Anandi's Progress - Jagya to Jagdeesh

1. Anandi, our resident doormat, has NOT forgiven J. Even when she tells DS today that DS can forgive J, she does not say that she herself will forgive J. (I personally think she should forgive and free herself, but woh alaag baat hai). And her floormat (S) is supporting his cute little doormat in this...koi kuch bhi kahe woh unki "opinion hai"😆

2. She addressed Jogiya today as "Aap";

3. She has progressed to calling him "Jugdeesh"

Yes - our little doormat is slowly but, surely drawing boundaries... something J did not do even while he considered himself "married" to Gauri. 😆 She is taking baby steps...but, this is katchua show toh progress is understandably slow. Maybe it will take a leap when J's evil intentions/actions comes to the fore... For now am glad to see the recent progress.

The new relationship is progressing well with baby steps. It should be like this only too much pressure can break her. As far as A forgiving J is considered she has forgiven him whatever she may say...if she would not have forgiven him she would have have gotten engaged to her CS. She is unhappy for him as he is hell bent on ruining the reputation of Singhs. She is still nursing her old wounds which he has given her in legacy. But her CF is doing an awesome job of putting the new love tiles ...just wait for the grouting & sealant☺️

Anandi has started drawing boundary lines between them.

I like her current state of mind.Her concern for his well being is so like her.It is the kind of concern you have for somebody who you know is going through bad times.

It would have been so much better if she had forgiven him not because he deserves but like you said to free herself at least she would n't be feeling bad now,

Many people say that she should hate him but I don't know whether I want her to hate him.I would like it if she is indifferent towards him.I hope a day will come when she stops getting affected by the memories of all those things he had done to her.

Meanwhile I am glad she has someone who accepts her along with all that baggage she comes with.Because he knows it is that baggage she carries with her has made her what she is now and he loves her what she is now and that's what makes him agree to whatever she says and does.

As usual., nice post ...

But as per me., she has done a right thing in not forgiving J...may be she is feeling guilty now., but I feel, that feeling of guilt is not b'coz SHE has not forgiven him, but becoz of her, the family has not forgiven him...and that point makes a lot of difference. Jaggubhai Definitely needs to EARN that forgiveness even from his family...I feel there are no 2 ways about it.

And also, when A realises, indeed he is not forgivable., her mind & soul would be free and happy in all respects...and I hope this moment of realisation will come soon for her...

If she had forgiven now., she is sure to receive another jolt for doing so, in the near future...which would destroy her bliss...as I feel Jaggubhai would have definitely EXPLOITED this forgiveness to his OWN advantage...

LOL...in a lighter vein., this decision of her, had f/ther cemented the collector saab's respect and admiration for her...😳 as she reflected his views on the maafi business...that no one can make / break a relationship as per their whims and fancies...😆

On a serious note., This statement applies not only to what J had done with A & his family but also, with what he has done to G.

P.S : I feel sad, how conviniently G is being forgotten by everybody...😭😉...😆

And I surprisingly disagree with myself! A was right not to forgive J, cuz he is deffo not deserving of forgiveness and she will see this herself soon. As will DS and all. That said it does bother me that she wastes emotion on him.

@Malika - rishta with Shiv is not finish line its start line

@Appy - yes...we have same quandry...it would ve been easier for her to forgive but, then he would ve still found some reason to hate her... that's J for you...and she wud have regretted forgiving

Once again wonderful post Anjana...!

I am so glad and happy to hear dadisa, now it feels that she is really a very much changed women...Her words were heart touching and the way she said that she is their daughter and not a animal that they would shift her from one person to another...It made me feel so proud of the change in her...It must be no doubt painful for her, but she stood by Anandi at the time in need...Anandi is also able to confess her fears to dadisa without a hitch and that shows their strong bond...Yeah she is emotional seeing Jagya in front of her, but she also knows her boundaries now...She is bestowed to someone else now and her relationship to Jagya has ended a long time ago...She won't look back, just because she feels bad for him...Feeling the need to forgive is not the same as accepting him and she knows where she stood in his life now.,...and that is nowhere...Gauri was his choice and he did marry her, no matter it was legal or not...For Anandi it was real and she has already told Gauri that she would never look twice at someone else husband...Further, it is not just question of that...Now she too is bound with a new relationship and knowing Anandi, she will always respect that and would always give priority to that relationship, more than her past...That is the way she is, because once a person like her commits to something it is for life time...And for her this commitment is binded with blessings and trust of so many people on her, which she would never break...

So, yes, she will definately take Shiv's support and move forward, making Jagya realize the boundaries of their relationship, building a clear wall where it is needed, though Jagya would try to break free of it, but he still has to realize that Anandi's decisions are not made on a whimp like his and they are strong enough to hold the storms, when needed...! She will move past him, before him and Shiv will strengthen her trust, with his support and love for sure...! And you are right, she has already made this progress, when she gave her hand to Shiv to put on the bangles...It shows that she is moving forward leaving her past behind...!