Discussion Topic - I do or I don't - Page 2

nice topic and one we can discuss on even after future episodes.
nice thoughts everyone but can someone please tell me wat the word slut means?? i thought the new oxford dictionary has a new meaning for the word considering that u can use it for jassi. well each one to his own i guess.

**firstly armaan s surely justified in requiring an explanation for wat he saw and i wud ask for one if i was in his shoes. perhaps i wud not have the courage he had to be coming out of the shock as soon as he did.infact it wud take every ounce of emotional strength in me to talk about it to jassi.. or maybe desperation.

**getting those thoughts out of my head wud depend on whether i as armaan go ahead with the wedding or not. if i do,if i have the constant presence oin front of my eyes im sure that offensive picture will die out soon enough.if i ditch the wedding now, it might get stronger by the hour.

**yes i wud trust jassi as armaan and as jassi i wud trust armaan. love breeds trust but it isnt necessary that u always trust the person u love, ideally u shud but trust takes time and can be regained. once i know it was a misunderstanding, i wud trust my husband/wife.
plus u always give 2nd, 3rd, etc., cances to those u love and want to believe in.

** actually no explanation will be satisfactory for the kind of a look that that creep had on his face..thats y i feel its all in armaans head--te doubt and the solution. say he manages to tell jassi wat exactly he saw and she tells him wat happened as clearly as both of them can talk about it,then will armaan be able to get that scene out of his head and trust jassi???coz he saw something which was extremely convincing. so, how can he believe jassis not lying to him???
more than verbal explanations its the understanding of jassis character that will be crucial. its armaan remembering jassi in her braces and specs, being capable of talking to mallika(i cud ve never done that) and forgiving rhea that will give armaaan the proof that he needs of her innocence. plus it wud help[ if he remembered kohinoor and the numerous fake balance sheets and board meetings.

**refuses to marry jassi now, i will still respect his decision coz he believes with all his heart jassi s true and his world revolves around her. his marriage to jasi is not just a wedding ceremony. its a culmination of all thats good and peaceful for him.if he refuses to marry her it ll be one decision that hes taken bcoz of his firm belief that things were wrong and he doesnt want them to be wrong not bcoz society wanted it or some other crap. actually it llbe lik jassi exposing him in the last board meeting.
but please dont refuse to get married armaan

**jassi s wrong if she doesnt say anything more to clarify the situation.till now her reaction has been understandable but if it comes to cancelling the wedding, then she shud put her foot down, pull armaan away and speak to him.jassi on her part can remember that he never mistrusted her wrt purab though she stayed under his roof..so it mustve been something strong to make him think lik that.

** yes marriages have to start on a right note but this s j-a we r talking about who cosider themselves mentally married to each other,so even if they do get married without clearing their misunderstandings,im sure they can wor it out later

i dont expect j/a to think rationally with respect to each other. im only waiting for A to realise his jassi cant do something li that and jassi to help him realise by being her sweet self.
the easiest way wud be for cj to repent and confess to armaan that will never happen.

• If you were Armaan (put yourself in Armaan's shoes and try to think what he must be thinking), and saw CJ and Jassi in a hotel room, would you require any further justification?

if i was armaan, i'd be thinking the same things hes thinking. but yes i would want further justification.

• Would you ever be able to get these thoughts out of you mind?

armaan and his thought have gone aill to wild. if i was armaan, rather then thinking about what he saw, i'd blame myself. if i was armaan, when i saw cj gettn out of the bed, i'd go thr and try to wake jassi up rather then walk out of thr looking like a dumbo. i know he was in a shock but still.

• Would you trust your wife/husband ever?

i dont blame armaan for wanting to knw the truth. but i do blame him for not telling jassi what he saw. trust comes after knowing if that really happened or not.

• What explanation could there possibly be for being caught in this uncompromising situation would you be wiling to listen?

yes, i would want to listen. because if the person is like jassi. she has never given armaan any thing to even think she could do somthing like that. he knows the kind of person jassi is and that gives her the right to explain herself. jassi believed in armaan when ria said stuff about armaan.

• Can Armaan's decision to not marry Jassi be justified (if that happens)?

no, i dont think armaans decision not to marry jassi can be justified. i understand what armaan is going threw but its only what he saw. what u see is not always true. just like everything that shines is not gold, and you cant not judge a book by its cover. he knws jassi and if he loves her then he should knw she can never do that to him.
Please remember what Armaan saw.....he saw CJ naked getting
out from the same bed Jassi was sleeping in.

i know its hard to go ahead with the wedding after what armaan saw. but he should have trust in jassi. trust is the most important thing in relationship, if he armaan does not trust jassi then they have no relationship bc jassi has never given armaan any reason not to trust her.

• Is Jassi wrong for not saying anything? Maybe she is hurt due to the trust factor and has not idea what Armaan is talking about, but do you feel she should be trying to open up some more with Armaan to clear this misunderstanding.

yes and no. jassi is wrong for not clearn armaans misunderstandings. but she herself is in a shock to see armaan like that. bc armaan did not come to her and tell her what he saw. he just came to her and asked her.

• In addition, what kind of impact will this bring into their lives if Armaan and Jassi do go ahead with the marriage without clearing misunderstanding?

this will impact thr lives badly if they get married without clearing these misunderstandings. if i was jassi, i know how much self respect means to her. i would tell armaan that nothing happened and take a swear. if after that armaan still doesnt believe her then i would not marry him.

but now is everything over couse armaan had married mallika . is they no change of jassi and armaan getting back together ?.

sorry peaches a little late...but better late than never! So I wanted to add
my two cents...

I placed myself in Jassi's shoes. How would I have reacted? How would I
give a positive message to the woman of today? What power do I have as
a woman that I can utilize and be a role model to other women?. To be
the the best that I can be so that no one ever questions my intentions.

Armaan comes up to me and says Jassi, wah, wah, wah…cry, cry, cry…

Obviously, I would be really upset, but my inner voice says let's talk, "…
what happened? Let's talk about it. This is quite upsetting. Armaan we
have been through thick and thin. We are about to start a life together,
but if you are going to doubt me then perhaps we shouldn't get married. I
would never do anything to hurt you or make you mistrust and I would
expect the same from you. What would make you think of such a terrible
thing? I am sorry I didn't want CJ to sleep in the cold room downstairs.
He was helping me to get home and I didn't want to seem inconsiderate
so I invited him in my room. I can't believe that you would think such a
thing.

My husband put himself in Armaan's shoes and says he would have
replied to me that "I saw CJ getting up from on top of you, what was all
that? Then he comes and tells me...hey sorry buddy, things happen…
your jassi she really loves you. We had a one stand...it won't happen
again."

Then I would have asked Armaan, "Why would CJ say such a thing?
Armaan would say, "Good question, why would he say such a thing?" Both
of us would have questioned his intentions? We would have sought him
out to question him. Chances are he wouldn't know what to say…

I would go onto say, "I don't know why he would do such a thing. Look
Armaan, I love you and I believe in us. However, I also have to maintain
my self-respect and self esteem. Right now, I am really disappointed in
your reaction. Trust is very important to me and I hope that you trust me
always. I want to be the best I can be as a wife, daughter, mother, sister.
Can you help me or do you choose to not trust me?

Armaan would say to me, "Honey, I apologize…it didn't look right. I was
caught completely off guard and these thoughts have been driving me
crazy. I should not have spoken to you the way I did. It was not right...I
am still growing and I need your help to be a better man. I love you more
than life itself and I can't ever bear the thought of you with another man.
I know you would never hurt me. You are someone I look up to and
respect. You are my world and you revolve around me."

Ok, at this point my husband and I agree that we would have both felt
better and we would have learned something from this situation. For
Jassi, it is a feel good, give the world a positive message that hey you
can't mess around with me. For Armaan, the message he gives to men is
that don't judge the book by the cover.

Getting back into jprasad's shoes. Please someone I beg you if I am
wrong then tell me. I don't believe in trust, but I am making a point to
emphasize it, because isn't this the reason Jassi ran away, because of
Armaan's mistrust? More importantly than that, I believe that
communication is the key to success in any relationship…personal or
professional. This was so easily solvable, why is our intelligence being
insulted? Armaan and Jassi did the total opposite things of what was
considered normal. Therefore they are both to blame.