Does accepting her feelings out in the open make her feelings genuine? I dont think so... What makes it genuine is the sense of dignity u give it to those emotions... Again Pia hasnt been dignified about those emotions.
She cringed every time Jai touched her before their marriage; she hated the fact that he was too old for her, why would she desire a physical relationship with him now, since it is the same Jai Walia who she left at her wedding altar to face humiliation of people: why would she desire him physically now, as it was one of the reasons she left Jai Walia for.She cannot desire Jai just because of his display of concern and care for Bani.
What gives Pia the right to chance her priorities and opinions as and when she wants and she expects the world around it to abide by it? She better understand that she has no right over Jai whatsoever. I completely understand not having a right on someone doesnt take away ur right to love teh person... but what is WRONG is trying to exercise it by hook or crook... which is what Pia is doing...by twisting Jai's words and concerns to suit herself!
Is it really the case that she is jealous of Bani because of her position as the Lady of the house or because of Bani's position in Jai's life and his family? Why are we questioning her love because she refuses to give up on a man she loves? Just because it is not moralistic, she will be blamed for loving her Sister's husband?
I believe True Love can never be morally wrong. But what True Love deserves is simple Dignity for its feeelings... once the dignity is in place... u wont cross ur limits and yet love the person forever! Tomorrow if Bani leaves Jai, and Jai is forced to marry someone else... Bani will still Ove him, I wont call Bani's love moralistically wrong, cause Bani knows to maintain the dignity of her emotions... she would never want to be the other woman in Jai's life.... and if Bani marries someone else, even Jai will maintain his dignity and will continue to love Bani. That is the main difference between Jai-Bani and Pia!
One question always bugged me- Why Pia eloped with Pushkar on her wedding day-because she genuinely loved Pushkar or because she was scared of her life with Jai Walia,a rich man but too old for her? JW promised her all the happiness money could buy, but it did not guaranteed the satisfaction (emotional and physical) that a wife should get from her man. Was she somewhere deep within, scared of her future with Jai Walia?
U may be right! It sound typically Pia, and i dont see why that cant be a reason. Now that she knows Jai can satisfy all her needs plus has the bank balance... may be she sees Jai as a better prospect. If u hear her talk, she always laments about letting go of Jai... that is her mistake! She made the mistake of leaving Jai, leaving a great future behind.... now she is trying a way to correct that mistake and get back Jai in her life. That for her is the prime motive. U hear her talk, she says she has landed herself in his mess and she wants to get away from it at anycost. Being selfish isnt wrong, everyone is at some point in time... but not the cost of others lives and happiness.
Why do we think Pia is incapable of truly loving someone? Is it just because she is materialistic, values money and the things it can buy?But it is not the basic human nature to crave forthings you do not have or something you can't have? And wasn't Jai Walia the same kind, before Bani made him realize that he is capable of falling in love? Why we refuse to believe that Jai made Pia realize true love just like Bani made him realize the value of true love. Can it not be, that Pia felt for Pushkar what Jai felt for Roshini and her at one point of time and now, just like Jai loves Bani (still in doubt about it but…), Pia can actually be in love with Jai
Yes, we all crave for materialistic pleasures... but do they become the goal of life? Does those desires influence our decisions at every stage? Atleast not mine. And has Pia ever done or said something in the contrary that i can believe that she is not greedy for her ownself? I am sorry, I have none!
Well, I can vouch for the fact that Jai has never been materialistic... not then, def not now. For a man who has so much of wealth... he never has given it importance in his life. He has always been someone who believes in nurturing life with compassion rather than money... His involvement with Pushkar is one big proof of it....he could have easily given him a cheque and asked his family to take care of him.... he didnt, instead he brought up Pushkar as his own son. So equatiing Pia to Jai is being unfair on the latter!
Jai's concern for Pia is not love (Quote: Cordelia).Agreed…. Jai has made it clear to Pia that he wants Bani in his life but never stated the reasons to Pia, clearly as to why he wants that- because of his social and moral obligations and duty as a husband or because he truly deeply loves Bani. I will not blame Pia for being under impression that Jai still harbors feelings for her. The way Jai made his stand clear to her every time was very vague and it can easy be misconstructed for something else than the true intentions behind the statement. He needs to come out clean with Pia regarding his feelings for Bani, if he really wants her to move on.
WHY on earth is Jai answerable to Pia about his feelings for Bani? WHY? Whatever Jai's reasons are... his love for Bani, his social commitment, moral duty or all of them put together... why is he answerable. He has made his choice clear, and their is no confusion about his choice... why cant he allowed his right to make his choice? It is his life! The only person who has a right to know the reasons is Bani... and no one else, not Pia, not pushkar, not Massi, NOT EVEN US! Jai has made a choice, Bani has consented to it... so that is the TRUTH!
Jai is def not responsible for all her delusions... it is just that she thinks too high of herself, she feels once a guy has fallen for her... they remain at her disposable for life. She has sadly mistaken... Jai has moved on and he is not coming back to her at any cost!
U cant blame Jai is Pia wants to lives in her own delusions... Jai's in actions and words has made it more than clear his future and life is with BANI, if not Bani, then no one else! How do u explain a guy like Jai Walia shattered and broken cause his wife asked him for divorce? Is there any other explanation for Jai going through that immense pain...other than the fact that he LOVES Bani a lot and even the thought of begining a life without her broken him down? Anyone with a sane mind and a warm heart will understand the depth of Jai's emotions for Bani. I never expected that from Pia! She did what was expected from her.... she took the opportunity to seduce him in the name of comfort? Establish a relationship with him when he denied it time and again even in the state of intoxication? Break him further more by telling him that Bani doesnt love him, loves another man... and make him succumb ultimately and then expect commitment from him? I dont feel sorry for her at all. I ownt feel sorry for her even if Jai had been cold and snubbed her.... I am def proud of Jai for being concerned about it. But he knew where is concern ends... he is not going beyond that limit to make her life easy.
This is not a Pia bashing topic but just think and answer to the post.Are we ignoring Pia stand on the entire thing beccause our culture, our morals, does not allow these practises or we hate Pia because as a human being,what she is doing is wrong?
May be she is not wrong, she is just being selfish... what is wrong is maligning Love by associating it with Pia's feelings for Jai! And I refuse to acknowledge it as Love.
And I can gaurantee u, knowing Pia all her so called 'LOVE' for Jai died with that slap. I am more than sure from now on whatever she does in that name....she is going to do it for REVENGE, COLD BLOODED REVENGE. I am sure about Pia and more over i am sure about EKTA and her twists😆
Despite ur request of not wanting to make it a Pia bashing post... i must have ended up doing just that... I am sorry if i offened u.... it just was what i feel about Pia and let me assure u... i have toned down words and emotions for pia.... This is the max i could have managed!
Once again a lovely post dear. Now me better get back to my books....
Luv
Anu.
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