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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

One has to have a relationship for that relationship to have issues😛 AnSh ka rishta kya hai? Koi mujhe first yeh bolo? Yes. They are engaged...but, so far they are barely even friends. S may love A, but its yet to be reciprocal. Till the wounds of the past are not cauterized and closed, A cannot emotionally move on...not really. That's where they are now at. Negotiating the past, so they can forge their own real relationship. J is not the glue keeping them together. Bhago's promise, A's respect, and Shiv's love is the glue to their current nameless rishta...


In Shiv's ling - yeh "rishta jo abhi judhi bhi nahi" ... jab judh jaye tab uski aapni problems and challenges hogi... now its the challenges of a divorcee with one step in the past and one in the present...trying to move on with the support of her future. And to overcome the past one must face it...its easy to ignore in absentia...but, closure requires interaction with the past and making peace with it. And jodhiing new rishta requires acceptance, which is not easy and instantaneous when either partner has a past


Anjy I agree with u on the fact that AnSh should have a relationship to have issues.But then that is my point u see.Its been long since A is fighting with her past.Even before S came along she had already come too far.So dont u think its high time cvs shud start building ansh relationship on their emotions.I am not saying that healing is not necessary but till date what all of it we have seen seems sufficient to me.From now on...its time to take a step further.And along with A's past ansh can have their issues too.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Malika - you are forgetting its katchua show... Anandi can only move on after J's return...am just glad its happening pre- not post marriage. Up to now Anandi has not had a clear choice. With J's return she will have choice to move forward. Also, its one thing to marry a divorcee when its an abstract concept and you don't have to confront her past in person...but, now S will have to encounter J and get first hand understanding of JaAn rishta... that will enrich his understanding of Anandi and test his resolve on some level. This is needed for A to move forward and S to understand and prove himself (not prove himself better than J...but, to prove himself a mate worthy of our princess)... S has so far not been tested.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Anjana.,
Did Shiv not u/stand Anandi fully as yet...😕
I thought he had a closure from A on J when she told him, that she could not forgive him...
But we all know., A is still guilty of not forgiving J...Does Shiv also know this...
If so., how will it effect Shiv's resolve., afterall, it is only guilt of not being able to forgive that A is feeling towards J.
Even , If not , why should he be on a testing track for his resolve...he is confident he can win her over and will get even more confident with A's reciprocity...
So, cannot really u/stand how can this be a testing time for Shiv...😕
Pls do clarify on my doubt...😊
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Adi - there are many layers of the JaAn relationship...friendship and abuse both. Its not something overcome with one conversation. True test actually would be a forgiven Jugya not a vengeful one! Shiv needs to encounter the good within Jugya not just the bad to understand Anandi. He also needs to grasp the level of bad.

And its always one thing to have a "theoretical" "abstract" rival and a flesh and blood one that you have to interact with daily. One who thinks they have some "haq" (legit or not) over the one you love. One who has the "power" to "disturb' her mentally.

As for Anandi & Jugya - the opposite of love is not hate and the opposite of hate is not love. Its indifference. Till Anandi is INDIFFERENT to J's presence there won't be closure. And she is not there. J impacts her and maybe he always will... till she makes peace with that or becomes indifferent, her life will remain interlinked with J's.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Anjana,
Yes I u/stood...What u were trying to say...Tks for clarifying...
But U know what...Shiv in a way would be always feeling that even if J is infront of him or not...as A would have been a totally different person, if J doesnot effect her any more...
But, inspite of this, he is composed and balanced and persistent w.r.t his love for her...
Yes, jhelofying J in person e/day would make a difference., but I'am sure he'll care a damn about him...😆
I certainly do not want J to effect A mentally too much ( even after she gets to see a the good side of J at'al now ) as for me it would be a blow on A's character...not only w.r.t J but also w.r.t Shiv.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Uma -

There are 2 levels to A & S's reaction to J:

1. Do they respond to the stimuli/presence of J? A is not indifferent as yet...maybe never, so I can't see how S can be.

2. How do they respond to the stimuli of J? Do they do it with grace or does S become aggressive/possessive unnecessarily? This needs to be tested. Does he turn into Gauri or does he remain secure? As for A - does she retain a soft corner? If so what is that in the form of ? i.e. humanity? And how is that impact her rishta with S?
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Anjana.,
NOOO...Shiv just cannot turn into Gauri...if that happens...no more BV for me...😆😆
As for A., I used to have this doubt...of her soft corner towards J...but now, I'am some how sorted out...it cannot be nothing but a humanity pov...and If I can sort it out...Shiv definitely can...😆😆😆
I cannot imagine Shiv being insecure...that too b'coz of A's reaction to J...unless J become mahaan enough to give insecurity to him...what do u think...will it happen in near future...nothing can be said no...him being a pendulum...😆😆
But i would prefer, by that time...AnSh will be in their own happy world with J completely out of their minds..😳
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Adi - yes...S cannot be insecure types like Gauri at least not unless J becomes Mahaan, which is not happening anytime soon...that said its possible they will sketch scenario where S tries to become mahaan and A doesn't let him🤣🤣

Anyhow this all needs to be explored not assumed, which is what we are doing now.

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