A 'Zoya' Dilemna-Love Advice

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Hey guys. I was hoping I could get a little help from you all in this lovely forum. The more advice the merrier. I live in the States and attend a university in Pennsylvania. I transferred from a smaller campus to the main one in fall 2011.
While seeking a tutor for math, I met a man. Lets call him "Mo" for short. While talking about tutoring he found a way to ask me about myself and from then on I knew we had a connection. We exchanged numbers and began hanging out shortly after. I slowly began falling in love with him. I can't even explain the words to describe it. He treats me like a queen. So sweet, so generous, so attentive, and such an amazing listener. Not to mention his great looks and strength. I love this man with all my heart. Ive never felt this way about anyone. He's always on my mind and all I wish is the best for him. When we hang out all we do is laugh and forget about all our other stresses that we both deal with. We talk about EVERYTHING. I am so comfortable around him. We have similar backgrounds, beliefs and upbringings. This is the man that I want to be for my husband. I know I'll never find another like him. I want to build an empire with him, have children, share the good, bad and ugly moments for the rest of my life with him. The only thing is we're only friends and I know that he is scared of commitment and to let anyone in. He's never been in a serious relationship either. I have told him how I feel numerous times, gotten mad at him for his lack of communication at times and its crazy that we can still maintain an amazing relationship. But I'm tired of putting my feelings aside. Don't they matter? I feel that this is my soulmate. And u know what else is crazy? I KNOW he feels the same way about me. He has yelled my name In public to get my attention when I have ignored him, he has stood on chairs, and I just FEEL it when we are together. I just know it. Why else does he still want me around when i try to stay away? I shouldn't say this but a bit of my happiness actually lies with him. I've dealt with other guys but definitely never felt this way about any of them. I know this is the Qubool Hai forum so I kinda feel like I am in Zoya's shoes. Dealing with an Asad aka Mo is so hard. U have to try to break such a hard shell and get them to trust you no matter how genuine you really are. All I want is for him to let me in. Damn I am in love!! It's now Feb 2013, What do I do? Anyone with love advice? Even cute stories similar to Asad and Zoya or Dilshad and rashid (before their disaster lol) to share? That would really cheer me up!
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Posted: 13 years ago
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all the Love Gurus in the forum please come for help.

its a cute story you have going on there. i wont advise anything to you because i might not be the right person to comment or advise either.
all i can say is that take you time, and give time to him and your relation with him.
its not always a Fairy tale romance in real world, that a knight comes on a white horse and whisks the princess away and a happily ever after.
you are too young, take time to understand him and Yourself. if he is meant for you you will have him no matter what the circumstances are.
till then chill and enjoy life, as its just a beginning.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I think you need to give time and don't push him further..in every relationship i always feel man should make a move..if a man is string he will never leave a girl or do anything to win the girl...if they are not then a girl's life would mess up...first come out of yourself and think and see him from a different angle..IS he really interested in you and if he is is it for a long time run., i mean was that for life time commitment!!!..dear i feel you can wait or you can just go on and do not dream and build hopes unless he makes a move i mean strong open and a direct move!!..i hope you understood me !!!😛
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: sindu_gurti

I think you need to give time and don't push him further..in every relationship i always feel man should make a move..if a man is string he will never leave a girl or do anything to win the girl...if they are not then a girl's life would mess up...first come out of yourself and think and see him from a different angle..IS he really interested in you and if he is is it for a long time run., i mean was that for life time commitment!!!..dear i feel you can wait or you can just go on and do not dream and build hopes unless he makes a move i mean strong open and a direct move!!..i hope you understood me !!!😛

I def do!! Thank you so much. Its hard but you are right.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: blueflames

all the Love Gurus in the forum please come for help.


its a cute story you have going on there. i wont advise anything to you because i might not be the right person to comment or advise either.
all i can say is that take you time, and give time to him and your relation with him.
its not always a Fairy tale romance in real world, that a knight comes on a white horse and whisks the princess away and a happily ever after.
you are too young, take time to understand him and Yourself. if he is meant for you you will have him no matter what the circumstances are.
till then chill and enjoy life, as its just a beginning.

And you are so right. Its just very difficult. I will try to just chill lol. Thank You soo much!
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Posted: 13 years ago
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it also depends on your age.are you in your teens or your twenties?if you are in your teens you have a long time to go so take it easy.if you are older in your late twenties or thirties and if he is the commitment phobic types, run for your life.believe me you will be better off without him.😊
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I feel you should give your relationship some time. Time heals everything and if he really is meant for you and if you guys are meant to be together things will work out on it's own. Just have faith in yourself, your love and him. Leave the rest to god, all will work out.

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