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Justlikethat1

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Posted: 13 years ago

Just how hard does it get to forgive ourself when the person you wronged never complains nor utters a word? I am thinking, very hard. How will one know just how much hurt we have caused if they do not say anything?😕 It becomes still harder to forgive oneself if the person who you wronged has forgiven you so quickly with no expectations whatsoever. It cannot get harder than that especially for someone with a conscience.

Well, you would have guessed by now that I am talking about GoHem here. I think Ahem's guilt was further enhanced because of Gopi readily willing to absolve him. If she had shed a few tears or had ranted, then it would have been easier, atleast emotionally. But now Ahem has to work harder because he knows that she will never complain. He will also not know if he ever made up for his hurt completely. That is guess is what makes it harder and makes it sweeter for us.

The downside is that people like Urmi will take advantage of Gopis without an ounce of conscience but as it is a fact that ranting or raving also will not help, we don't have to go there. Any thoughts?😛

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Posted: 13 years ago

Gopi is such a strong person to take all the evil that everyone has given her ... and she never complains ... but ahem felt very guilty which made me very happy, coz I was wondering when he was really going to come around... but he know gopi has forgiven him and she loves him and now he loves her so much...

But perople like U&R will never feel bad about hurting gopi ... that is why I loved what kinijil did to urmil that was icying on the cake.

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Justlikethat1

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: ANJ4
Gopi is such a strong person to take all the evil that everyone has given her ... and she never complains ... but ahem felt very guilty which made me very happy, coz I was wondering when he was really going to come around... but he know gopi has forgiven him and she loves him and now he loves her so much...

But perople like U&R will never feel bad about hurting gopi ... that is why I loved what kinijil did to urmil that was icying on the cake.

Well said Anju😛

I am not sure if I should categorize Gopi as strong or just too soft to stand up for herself but she indeed is resilient to be this good even after what she has gone through😊

Ahem came around quite a long time ago.. But the past to him was a closed chapter. In RN, he cannot avoid the past cropping up all the time in front of his eyes... The final look was the acknowledgement of Gopi's love and trust for him. Ahem always knew that Gopi loved him. I guess today he realized just how fortunate and lucky he was to be still loved after what he made her undergo.. 😔

As for U & R, well they are getting the just returns for their actions.. It will continue tomorrow too😉

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Posted: 13 years ago

You made the great point Harini😊 yeah it will be difficult whom you hurt don't cry or rant or tell some soothing words we can not understand how they feel. Each person is different gopi is forgive and forget kind of character. Both gopi and ahem don't speak much. firstly according to gopi however ahem reacted in the past he is right from his perspective. secondly from eduction track to confession track with subtle actions he showed his like, attraction towards gopi,his caring,support, being patient to her, sharing everything of his own, lovable actions that he is ready to move forward in their relationship. This made gopi to come out of her shell, fear, doubt about his feeling to her.

After confession gopi accident he was with her in all the situation supported, encouraged her with lots of love and care made gopi confident, open up more to him and his family. Now she knows ahem loves her more then his life, he will do anything to keep her happy.,he adores her.Now there is so much comfortness and closeness in their relation .Today she hugged him back her action shows that she is not having any hurt feeling on him at same time it also comforted him from feeling more guilt. Ahem is now more determined to keep her happy more then feeling guilt. From gohem i understood action speaks more then words😃

As you said no use of talking about urmi who is selfish and greedy think only about her.

I hope made sense in this post.

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Justlikethat1

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: archanakarthik
You made the great point Harini😊 yeah it will be difficult whom you hurt don't cry or rant or tell some soothing words we can not understand how they feel. Each person is different gopi is forgive and forget kind of character. Both gopi and ahem don't speak much. firstly according to gopi however ahem reacted in the past he is right from his perspective. secondly from eduction track to confession track with subtle actions he showed his like, attraction towards gopi,his caring,support, being patient to her, sharing everything of his own, lovable actions that he is ready to move forward in their relationship. This made gopi to come out of her shell, fear, doubt about his feeling to her.

After confession gopi accident he was with her in all the situation supported, encouraged her with lots of love and care made gopi confident, open up more to him and his family. Now she knows ahem loves her more then his life, he will do anything to keep her happy.,he adores her.Now there is so much comfortness and closeness in their relation .Today she hugged him back her action shows that she is not having any hurt feeling on him at same time it also comforted him from feeling more guilt. Ahem is now more determined to keep her happy more then feeling guilt. From gohem i understood action speaks more then words😃

As you said no use of talking about urmi who is selfish and greedy think only about her.

I hope made sense in this post.

Made perfect sense Archana👍🏼

I guess that is why we are so hooked to this story.. The change has been so subtle and hence so believable. Ahem did not change overnight and Gopi did not become comfortable in their relationship in a day.. It took time and a lot of effort from both Ahem and Gopi. Today was that one subtle line that Ahem crossed. I think it was the line that he wanted to forget but just could not avoid looking back again..

What I love is the fact that this guilt is not what made Ahem fall in love. He fell in love with Gopi for herself and now he thinks back and feels for the wrongs committed. I love it😳