Today, I am going to focus on 2 of Aarti's characteristics ' related to the P factor in her life.
The first is based on her advice to Pari yesterday re: NO ENTRY board to unwanted thoughts. Here Aarti has given away her 'forgetting' secret. There have been numerous posts mentioning how Aarti appears to have forgotten the P lie looming over her marriage. Aarti has learnt to forget. What do I mean by this? Let us start with the opposite when you were a kid and had to memorize the tables for arithmetic class - what did you do? Repeat them over and over again ' so that you could recite them cold! Well in the process of repeating them over and over ' you strengthened certain brain pathways to such an extent that they could operate on auto pilot. Aarti has used the same technique for forgetting ' only in a reverse manner. She just refused to let her mind dwell on certain memories; in due course those unused brain pathways were wiped away leaving a faint/no trail of their existence. She can recall the memory consciously anytime - but only if she choses to.
This trait has helped her pick herself up and rise like a phoenix after every fall and emotional upheaval. And was in full display to us when she behaved oblivious to the P threat or AarYa marriage conditions agreed upon on SR.
Now that she has realized the urgent need to convey the P factor to Yash ' there is another character trait that she needs to confront.
This second character trait is avoidance. What do I mean by it? Exactly what I have written 'avoid-ing' the anxiety of facing up and dealing with an uneasy situation. You and I have wanted to do that several times when faced with a situation that we dread - like public speaking. Remember Palak? How she wanted to avoid the fear and anxiety of facing her classmates or the public and recite her poem/speech? Well, Aarti has anxiety too and dreads approaching the topic for several reasons all of which have been discussed in detail in previous DCs. Irrespective the longer she delays - the more her behavior becomes self-sabotaging or hurtful to herself (something akin to what Yash was doing with his boxing bouts - hurting himself). Right now situations have got to the point where she has to meet her fears head on and deal with the issue.
She needs to reveal her secret before Ansh returns from the Dubeys for he would surely blabber to his (Yash) papa. In fact that is the primary reason that she kept the kids with the Dubeys yesterday despite the run in with P and the minor fiasco that followed.
So to face her anxiety, she is doing what any of us would do to prop/brace herself and Yash for what is to come. This is the primary reason for her 'bashans' or 'contrived speeches' regarding family unity, integrity, and mutual support. Although her speeches are directed at SP, Yash, and other family members, in reality she is pepping herself up to face the backlash of her revelation. Today too, her praising Yash - was actually her plea for mercy and forgiveness. And her mentioning the secret while massaging his head - a motion that would elicit calmness, was a prayer aimed at producing no more than a gentle ripple in the calm that was finally settling between them!
Edited by anonee - 12 years ago