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shehjar

@shehjar

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Posted: 12 years ago

#11

lovely thread umdu..

yes it is gonna be difficult to balance everything ...how much ever advanced we are the onus of taking care of the family falls on the gals especially if ur in a joint family ...after a long day in office u get back home get dinner ready for all ,chk ur kids homework and all gosh i can just collapse sometimes 😆 supportive husbands are great but it ultimately is on the ladies ..so tough jobs for them actually take a lot of effort from them u have to be really passionate to do it ...

long distances between spouses😭 dont remind me ...sometimes u think is it worth it to chase ur dreams and sacrifice so much???
but then i think yes ..u will never be happy if u let go of ur dreams so these are tough choices ...

@ fatima ..well said but i think DABH chose IPS to drive home a point ..girls can dream and aspire anything ..
other jobs wont mean so much of sacrifice as a tough job like IPS specifically in a stereotypical society ..

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UMDU

@UMDU

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Posted: 12 years ago

#12

I agree with you .It is a difficult choice for all women pursuing dreams or maintaining a family.In civil services this choice becomes more difficult.

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Saibal Routh

@SAIBALROUTH

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+ 3

Posted: 12 years ago

#13

Nice viewpoint UMDU, and you have judged Bhabo well, as it is that every mother will want Maa Lakshmi as their DIL.

I guess you are right regarding the fact that Sandhya will have to live separate because of her duties & posting at different locations, I guess the serial may end with Sandhya becoming IPS officer.

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Fatima

@Fatima_Q

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+ 4

Posted: 12 years ago

#14

Originally posted by: shehjar
@ fatima ..well said but i think DABH chose IPS to drive home a point ..girls can dream and aspire anything ..
other jobs wont mean so much of sacrifice as a tough job like IPS specifically in a stereotypical society ..

@ bold: I beg to differ...there are many jobs that require men and women alike to sacrifice their time...doctors, armed forces, politicians, even journalists in pursuit of a story to name a few.

My own aunt is a medical doctor...her husband in the army. But they made a decision to live apart rather than to move around depending on my uncle's posting...their reasoning...they wanted to provide a stable/grounded environment for their 3 children (yes they managed to have 3 kids despite living apart for the most part. 😆) My aunt later went on to pursue a PhD, and now that my uncle has retired from the armed forces...she works in the government's health ministry. She jettisons back and forth from the capital to her home town every weekend.

All this would not have been possible if they had not had a strong family support system...i.e. my nani...she made sure their children never missed their parents...but cases like this are special and not the norm in our society at large.

Anyways...my argument is not for or against Sandhya becoming an IPS officer...Personally it's not a profession I would encourage my daughters for...but I am most interested in how the CVs present their case. Because the bottom-line is not the profession...it's the matter of opportunities being made available to women...and bringing about change in the thinking of families and the society at large about what a woman can and cannot do.

Edited by ummesulaiman - 12 years ago

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shehjar

@shehjar

Voyager

Posted: 12 years ago

#15

totally agree with u fatima .😊.

there are sacrifices in all professions ..ask me😭

but i meant it from serial point of view why they chose IPS for sandy than any other proffession coz they wanted to show the difficulties to convince a MIL for joining IPS which is male dominated profession in her eyes ..

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UMDU

@UMDU

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#16

I agree with you on this Fathima.Life is all about compromises but like it or not it is expected in our society that the woman has to compromise more than the man.Apart from what our society allows a woman to dream or not, one has to decide for oneself whether separation from the family, husband children etc is worth it or not.What brings you more happiness the pursuit of your dreams or your being with your loved ones.You cannot have it all in this profession chosen by Sandhya. To each his own.I am not too hopeful that a change in the Indian psyche is going to come anytime soon .

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Fatima

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Posted: 12 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: UMDU
I agree with you on this Fathima.Life is all about compromises but like it or not it is expected in our society that the woman has to compromise more than the man.Apart from what our society allows a woman to dream or not, one has to decide for oneself whether separation from the family, husband children etc is worth it or not.What brings you more happiness the pursuit of your dreams or your being with your loved ones.You cannot have it all in this profession chosen by Sandhya. To each his own.I am not too hopeful that a change in the Indian psyche is going to come anytime soon .

@ bold: You are probably right here...but let's hope a show as unique and wonderful as DABH succeeds in at least making a dent...😆

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