I Have a question - Page 2

Originally posted by: latanzia

In a conservative family and community like this there were not much options left to the family but they were options, this family just chose the easy way out.{marriage to this animal}. they could have send her to live in a convent, or even to live with other family members.

I just hate when people make excuse for these situations, " oh we had no choice we had to get them married" give me a break , did anyone think what that girl life would have been like. hell no they were just thinking about themselves.

Sorry i sound a little bitter, one of my friend was rape by a family friend and even those she was against it she finally gave in to family pressure n married the beast, on the wedding day the mother of the bride was so happy i wanted to strangle her,two months into the marriage she drank poison, in her note she stated that having him touch her was like being rape all over again.

Anyway back to the question these parent could have choose to stand by their daughter. I was proud they way in which Zoya handle the situation. sometimes in life u just have to take a stand and deal with the consequences later.

Originally posted by: enigmatic_zephy

QH raises an important question and I am actually confused as to what is the right thing to do in this case..

1. A raped woman - should she be married off to the same guy? What should parents do in such a case?

Rape is an heinous crime. And the offender deserves the most horrible punishment possible.

But going by the reports and various studies, women who are raped it is the mental torture that takes a toll on them. Mental torture- that is a result of society's pressure.

I realize one thing, for the victim it is crucial that society accepts her , treat her normal .. let her be!

But that doesn't happen here. Getting raped is a big thing in conservative societies and woman end up becoming an outcaste.

I am at dead end, I don't know what to think. In QH given the background, I am just trying to owner if parents were indeed wrong. What should a parent do in such a case??

Stand by the daughter? knowing you have multiple other daughters to be married off. Knowing your daughter may never be married and has no hope for a normal married life?

Don't misunderstand me. I am not saying that marrying her off to that sick man is alright. NO! He needs to be punished.

BUT really, what do you do if you are a parent stuck in a conservative society. Living a life of pariah is not always an answer?

Originally posted by: Laila2009

In many rural societies there is no difference between rape and sex. Once a man has touched a woman, even against her wishes, she is now expected to be married to him. Unfortunately societies are not well educated to know the difference. Once a girl has had sex - even against her wishes (rape), she is tainted and not fit to be married to anyone. In some societies, a rapists can be absolved of his crime if he marries the victim. Families pressure a girl to marry their rapists.

I do not support this practice but i understand why parents do it. In this case the daughter refused and wanted to kill herself - the parents did not care...the uncle was furious at what Zoya had done and it was he along with the groom's family who wanted Zoya dead. That was at least clarified in this episode - something i felt was not clearly explained in the first episode on Friday.