whats the meaning of selfish?

Originally posted by: bips

ok, the most arguments i see here are that ovi is selfish, whereas purvi is large hearted, pure and sacrifycing. So i am curious, what is the definition of selfish?


Ovi is selfish and thinking just about herself is true. So thats not the question here.

What about purvi? Ovi wanted arjun for her selfish happiness. Ok. But purvi gave him up bec her mom was more important to her than arjun. Her happiness was in her mother. So she is selfish too. Is she not? She did what brings her the most happiness.

I think the ques between selfish vs sacrificing depends on who is ultimately paying the price for it. If i simply give up something then i am sacrificing. If i force someone else to give up their happiness, then it is selfish. If after the so called deal with ovi, purvi simply refused to marry arjun, i would say that she is sacrificing. However, by forcing arjun to marry against his wish so that she can achieve her goals, that is moving onto the selfish territory. Why should arjun pay the price for her mothers happiness?

From what i see that no matter how many eye locks and soulful music plays in the background, both purvi and ovi did what would bring them the most happiness. They both fall in the selfish definitions. So why the double standards? As for arjun - he is a spineless wuss.


So lets have a larger time leap and bring a new set of kids. Ppl with more common sense, less drama and definitely a stronger backbone 😉

Hey Bip, I agree. If Ovi is selfish so is Purvi, and Purvi;s selfishness forces others to sacrifice so she can become mahaan. As for Arjun, I think he needs his head checked, he lives in an alternate reality, he yet to realize that he was the commodity sold…

Originally posted by: jkhusi

Omg please not again the same thing purvi is selfish ovi is not selfish arjun bla bla seems like some of you are waiting for post like this every day seems like some of you are on a mission,Mission blashing arvi every day ,so you blash purvi and arjun hope you can sleep good to night

Originally posted by: bips

ok, the most arguments i see here are that ovi is selfish, whereas purvi is large hearted, pure and sacrifycing. So i am curious, what is the definition of selfish?


Ovi is selfish and thinking just about herself is true. So thats not the question here.

What about purvi? Ovi wanted arjun for her selfish happiness. Ok. But purvi gave him up bec her mom was more important to her than arjun. Her happiness was in her mother. So she is selfish too. Is she not? She did what brings her the most happiness.

I think the ques between selfish vs sacrificing depends on who is ultimately paying the price for it. If i simply give up something then i am sacrificing. If i force someone else to give up their happiness, then it is selfish. If after the so called deal with ovi, purvi simply refused to marry arjun, i would say that she is sacrificing. However, by forcing arjun to marry against his wish so that she can achieve her goals, that is moving onto the selfish territory. Why should arjun pay the price for her mothers happiness?

From what i see that no matter how many eye locks and soulful music plays in the background, both purvi and ovi did what would bring them the most happiness. They both fall in the selfish definitions. So why the double standards? As for arjun - he is a spineless wuss.


So lets have a larger time leap and bring a new set of kids. Ppl with more common sense, less drama and definitely a stronger backbone 😉

Originally posted by: sashashyam

Dear bips,

I agree with you completely, and I have stated exactly the same thing many times in recent weeks. Purvi, in effect, and for her own ends, marketed the man who loved her beyond reason and trusted her blindly,and Ovi, for her own reasons, bought him. How can one be worse than the other?

The fact is that Purvi is steadily being elevated by the CVs to mahaanta lite status, as a sort Archana Jr., jo kabhi galti nahin kar sakti ( who can never do wrong). There is a halo, faint as yet, but increasingly visible around her pretty head.

However, in the latest Friday episode, what she reminded me of was Rakhee's Pooja in Kabhi Kabhie. If you have seen it, you would remember how Pooja effectively consigned Amitabh Bachchan's Amit to a lifetime of longing and suffering, and herself went off and married the Shashi Kapoor character and led a clearly happy and untroubled existence with her husband and son. Amit, on the other hand, never fell out of love with Pooja, and made Waheeda Rehman's character's life one long misery. A rather close resemblance, wouldn't you say?

Shyamala B.Cowsik

Shyamala B.Cowsik