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navya

@navya

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Posted: 20 years ago

#11

Anand had a two year affair behind Piya back and doesn't acknowledge it as mistake yet.......he is still pining for Ratna and still trying to meet her....how can you forgive that. He couldn't possibly love two women at the same time....it is very clear to me he loves Ratna but is married to Piya.

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Purva

@purva

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Posted: 20 years ago

#12

I think it's not easy to forgive as well as to forget. If i was in such situation (just hope i will never be 😉 ) i will be able to forgive my husband but it will take great efforts from me and mind you, greater efforts from my husband. And eventually even if i forgive him; it will always keep coming on my mind whenever there will be a slight reference of anything related to that incident or maybe just like that also. The relationship can survive but it will never be the same again.

So basically, it's possible but not easy to forgive such mistake.

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holeesmokes

@holeesmokes

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Posted: 20 years ago

#13

I think the only reason anand still feels like hes in love with ratna and is pining for her is coz shes not there and he thinks pia is his wife and will always be there. But if u noticed he gets so pissed off when she says shes going to jaipur. So I am guesing when she leaves he will realize that its pia who he loves and i bet by then ratna will be over him and he has lost his job...so hes gonna have nothing and no one by his side. Should be interesting to watch then.

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nikki

@cutienikki

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Posted: 20 years ago

#14

forgiving and forgetting do come together to some degree but don't matter as much when it comes to life. it's clear that life is so "kabhie khusie kabhie gham" yet we march on. i truly think that it's easy to forgive which is a key to happiness. i mean, agar kisi ne kuch ker hi diya hai to usko baar baar sochne se kya faida. lekin in piya's case i think that she shud leave him for cheating on her. if their love or even relationship was strong enough anand, let alone sleep , would have never thaught about any other girl. every girl is a princess and so is piya. after devoting everything of hers to anand its rather weird that anand cheats her.

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Shaista Nasar

@Shaista33

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Posted: 20 years ago

#15

Infidelity in my opinion is the worst crime I can imagine in a relationship. I cannot forgive it... and never have. Everyone has self control... we use it every day when we see a gorgeous man or woman... do we go to them and ask for their number when we already have someone? I would like to think most of us can resist the urge and move on. But when that doesn't happen, what does that say about the relationship? How much trust, loyalty and sacrifice must one give to a relationship? Not blindly. And how forgiving would Anand have been if it had been Pia who had the affair? Double standards I tell you. My feelings are so strong on this subject cause I have been through it first hand and have seen it all my life with couples around me. It is disgusting and appalling. If you cannot be faithful... tell your mate and move on. Don't destroy their image of you so cruelly or their self-esteem. Cause at the end, all you have told your mate is that their are not enough.

Forgiveness comes with atonement and redemption.

Shaista

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spingirl

@spingirl

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Posted: 20 years ago

#16

The story is terrific. It is like a chapter streight out of my life. No it is not easy to forget. Forgive? I do not know. It happened more than 25 years ago and still I feel it happened yesterday. That blind trust is gone. Since then marriage is a kind of compromise. "samjohta". But it was a wake up call for me. Eventhough holding two degrees it was not easy to find a good paying job here in US. I reeducated myself and have made myself financially independent. I did not have that option available at that time. With 2 children I made that compromise. In my case, because of financial consequence, facing both of us, should I say this compromise was made. Today if it happaens again I am ready to walk out. Also one more thing why blame only Anand in the story? I feel we women are our own enemy. Ratna knew that he is married. If she cannot control Anand she can control herself. And it was very ironic in my my case that I was a victim and I was blamed for his affair. Any way I can go on & on on this. Responding is a kind of therapy for me. Otherwise love is nothing but an illusion. To me it is sharing and caring. One does not have to declare the love to the whole world. Its the action that counts not the words.

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srividya

@sree

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Posted: 20 years ago

#17

Piya loves Anand so much that she is willing to give him another chance. She is ready to accept him if he decides to leave Ratna. She is ready to forgive him just bcos he is her husband and she loves him a lot. But Anand does not deserve Piya's true and genuine love. He is lost in love life of two women, does not know what to expect of them, does not know what he has to do in life!!!

Piya showed immense patience and will power in handling the infidelity of her husband. But now, the time is right for her to leave him and move ahead in her life. Piya deserves a better life than what Anand gave her....

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