Widows.. - Page 2

Widow wearing a white saree was history years ago. Any simple outfits and simple jewellery is worn by these unfortunate woman and it is widely accepted in these days. I have seen in India, widows even wearing little BINDIS also on their forehead not to show that they are Suhaagans but they are living normal life with their kids. People just take diffenrent meaning of white saree. White color means SIMPLICITY and PURITY.

My husband passed away all of a sudden after EIGHT YEARS of happily married life. I was left alone with three little kids( 6 yrs, 4 yrs and 8 months). I was lold by my elders not to wear white or any light color. Even when we did a SHANTI PAATH on 11th day, my brother gave me red bengles. My Husband's sisters said, " you are not alone, you have kids, you have whole family with you." To be honest, I did cried a lot continiusly for two years but then all of a sudden, GOD gave me so much courage that I promised myself not to waste my life crying for something I cannot change. I started concentrating on my kids and my career. Now I only wear whatever I think it suits me not what society accepts it. It is my life, I am the only one who can decide what suits me. Now my kids are teenages and they appreciate so much for whatever I am doing for them. When my kids were little so many people told me to remarry, but I decided not to, because I always thought that no one will marry me to take care of my 3 kids, they will marry me for their own convenience.
It is hard for a single mother to raise three kids on her own, but GOD is the one WHO gave me so much strength and moreover my family and my friends gave me so much moral support that how these kids are grown up, I didn't even felt it. It doesn't mean that I never missed my husband; but I appreciate what my family and friends did for me.
Till now, I even hate the word, "WIDOW". I hate to use it in reality. I always say," I am a single mother."
Some words we use quite often for LESS FORTUNATES are more harsh than the pain thery go through.

Originally posted by: NKSUDHIR

Widow wearing a white saree was history years ago. Any simple outfits and simple jewellery is worn by these unfortunate woman and it is widely accepted in these days. I have seen in India, widows even wearing little BINDIS also on their forehead not to show that they are Suhaagans but they are living normal life with their kids. People just take diffenrent meaning of white saree. White color means SIMPLICITY and PURITY.

My husband passed away all of a sudden after EIGHT YEARS of happily married life. I was left alone with three little kids( 6 yrs, 4 yrs and 8 months). I was lold by my elders not to wear white or any light color. Even when we did a SHANTI PAATH on 11th day, my brother gave me red bengles. My Husband's sisters said, " you are not alone, you have kids, you have whole family with you." To be honest, I did cried a lot continiusly for two years but then all of a sudden, GOD gave me so much courage that I promised myself not to waste my life crying for something I cannot change. I started concentrating on my kids and my career. Now I only wear whatever I think it suits me not what society accepts it. It is my life, I am the only one who can decide what suits me. Now my kids are teenages and they appreciate so much for whatever I am doing for them. When my kids were little so many people told me to remarry, but I decided not to, because I always thought that no one will marry me to take care of my 3 kids, they will marry me for their own convenience.
It is hard for a single mother to raise three kids on her own, but GOD is the one WHO gave me so much strength and moreover my family and my friends gave me so much moral support that how these kids are grown up, I didn't even felt it. It doesn't mean that I never missed my husband; but I appreciate what my family and friends did for me.
Till now, I even hate the word, "WIDOW". I hate to use it in reality. I always say," I am a single mother."
Some words we use quite often for LESS FORTUNATES are more harsh than the pain thery go through.

i do definatly agree with u. y should women hav so suffer more after losing their husbands? ....but i reali admire u and ur courage for bringing up ur 3 kids and having such a supportive family!