JAAN impact on ANSH- My take on it - Page 5

Originally posted by: TheRedQueen

Wonderful post and discussion.

It's been troubling me that CVs are portraying Anandi like she has been currently rather than as a strong, honest woman with self-belief who manages situations rather than run away so was thinking about it.True they have shown her as a strong woman who faces the challenges headon instead of running away.But even a strong person can have weak moments in life.They may have to go run and hide before they gather energy to fight another battles.Now Shiv has smoked her out the hole she was hiding and promised to be her strength while she battles it out. So hopefully things will work out.

I think perhaps Anandi's issues run deeper than just Jagya's betrayal. Because of her child marriage, the poor child's dreams of a normal childhood and an education were crushed ruthlessly. Parents are who you trust the most and who are supposed to look out for your happiness. She was thrust into the role of a bahu when she was a kid and when she ran back home, she was brought back to Jaitsar by her parents, even though she was miserable. Then, of course, the big Jagya betrayal. She was thrown into a situation at a very young age where she had to work at earning love of the people.She has been made to make life for herself at a very young age.With Shiv she feels she had not done anything to earn his love probably she feel she is not entitled to that love.Kind of unconditional that should have come from parents was missing in her life.So she does not know that love can be unconditional too

Lately, even DS manipulated her to accept Shiv when she was perfectly fine making her life's objective Jaitsar's progress. DS later even tried to get her to remarry Jagya. I figure that she's not quite sure that someone she loves will not turn around on her and make her to do something that's against her wishes. I'm not blaming anyone here but just wondering about the impact of different incidents at different times in her life.She may be having that fear too.May be that's the reason she was resistant to get into another relationship.She probably felt drained giving all of herself to her relationships she felt that she did not have anymore of her left to give Shiv.

My take is that Anandi's hesitation could also arise from the fact that she might be actually falling for Shiv already but is unable to believe that this guy who is offering her the world is for real and for always. She's perhaps holding back because as long as she does not let go fully in the relationship, she can protect herself from disillusionment later. Not fair to Shiv but he signed up for this willingly and happily. Of course, the payoff will be awesome when Anandi declares her love!i agree.By not giving into him and by not letting him get closer to her she may be protecting herself.

I must say though that when it comes to Anandi's relationship with Jagya, I do get confused. Clearly, they were unsuited, Jagya had no respect for her and she would have become disillusioned with him, with or without Gauri. I cannot understand that given that and that she has seen different examples like Sumi, Gehna, Sugna, Champa, Phooli and Asha, she does not reflect on what a non-marriage her relationship with Jagya was. I guess the epiphany will happen as she contrasts it with what she has with Shiv...For all her intelligence combined with common sense she has this frog in the well attitude.She believes herself to be married to him so she fulfilled her responsibilities in that relationship with Jagya.She blames bal vivah for the fate of her marriage.

On the other hand, CVs like to stretch eyeball-attracting tracks so the reason could also be shipping bed death.

I hope in the future the Jagya and AnSh tracks remain separate as they can be living in the same district. Thanks to Ganga, I'm actually looking forward to the Jagya track and seeing how they will help each other.I hope so too.

Originally posted by: hooked

I am glad Shiv showed so much restraint and so much maturity. Although I'm sure no one is actually treating BV as a benchmark on how to loive their lives, but Shiv is having to adjust a whole lot and Anandi's baggage is BIG.

Though - when I look back, Sugna who was resistant to her husband(forget his name - X) coz of her older memories of her dead finace, even X had had to bend over backwards for a long long time. He had to appease his family and please Sugna and he got nothing but resentment from either end for the longest time. By comparison, Shiv does have it very easy - so maybe I shudn't pity him so.

But Shiv is so so very cute and lovable, why can't Anandi just plain n simple lust for him ??? Why why why ???

Originally posted by: hooked

I for one - am waiting for Shiv to start woing and eroding her defences 😃

Originally posted by: aloha123

Somehow I am not able to still get convinced CVs potrayal of Anandi's feelings. It more seems like she is not able to see anyone else her husband and close to her as she saw Jagya more because of her love towards him. Somehow Shiv sad the same thing. With so much hummiliation and rejection from Jagya why the past bad memories are accompained by sour ones and make her feel disgusted of that cheap fellow. Now the meaning of "aap mere aur mere ateet ke beech himalaya ban kar khade hain" goes into drain. Positive impact should have been that with Shiv's friendship of so many months she is ab;e to move on without any difficulty. They should have showm some other reasons for not having intimacy.. not FBs of that stupid Jagya, which now every time I see seems so creepy.

Not everyone is so capable like Shiv, people who accpet/love Divorcee Girl shouldn't see it as an impossible task of wooing their wives.