Whose choice was Shyam for Anjali

Whose choice was Shyam for Anjali - I have a feeling it must have been Dadi thats why she thinks so highly of Shyam and was ready to support him and came when he went to her

Dadi must have manipulated Arnav's mother coz she was weak like Anjali...after today's episode sure Arnav's father may have loved Garima but never cheated on Arnav's mother

Dadi is so fixd in her views/values she has to be the one who caused all the problems for Arnav's parents...she is not the type of woman who will listen and then beyond her on POV and be open to possibilities other than what she thinks unlike Nani who is more worldly wise/sensitive/sensible