I have seen the following phrase get thrown around a lot in this forum. Have a read:
Madhu is very strong woman in love with a deeply troubled man and she is the only person in the world who can help RK face his demons.
Keep scrolling down there is a reason for the gap
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These the italicized sentence is not own but, a direct quote from Leslie Morgan Steiner's TED talk on "Crazy Love", commonly known as relationship abuse. I just replaced the names with RK & Madhu's. Here is what she originally said:
[I thought of myself as] a very strong woman in love with a deeply troubled man and I was the only person in the world who could help Connor[the abuser] face his demons.
Feel free to disagree. However, do not resort to personal bashing/ cyber bullying. I hope this discussion will not amount to a fandom existential crisis.
Here is why I compared Madhu & Rishabh's relationship to classic abuse. Because, the elements are all present.
- Seduce her/ Charm her: We cannot deny it. He changed, even if it was all an act. He gave up drinking, partying, he believed in God. He was nicer to people around him. He made her feel like the center of his universe. He was nothing without his Madhubala. And, she truly believed the act. She considered herself the dominant partner in the relationship. She had control over the little things. For instance, RK's diet or his outfit of the day. She was changing him for the better.
- Isolate her: RK did not come out of the blue & ask Madhu to come away with me. It was a well executed maneuver. He presented his insecurities about the nature of love. Rishabh declared his affection for Madhubala as if she was at fault for making him fall for her. He guilted her into agreeing to follow him into their own little world where she would be segregated from the ones who loved her. It did not have to be physical isolation, the thought was enough to haunt Madhu. RK was leaving it all for her. She was the reason for him renouncing the glamour, there was no way she could refuse. We all believed it, didn't we? We thought he had become a better person for good.
- Threaten her: The love test is the biggest example of this. If you don't do as I say, you don't love me. RK had complete control over what she wore, where she went, etc. The list goes on. He threatened her with consequences every step of the way. You don't love me, being the most common one.
- Attack: The altar was the final step to ending his master plan. Leaving deep scars on her soul, he was ruthless.
Granted the events happened out of order, there is nothing missing here. This is abuse, like it or not. I do not want her to end up with Rishabh even though I can bet money on the fact that she will. If one makes the mistake of discarding this as something that does not happen in real life, one is mistaken. I watched on TV a woman trying to rationalize the fact that she was marrying her sister's convicted murderer because she was in LOVE. This is real! And, I am bothered, at the very least, to see the grandiose surrounding Rishbala reunion. Madhubala is a violent, unhealthy relationship.
CID
