Discussion Topic - I do or I don't

Peaches, as usual a very relevant and interesting topic.

Now, J is not my fiance, I assure you. And I knew from the update that she had been framed by Creepy.

Yet, when I actually saw Creepy in a Chaddi, (And to add insult to injury, that too in a particularly offensively bright pink chaddi) bending over J, I was rattled. I was disgusted. I was horrified.

All rationale fled from my usually logical and broad minded brain, like spirits would flee from an enchantress and I was in shock for a long time.

I was not sure if I would ever be able to see J without remembering that horrible, cheap and nauseating scene. My first impression was I was witnessing a brothel scene. D*** T n D n G n K.

I have still not got over the shock.

And don't get fooled by the myth of Creepy's chaddi.

Chaddi was wearing chaddi to appease the hypo censor board and to prevent the viewers from dying of shocked disgust or else what will happen to their f****** trps and the so called majority whose sympathy is with Mal!!

That means it was a Creepy in his birthday suit with J, in a compromising position, that A saw.

Now, how would you take that? How would you expect any normal man or woman in their proper senses to take that?

Lying down?

Or just erase it from your mind because you are 'once upon a time playboy'?

One of the reactions that people expected from A in this situation was for him to have entered the room and demanded an explanation from J or at least smashed Creepy's face.

Now, if Deepa Iyer would have been Armaan, she would have just stormed in to the room and kicked Creepy where it mattered and if this would not have woken up her spouse, the poor thing would have been rattled back to her senses and seeing her clothed and Creepy showing off his best asset, there would have been several shocks, counter shocks, curses, counter curses, rona dhona, ruthna manana and in short an interesting and heated showdown but in the end both of us reconciled and back in the Bus to Mumbai, our love made stronger by yet another victory and us eagerly looking forward to our wedding and Creepy probably wising he were dead.

Unfortunately, Armaan is not Deepa Iyer. He takes things at face value, is gullible and it is in his nature to push things under the carpet and not face them till he is forced to. He has also been known to take a break from his characteristic self but this time the sight that was presented to him, out of the blue, was just too much for him, in fact for anybody in his position and it is unfair that a sensible reaction be expected of him.

One thing I cannot comprehend is why the way he reacted is being used against him?

In such situations, there is no right or wrong reaction.

Each one reacts in a different way, while countering the shock of your life. A usually cool and collected person may react violently and vice versa, especially when absolutely unprepared for it.

Just imagine, after nerve racking suspense, you are finally able to track down your would be, hours before your marriage and you go to meet her with great relief and expectations and the sight that greets you is her, wrapped in a sheet to cover her modesty, entertaining a nude Creepy, who's just arisen from her bed with a satisfying and triumphant look; will you have the guts to barge in, confront the love of your love in that condition?

Most importantly have the guts to confront yourself with what you saw?

The main thing is the fear that she will confirm what you saw. The most natural reaction is to run away.

Hoping it was all a nightmare.

Two drinks and everything will clear.

After such a ghastly shock, a man will need to get out of the shock and only then will he be able to get his balls together and do some meaningful thinking. And he's not a seer. Why would he suspect Creepy?

But yes. He should have thought twice that the woman in there was JASSI. Not any woman. But as I say, eyes and the sight that they show you – pretty dangerous.

Visual effects are more damaging than auditive.

When I heard about this infamous scene, I found it repulsive. When I watched the re-run out of curiosity, I was appalled. My hatred for Creepy was like never before and if he had been before me then, I would have not even hesitated for a second before murdering him. See what I mean?

This time, it was not a mere poster that could be manipulated. This time it was as real for A as the blood that was gushing through his veins. I don't blame him at all for the way he reacted.

In fact, I applaud A for coming out of his shock as quickly as his nature allowed him and decided to follow Emerson in that 'action is God!'

Even after witnessing the most disturbing scene of his life, he is willing to give J a chance and is hoping against hope that somehow she will prove it all wrong, which is remarkable and laudable. Like a child, he hungrily begs her to solve the problem like she always does and is willing to even overlook her offence if only she will not hide the truth from him.

This is love. He believes he has that much right over her that he may demand an explanation for what he saw. He thinks he is right and is being sensitive and giving his love a chance because what he saw cannot be wrong.

For him, there is no question of there being an alternate explanation, but his hearting is subconsciously seeking for it, from the person he still trusts, in his heart of hearts. According to him, he is in fact honoring the 'trust' factor and expects J to seal it.

Another complaint against him is that he was not being vocal enough. He was talking in riddles. Now, do you expect him to describe what he saw to J?

For heavens sake!

After the harrowing experience, isn't it enough that he is seeing that horrid scene every minute of his waking life that he will also have to describe it to his love?

Now, when I accuse my love of infidelity, will I tell him, "Lover, last night at Nainitaal, when I pushed open the chestnut brown door of Room No 739, with an expectant smile, in a Yellow checkered Shirt and Brown slacks, I saw a nude Chaddi in a Bright Pink Chaddi arising from next to you, on the same bed (sleepwell mattress), with a satisfying expression and you were fast asleep, bundled in a golden colored sheet, like you had enjoyed it and were in a bliss and your Yellow colored clothes were all strewn about, on the floor.

So, the apple of my eyes, tell me, did you, in spite of conquering heaven in my arms, the other day, on the dirty floors of the studio, have a virus infest your superior tastes that caused you to indulge in PMS with that repulsive jerk, who resembles a distorted version of the human ancestors, that now are not uncommon in a zoo and sports that unparalleled s*** eating grin? I want to hear from your own mouth."

GIVE ME A BREAK!

I think A's reaction was as natural and as sensible as may be expected from a man in his position.

Coming to J, I always think that woman can make or break a situation.

Because she really is the superior in a man woman relationship and hence shares a greater responsibility, in making it work and ensuring that the man, (who I think is really like a kid and a putty in a woman's hands) does his bit too. And J too could have done better than what she did.

Really?

Let's explore this further.

The reaction that was expected of her was that she gave him a plain "Yes Sir! I did it. What say you to that?" or "No! Mere pati parmeshwar. I am yours only for 7 Janams if not forever. How can you even think of such a thing about your sati savitri?"

But instead, our J, decided to follow her love, become a sphinx and give an answer that could well have been a riddle.

But it was not. She reacted the way any woman, would react when the person she trusted more than herself, who had of late stood by her and had promised her the whole world, charged her with such a heinous crime, of which she was not guilty.

Naturally, her ego will do the talking. Naturally she would like to hurt back the way she was hurt. Ego for ego!

I would have done the same but the way I would have executed this 'ego for ego' business would have been slightly more different.

I would have first of all slapped him and then taken him down memory lane, all the time showing what an angel I have been, enduring every inhumanity from him and how I had been responsible for turning him from a beast to a wonderful human and how he could have ever thought of even imagining such a thing about me.

That should do the trick and that he would try to put in his point and in the process, the truth will dawn on at least one of us and well! Something can he hoped to work out.

But because Jassi jaissi koi Nahin, she chose to deliver Parineeta's dialogue, which was a direct attack on A's male ego, which is always vulnerable and drives the possessor to extreme means and hence the slap.

Also, there is this time factor. A had a lot of time to get out of the shock and then react the way he thought best.

But, J had next to no time. Add to this the fact that Creepy had inflamed her further saying that he had tried explaining things to A in vain and A was in hell bent on mistrusting her.

It was most unfortunate that just as J was coming out of shock and was deciphering what exactly had happened, A came back for their second confrontation. And Miss Ice, gave him what he asked, in his language

As natural as it can be but highly unwise.

I will blame neither A nor J. Each of them reacted true to their characters and like I said, their reactions cannot be termed wrong or right but definitely unwise.

And I wish to God that Chaddi rots in hell, which he will, if the maker of this world, takes pity on us and makes that thick skinned, blind, A** see light, some day. But when he does that, hope he doesn't become J's support systems because w e know what effect support systems have on A, AJ and us, ME, in particular!

I was one of those people who wanted the wedding to take place only after the misunderstandings have been cleared. I am mighty glad that A has taken the first step.

I laud him for taking the most sensible decision of his life in trying to settle matters with J.

There is no point, in allowing a doubt to eat you up from the inside and mar the most beautiful and important relationship of your life by conjecturing god knows what.

Communication, even though it may be faulty initially, always opens up ways for a better future.

Now, that the first step is taken, I want the marriage to happen.

Because what AJ relationship now needs is time spent together.

They need to be together under the same roof, they need to see each other, be near one another so that they may have the opportunity to talk or at least, need to be in immediate vicinity of each other so that their love may rescue them from the world of malice that they have been cruelly thrust in to by a creature from the Planet of Apes, suffering from serious personality disorders.

AJ love each other truly and once they are married, they wouldn't be able to stay from each other for long and clear their differences.

It may look like their relationship can never be the same again even if they reconcile but I think differently.

This has happened with me. I get in to a serious row with somebody I dearly love but when the problem is solved, the bond between us is only strengthened.

Whoever was wrong is chastened in the process and it makes both of you cautious so that the next time something like this threatens to crop up, you will at least think twice before jumping to conclusions.

In the same way, initially AJ might be tongue tied and nursing and probably inflaming their hurt ego but true love always triumphs. One of them at least, (I expect it will be A) will not be able to hold out any longer and initiate an emotional showdown. The result will most likely be reconciliation and understanding things and seeing things in a better light.

Therefore marriage is imperative. In fact a honeymoon trip, far away from the madding crowd is a must. AJ need to be on their own for sometime. I know this sounds perverted but I'd rather they went to Nainitaal. Maybe Bahadur or the hotel fellow might spill some clues or an emotionally high strung A might tell J what he exactly saw. Maybe J will find out clues about Creepy's shareefness.

Or maybe it will become worse!

NO! Better they go away to say Switzerland or the dreamy city of romantic Venice and I am sure their selfless love will bail them out of this tricky situation.

Whew! That was so long and utterly nonsensical, I guess!

Well Kameens, I hope for your sake that you have AJ wedding lined up for us on the morrow.

And we want A to welcome Aashish with welcome hands. Got that? Better get it, Hon! Or you'll regret it for the rest of your life!

And yes. I am PROUD of A and J and am sure that this time too they and their love will honge kaamyaab!

AJ FOREVER!

But, VDD for never!