Pari being so young had such a difficult time integrating into the Scindiya household. Imagine Bua in a completely new home. If it is just her and her husband then that may be an easier situation but in a joint family? I doubt if it will be easy at all.

Right now I think she is happy where she is. Living among her family. They treat her obnoxiously once in a while but they love her. With her bitterness, if she were to go to a new family will the new family have the patience with her like ArYa or the rest of the family does? Her bitterness have been formed over the years. Are we sure that her bitterness will cease to exist when she gets married? What about her habits that have been set over so many years. These are not things she can change overnight in a new relationship.

I knew a relative who remarried when he was much older. Maybe in his 60s. He ended up divorcing the wife because she just couldn't adjust with his family and they were living in a joint family. So it is easy to say why not get Bua married? But there are so many things to consider and yes unfortunately being a woman it makes it 10 times harder than if she were a man.

I love Bua and I would hate to have her being trampled upon by a new family. Also, we are assuming that doing all that society PVs in front of her was being insensitive to her. Maybe she is just happy being where she is right now. I loved that scene in yesterday's episode where they showed Bua sipping tea. She was in her own environment and at peace. Even the scene where Yash and Aarti was fooling around with her was so cute. She obviously gets along very well with the little kids. She is among people who love her and has been with her her entire life. If not they would have chucked her out ages ago.

I am happy that Bua is where she is and I think she is too. If someday she takes a liking to a gentleman who crosses her path and the feelings are reciprocated by the gentleman, then I would want Yash and Aarti and the rest of the family to stand by her and see to it that her dreams are realized. And I wouldn't even mind at some point in the near future the family bring up this issue so that she can ponder over it and think about all the pros and cons in marrying at this age.

But other than that, at this point anyone randomly bringing up Bua's marriage is just weird! Punar Vivah can be wonderful for some people but may not be a viable option for many others.

Originally posted by: jyoti06

@Prityanka ; Mayb u dint feel those emotions because Radha is the same woman because of whom SP cheated on his wife which is Gayatri and mayb u r too attached to Gayatri's character .. so thats the connection I guess .. 😳

I was looking for some Ekta type twists too and thinking some mask man or woman might come and do some bomb blast 😆 but later I realised it was just a symbolic promo and the episode was only meant to show positivity and no real bomb blast ..

Actually promo was smartly done .. if CVs only promoted it as SP-Radha PV episode , noone would hv shown any interest amidst IPL matches 😉 ..so a twisted promo always works 😛

About Radha-SP PV I guess some extent you are right. But I think this is more or less something to do with SP's attitude towards Akash. I know SP is Akash's father and Akash did not behave well and never respect him. But I for once wanted SP to accept his mistake in front of Akash as he did to Yash. And today even Akash apologized so after this even if not so formal but a apology from SP's side must for me in monday episode along with the acceptance of him as his son. Here I don't mean a apology for his affair with Radha and how it resulted to Akash's suffering. This apology should for changing DNA report and enjoying the aftermath Tamasha, denying to accept his own son, give money and wanting him to get out of his life ans cut all relationship from his own family which was his right. And Radah I don't want anything from her except one thing that what she is saying in front of family about Akash for once say it to Akash front to front. That's it. I understand she is guilty but after this apology from Akash side hope Radha does her part. Then I think I can connect with them emotionally.

And about Promo...no...no I was not expecting any mask man/woman in marriage. I was just expecting a big twist in form of a devil other than Ishita😉 But yes Our CVs are smart for sure😉

@Kirti : Loved your take on Bua's PV issue 👏👏 ... I guess u r right .. if Bua's PV had to happen , then first u need a suitable groom for her , then u need Bua to accept that groom and his family and then Bua got to adjust in that new family completely .. her mere bhagwan ki kasam type theories wont work there ... 😆... So well lots of issues here if we actually think about it seriously ..

In SP's case it came rather easy because u had a readymade bride in Radha staying in that same family and already adjusted with the whole family including the grankids like Vedika .. so things were much more easy here ...

Same is not the case for Bua unless u consider RD for her in real 😆😆



@Prityanka : I m sure SP-Akash bonding will come soon next week ... SP will accept Akash for sure now that Akash redeemed himself ...Mayb we might see SP next week accepting that he was at fault too in front of Akash .. lets see ...

Originally posted by: AngeloScuro

Bravo for saying this👏 I totally agree with you! Why is society afraid of stating the obvious!!!😆😳

Even I agree with you both. And thanks for pointing out. What I really meant in my post when I said about need of a companion in old age or after 50 as you said is at particular stage of life man desires for emotional need more than physical. But surely we can not deny or avoid the physical need. Which I guess I did not mentioned clearly in my post though not intended.