Women:Mom/wife/daughter v/s proffesional.

this is true for every culture. example : we use 'hillary clinton' not 'hillary rodham clinton'
women are usually identified by their father/husband/son ( in various stages of their lives) as they become their 'protector' . But even if a women isnt working, she has the right to maintain her own identity. Just because some women are dependant in their lives, other people try to claim on their name . But being a working person doesnt mean one is not a good parent. If that were true, most guys in the world would lose the right of calling themselves 'good parent.' Fathers work to earn money for their family true, but it's the women( if housewife) who spends it to take care of the child. If the women is working, then she too earns money which she can plan to spend for her children

a women shoyld have her own identity, thats wat Pretiy Zintas role waz in kank
jus cuz your maride dosnt mean u have to become a house wife and jus cuz u have childern u dont have to give up your dreams
profesinal and personal life should be kept diff. a women shouldnt have to be dependent on ger husband she should be dependent on herself!

Originally posted by: Debo_13

A woman when she is small are dominated by her parents,later by her husband and henceforth by her sons,she always gets the identity of "she is the Mrs.of mr. so-and-so" or "Mr.so and so's daughter/mother"but rarely do we see tht a woman has her own identity.even today when the world is said to be so advanced,majority of the population although enjoy watching independent free casual gals outside in the road,but its is only the reserved,"sushil" woman who stay in the house considered the adarsh nari.Husband's feel insecure when their wife is sucessful,parents r angry when they see their daughter talkin to a guy,or even it makes the children angry,when they dont find their mothers always behind them.A woman who is financialy independant,has a firm stand on the ground,and not dependant on neone else.People say tht if a woman works,she is not a gud parent or mother,but is her life only bouned by relations and not her own life??

Yeah !!! I agree with to some extent and disagree with you some extent.I remember the quote of Manu(not typical ekta kapoor's script writer)

"Na Sthree Swathanthramarhathi"

Means No women is eligible to have freedom.We have somany Manuvadi's in this world.Astitva is an important factor to any human being whether its male or female.One should have one's own vision and reason for existence but at the same time sacrificing our views for the sake of others and responsibilties adds grace to the person.We should'nt neglect the realistic issues for the sake of our Astitva .

I read a good article of Dr Bhanumathi Ramakrishna.She was a multidimensional personality wonderful actor,director,writer,singer.She wrote "No Man wants his wife to be more intelligent than him".It does'nt mean Men does'nt want intelligent wives but they feel little bit bad if their wife suggests an intelligent idea than him first.This is not a characterstic of a cheap man but any man.At the same time a good wife wants her husband to be more intelligent than her.So however intelligent Dr Bhanumathi was she was a caring ,loyal ,decent wife.She never used to dominate her husband.This added much grace to her personality.Marget Thatcher is also a good wife,good mother and also a good Prime Minister.See!!! most successful women ,most of them are modest people.Modesty adds grace to the personality.We need to strive hard to make our own name.It will be really great when our parents are addressed as Parents of (our name),similarly other relations also.This purely depends on how you strive hard and make your people proud of you.This is applicable to all human beings.

Let me know who are those people who simply complain on women!! I will thrash them!!!

Cheers,

Mythili

Originally posted by: mythili_Kiran

Let me know who are those people who simply complain on women!! I will thrash them!!!

Cheers,

Mythili

the computers database wont store if we start namin them.😆

Originally posted by: Debo_13

the computers database wont store if we start namin them.😆

Very Much true!!!

I got a wonderful poem read this:

Imagine a Woman

Imagine a woman who believes it is right and good she is a woman.
A woman who honors her experience and tells her stories.
Who refuses to carry the sins of others within her body and life.

Imagine a woman who trusts and respects herself.
A woman who listens to her needs and desires.
Who meets them with tenderness and grace.

Imagine a woman who acknowledges the past's influence on the present.
A woman who has walked through her past.
Who has healed into the present.

Imagine a woman who authors her own life.
A woman who exerts, initiates, and moves on her own behalf.
Who refuses to surrender except to her truest self and wisest voice.

Imagine a woman who names her own gods.
A woman who imagines the divine in her image and likeness.
Who designs a personal spirituality to inform her daily life.

Imagine a woman in love with her own body.
A woman who believes her body is enough, just as it is.
Who celebrates its rhythms and cycles as an exquisite resource.

Imagine a woman who honors the body of the Goddess in her changing body.
A woman who celebrates the accumulation of her years and her wisdom.
Who refuses to use her life-energy disguising the changes in her body and life.

Imagine a woman who values the women in her life.
A woman who sits in circles of women.
Who is reminded of the truth about herself when she forgets.

Imagine yourself as this woman.

Cheers,

Mythili

Originally posted by: mythili_Kiran

Very Much true!!!

I got a wonderful poem read this:

Imagine a Woman

Imagine a woman who believes it is right and good she is a woman.
A woman who honors her experience and tells her stories.
Who refuses to carry the sins of others within her body and life.

Imagine a woman who trusts and respects herself.
A woman who listens to her needs and desires.
Who meets them with tenderness and grace.

Imagine a woman who acknowledges the past's influence on the present.
A woman who has walked through her past.
Who has healed into the present.

Imagine a woman who authors her own life.
A woman who exerts, initiates, and moves on her own behalf.
Who refuses to surrender except to her truest self and wisest voice.

Imagine a woman who names her own gods.
A woman who imagines the divine in her image and likeness.
Who designs a personal spirituality to inform her daily life.

Imagine a woman in love with her own body.
A woman who believes her body is enough, just as it is.
Who celebrates its rhythms and cycles as an exquisite resource.

Imagine a woman who honors the body of the Goddess in her changing body.
A woman who celebrates the accumulation of her years and her wisdom.
Who refuses to use her life-energy disguising the changes in her body and life.

Imagine a woman who values the women in her life.
A woman who sits in circles of women.
Who is reminded of the truth about herself when she forgets.

Imagine yourself as this woman.

Cheers,

Mythili

very nice,thx.😳

shockin but true facts,

Key Facts • Indian population is 48.1% women and 51.9% men • Female illiteracy is 62% whereas the male illiteracy rate is 34% • The labour force participation rate of women is 22.7%, less than half of the men's rate of 51.6% • In rural India, agriculture and allied industrial sectors employ as much as 89.5% of the total female labour

• Women have extensive work loads with dual responsibility for farm and household production • Women's work is getting harder and more time-consuming due to ecological degradation and changing agricultural technologies and practices • Women have an active role and extensive involvement in livestock production, forest resource use and fishery processing

• Women contribute considerably to household income through farm and nonfarm activities as well as through work as landless agricultural labourers • Women's work as family labour is underestimated • There are high degrees of inter-state and intra-state variations in gender roles in agriculture, environment and rural production

• The labour force participation rate of women is 22.7%, less than half of the men's rate of 51.6%

this have given me a new thought,tht is women,participation in any proffesion given the value as it shud get??for example even in such a big industry like the bollywood industry,they speak so much abt a woman's liberty and stuff,but y is it always tht the hero is the main character of the film,even if the heroine is their always her character is dominated by a hero,specialy in mainstream films.In most daily soaps it is always seen the whole situation in a new light.The gud bahu remains at home,helpin her in-laws and if necessary cuttin all ties frm her own family.but it is tht woman who works outside,is senior to her husband in the job,is independant and not a house wife,wants to plan and wait before becomin the mom,is considered the vamp.y is it takin such a fuss of kiran bedi or women astronaut,is tht somethin abnormal,neways one side its gud.The new laws passed abt women rights,even 1 % doesnt affect rural women.

P.S.Thx mods for makin it a sticky.

1. Well, for majority of suppression to women I think it has to do with financial dependency. Some might agree and some might not, but I think it is major reason for all women suppression apart from cultural barriers. I agree with you debo, things are changing and women have started to create their own identification, but majority of women are still identified by their parents, husband and children. I think if women have financial independence she will gain lot of confidence and voice to question her family for her "pehchan" in this world.

2. Also, the way girls in India are brought up is that they are literally brain washed to worship her husband and commit herself entirely first to the family. I don't think there is anything wrong with this. I however think that reason for low divorce rates in India is also 'coz lot of women are not too outgoing and self centered which is really good for their family. However, they do not get enough credit for their work here.

3. Other thing is we give lot of importance to society in our culture. What will society think or what will people think if my daughter or my wife will do such thing. Most of the men in India don't help in household chores 'coz what if my neighbor sees me doing laundry and helping my wife. It would be like end of the world !!! isn't it?? 😡 Like you said, if women work "people" will say that she is not good parent or good mother. Why should we care so much about "people". I think when we give way too much importance and unneeded importance to "people" say in our life it's not good.

4. Also, the last reason I think is women herself is not sometime confident and brave enough to ask for her rights and her stand in family and society. It's like when they say "Mange bina to maa bhi khana nahi deti" – Mother also can't know that you are hungry unless you ask for food. (I really don't believe in this, but it's a phrase) 😕