Guniyal erred and paid

Many are blaming Guniyal for this whole fiasco.. Why didnt I feel angry at her? She had urged Kumud to go tell her father the day Saras landed in Ratnagiri.. Even after knowing he has rejected her daughter, her motherly instincts and affection came out naturally every time she looked at Saras.. everytime he touched her feet..she gave him heartfelt blessings... she took off his shoes with her own hands when he soiled them.. reprimanded her daughter for not thanking the boy who saved her husband's life.. convinced Dukhba that Saras indeed is Saraswati's son and not Guman's.. he respects her as his own mother and no one can take away the right of being called his mother from her.. This is Guniyal..calm, patient, loyal and supporting wife.. When Kumud insisted that she wants to help Saras complete the prayashchit, she supported her despite of knowing what Kumud feels for him. and that this will only pain her more in future when he leaves..Her affection for Saras was never lessened by the fact that he rejected Kumud..

What is her fault today? Havent we all been secretly hoping that Saras will have a change of mind..?? What has stopped Saras so far..? What has stopped Kumud so far? They both had their chances... I am not saying she is not wrong ..but I can understand her actions.. It takes a lot to make relations..takes one second to break them... At heart she is still a mother who in all probablity secretly wished things to work out for everyone..

why is she blaming Saras? She told him in clear words where his faults lie! He was at fault in writing the letter to Kumud and not to VC. He was at fault in coming to Ratnagiri without informing his parents that he is going there to reject Kumud. If he had informed, matters would never have stretched this far.. That doesnt mean she doesnt realise her own faults.. Those were very precisely pointed out by her own husband and she accepted without a word.. She didnt trust him to deal with the heartbreak.. THAT was her fault, not blaming Saras... She erred and she paid a heavy price- her daughters heartbreak, public humiliation and most importantly her husband's trust..

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I didn't find her fault actually

Originally posted by: vaishali-AR

Many are blaming Guniyal for this whole fiasco.. Why didnt I feel angry at her? She had urged Kumud to go tell her father the day Saras landed in Ratnagiri.. Even after knowing he has rejected her daughter, her motherly instincts and affection came out naturally every time she looked at Saras.. everytime he touched her feet..she gave him heartfelt blessings... she took off his shoes with her own hands when he soiled them.. reprimanded her daughter for not thanking the boy who saved her husband's life.. convinced Dukhba that Saras indeed is Saraswati's son and not Guman's.. he respects her as his own mother and no one can take away the right of being called his mother from her.. This is Guniyal..calm, patient, loyal and supporting wife.. When Kumud insisted that she wants to help Saras complete the prayashchit, she supported her despite of knowing what Kumud feels for him. and that this will only pain her more in future when he leaves..Her affection for Saras was never lessened by the fact that he rejected Kumud..

What is her fault today? Havent we all been secretly hoping that Saras will have a change of mind..?? What has stopped Saras so far..? What has stopped Kumud so far? They both had their chances... I am not saying she is not wrong ..but I can understand her actions.. It takes a lot to make relations..takes one second to break them... At heart she is still a mother who in all probablity secretly wished things to work out for everyone..

why is she blaming Saras? She told him in clear words where his faults lie! He was at fault in writing the letter to Kumud and not to VC. He was at fault in coming to Ratnagiri without informing his parents that he is going there to reject Kumud. If he had informed, matters would never have stretched this far.. That doesnt mean she doesnt realise her own faults.. Those were very precisely pointed out by her own husband and she accepted without a word.. She didnt trust him to deal with the heartbreak.. THAT was her fault, not blaming Saras... She erred and she paid a heavy price- her daughters heartbreak, public humiliation and most importantly her husband's trust..

Guniyal is not the only one to blame. If we have to play the blame game, everyone is to blame starting from LNV.

As you mentioned, Guniyal has been a gracious host and her affection for Saras did not lessen despite knowing about his rejection. My grouse against Guniyal is that she kept waiting for Kumud to tell VC about the letter and Saras' decision on several occasions. She had also read the letter. As a mother who knows the truth, she could have spoken to VC about it even before Saras landed up at their house. Instead she asked Kumud to go speak to him. Kumud who is already heartbroken over the rejection should have been spared of further pain and responsibility of breaking the news to her dad.

Today again she kept waiting for Kumud. Why? The Desai family has already seen a marriage being called off at the last minute by Saras' dad, faced enough difficulties due to that. She is aware of Saras' refusal and even warned Kumud not to have any hope that he might change his decision or harbor feelings for Saras. Just for those reasons, she should have made a genuine effort to talk to VC today and stopped the ceremony. IMHO.

But ofcourse if Guniyal had been the one to break the news to VC in the beginning, how would the story have progressed?😊

@ bold - agreed.

I completely agree with your post. We have to look also, in terms of the roles Guniyal plays in her home as well. She, as she mentioned, has nurtured her family through honesty, trust, and love. However, we cannot forget that Guniyal is not only a daughter-in-law, a wife, but also a mother. She was looking in the best interest of not only her whole family, but her daughter's future as well. If I were to actually look in retrospect and compare Guniyal to my own mother, I genuinely think my mum would have done the exact same thing and hid something so deeply emotional and wounding in order to protect him. That's a component of love after all isn't it? Protection?

Totally agree. I didn't feel mad at Gunial at all today. I just thought she was so protective and loving that it created a misunderstanding against her today. They all fell into Guman's trap. Don't think VC or Gunial were wrong.

I don't blame her at all! Both Kumud and her mother was in a situation not-so-convenient to spill out the truths! First the fire in factory and Vidyachatur becomes sick. Then the go-hatya fiasco and Saras's punishment. Right after that Gumaan landed in their house.

Actually the blame does not lie with only Guniyal..everyone is partly involved in this . just for the sake of Saras to stay in Ratnanagri, all this has happened 😆.

@Infofan- I agree completely.. She knows where she is at fault.. She knows that her husband will find it more difficult to forgive her than Kumud..thats what she kept saying when she was crying in the kitchen.. Practically and logically speaking she should have told VC.. but its not as easy as it seems..specially when you know that VC was sooo happy and excited about this alliance.. and then finding out what a gem of a guy Saras is...It must be so hard for her to let all this happiness go.. secretly she must be praying for a miracle..like we all are.. :))

Originally posted by: vaishali-AR

Many are blaming Guniyal for this whole fiasco.. Why didnt I feel angry at her? She had urged Kumud to go tell her father the day Saras landed in Ratnagiri.. Even after knowing he has rejected her daughter, her motherly instincts and affection came out naturally every time she looked at Saras.. everytime he touched her feet..she gave him heartfelt blessings... she took off his shoes with her own hands when he soiled them.. reprimanded her daughter for not thanking the boy who saved her husband's life.. convinced Dukhba that Saras indeed is Saraswati's son and not Guman's.. he respects her as his own mother and no one can take away the right of being called his mother from her.. This is Guniyal..calm, patient, loyal and supporting wife.. When Kumud insisted that she wants to help Saras complete the prayashchit, she supported her despite of knowing what Kumud feels for him. and that this will only pain her more in future when he leaves..Her affection for Saras was never lessened by the fact that he rejected Kumud..

What is her fault today? Havent we all been secretly hoping that Saras will have a change of mind..?? What has stopped Saras so far..? What has stopped Kumud so far? They both had their chances... I am not saying she is not wrong ..but I can understand her actions.. It takes a lot to make relations..takes one second to break them... At heart she is still a mother who in all probablity secretly wished things to work out for everyone..

why is she blaming Saras? She told him in clear words where his faults lie! He was at fault in writing the letter to Kumud and not to VC. He was at fault in coming to Ratnagiri without informing his parents that he is going there to reject Kumud. If he had informed, matters would never have stretched this far.. That doesnt mean she doesnt realise her own faults.. Those were very precisely pointed out by her own husband and she accepted without a word.. She didnt trust him to deal with the heartbreak.. THAT was her fault, not blaming Saras... She erred and she paid a heavy price- her daughters heartbreak, public humiliation and most importantly her husband's trust..

Originally posted by: veera25

I completely agree with your post. We have to look also, in terms of the roles Guniyal plays in her home as well. She, as she mentioned, has nurtured her family through honesty, trust, and love. However, we cannot forget that Guniyal is not only a daughter-in-law, a wife, but also a mother. She was looking in the best interest of not only her whole family, but her daughter's future as well. If I were to actually look in retrospect and compare Guniyal to my own mother, I genuinely think my mum would have done the exact same thing and hid something so deeply emotional and wounding in order to protect him. That's a component of love after all isn't it? Protection?

I really have no complaints against Guniyal. She hoped against all hope that Kumud and Saras would harbour genuine love and go on with their relationship despite Saras' earlier rejection after his arrival. She gave them more than a few chances. And maybe, that gives her a little credit for her outburst on Saras today. If she wasn't there to shake him up and ask him what he's doing, who else will?