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Beware the Good Samaritan - P

Why is P causing Aarti pain? Certainly he does not wish it - what I mean is that it is not intentional. Rather it is hard for him to do otherwise (my apologies to those who think I am harsh - but bear with me and read through my reasoning). Have you ever watched a scene where a drowning person is being rescued by another? You will notice that the drowning person flails his limbs around in panic to stay above water and attempts to pull the rescuer down with him in the process. So what does a trained rescuer (read lifeguard) do? Constrain the drowning person in order to minimize his/her movements so that his/her threat to the rescuer is diminished and he/she can be saved. Now let's take this example to Aarti-n-Prashant situation - how can P who is in pain (and supposedly dying) harm Aarti?

The neediness of his medical condition established a skewed relationship and permitted his parents to emotionally blackmail her. When I say skewed relationship - I mean a tacit "contract" wherein Aarti-n-Ansh do the helping and pay the price while P-n-Dupeys receive relief with little or no reciprocal responsibility. Initially Aarti was of the opinion that the Dupeys - particularly Shobha would come through and assist her so she took Ansh for the BMT effacing her own needs including informing Yash. But when P entered SM and did not disclose that he was her ex and the Dupeys too lied about their relationship with him Aarti realized that she can no longer depend on them or appeal to their conscience! Their relationship has altered into one where they are inappropriately dependent on her while expecting her to bear the fallout of their lies and deceit to the Scindhiyas. Every need and want of P has to be attended to by her but they will not show the most trivial courtesy of keeping P away from Yash and SM. And what about P - how does he behave towards Aarti?

Hey all! Congrats to PV on 200 EPISODES! I haven't yet seen the episode in English (seeing it in my native tongue makes me more comfortable in drawing conclusions about character movements). However, I've seen it a few times on DM since Friday. Aided by Sanjana's great WU as well as KS and GC's expressive faces, I enjoyed the eppy so much.

I also enjoyed reading everyone's takes on the episode so far. I think I'm pretty much caught up on the thread. My 2c:

• On the serpentine ex-husband. I'm not as kind or as accommodating to this man as some of you are. 😆 He's necessary for the storytelling, but I don't find him an interesting or sympathetic opponent/antagonist. But he is who he is, and he's serving his purpose. His relaxation in the Scindia home under a false identity makes him either more dangerous or more vulnerable than he appears. We end up seeing a little of both.

• For me, the majority of the Ex's scenes with Yash boils down to: Which man knows the genuine "Aarti-facts"? When the Ex-husband first raises the question about Arpita being a possible "obstacle" between Yash and Aarti, he admittedly does so delicately. But Yash quickly corrects the assumption, and I really like the tenderness, softness, and affinity with which Yash speaks about Aarti here. The Ex is clearly surprised and that's when his tone seems to shift a little as he takes the liberty to disagree. For Yash, he seems to paint Aarti with pretty broad strokes as a "typical wife", but he's really referencing the Aarti he used to know, and I find him more deliberate from here. Yash, though, is confident in this second marriage and in the Aarti he knows because he has lived through this acceptance with her; the Ex's reaction strikes me. Once upon a time, he did know her better. But the girl he knew before isn't the same today, largely due to his treatment at the tail-end of their marriage and post-divorce. I believe it was Indu who mentioned this earlier and I agree -- while Aarti's core traits remain, she likely manifests these traits differently now because she's evolving into a woman. Mental storage of a list of her likes/dislikes is a handy yet superficial knowledge. He apparently presumes she hasn't grown (may explain why he/his parents assumed she would have no pity about his plight). That's when he drops that last loaded question like a home-made grenade. The last part of the question is worth pondering because it raises a different issue -- about Yash accepting Aarti's past. Coming from anyone else, these questions might come from genuine curiosity. But coming from the ex-husband who is pretending to be a stranger? Yash's silence draws the Ex to conclude he would be jealous. "Right?" He asks. He may be right, but that self-satisfied look he gives about possibly being right informs my understanding of his movements in the remainder of the scene.

• 3 "Look-aways." After he emerges from the bathroom to see Aarti and Yash speaking, there are times the Ex is noticeably uncomfortable. First, he observes them intently, but then looks down/away: (1.) When he sees Aarti railing against his interference (just before Yash stops her from leaving); (2.) When Yash is coaxing a smile out of her; and (3.) When Aarti sees him. For me, these are 3 key reaction-shots. His follow-up with Yash after Aarti leaves, and the way he speaks to Yash, may reveal the true meaning of the look-aways, IMHO. He realizes he has gaping holes of knowledge about Aarti's growing depth as a woman, a depth that Yash is getting to know and understand. Added to that, he sees first-hand how Aarti responds to Yash's nature and his "simple" methods of making her happy. I think the Ex is sort of confounded by Aarti in the exchange, but he spins it as being confounded by Yash's naivete. For me, addressing the Arpita issue again and after Aarti leaves proves that he wants (maybe needs) to be right in his presumptions about Aarti's behavior in her marriage to Yash. He can't be wrong about someone he "knows" oh-so-well, can he? Yash may be able to make her smile, but he must be too naive to "know" the "truth" behind her "overreaction", right? The Ex-husband wants to sound helpful, but he isn't really because he knows he is the biggest secret hanging over this marriage. He doesn't seem to really care that he instigated them, but does seem to care that he's wrong, and he doesn't like to lose. He wants to win, but, as Prateek joked, Yash wins in what matters. This Ex of Aarti's is shaking loose Aarti and Yash's securities. He slithers in and sheds his skin over issues he knows nothing about. However, his provocation will likely end up giving Yash and Aarti a chance to really understand each other, and fight for their marriage.

• Aarti's reaction against the Ex's instigation and interference is spot-on. Her acceptance of Arpita's place in Yash's heart has been a remarkable part of their relationship for me to watch. In fact, she aided and abetted him in keeping Arpita's memory against the family's wishes and, by doing so, they ironically built the foundation of trust and intimacy they have now. Once he recovered her from Lalitpur, he vowed to not let his past interfere with his present. These are things that the Ex doesn't and shouldn't know about. It's none of his business. But it's here Aarti reveals how territorial she is about Yash and the intimacy they've begun to build. We don't see this very well when she's pulled under the weight of the Dubey's emotional blackmail, but she's clearly protective of this marriage and her Yashji. To have her ex-husband, of all people, trespass on their privacy and pass judgment on their inner-workings, is understandably not only infuriating, but it's down-right insulting for her. Maybe she's more protective because of the kind of husband Yash is. Maybe it's because of how her first marriage ended. Or maybe it's because she knows who this "friend" of Yash's really is and feels trapped by the increasing Dubey lies. Maybe it's a combination of all of it. But, bottom-line is, she's right -- the Ex is in no position to assume what she likes or doesn't like about Yash, what she accepts or doesn't accept in the marriage, what she's comfortable or uncomfortable with about his first marriage. This is their marriage, no one else's.

There's more swirling around in my head, but later. 😆 😃

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Memes of Mere Bhagwan Ki Kasam

Originally posted by: 1HappyGrl

---------------------- When Aarti went to their room, she clearly looked like she went in there for some sanctuary and she ends up finding the Ex there. 🤔 For the love of all things good, can some rooms be sacred please! 😆