Article- Varun justifies TVS - Page 3

Well I can be in any of these professions you mentioned or in some others too. I can even reach this conclusion from experience too, can't I😉?? I don't see the need for you to question my credential; you have the option to just say that you don't agree with me…that's all, right??😃

And for the media pulling up information, do I have to be a journalist, really. By clicking few times, I can pull up some amount of any information through fb, twitter, Google or the variety of databases (sure that media has access to, even if I may not). So, how hard it is these days to get information, in fact can I not assume a few things about ourselves in these limited interactions….😉

Vinnie...Well, there are always double standards. I don't blame anyone. The boys are raised with a different mindset than girls and that even happen in the West. Girls are taught to talk and walk different too. In is an inbuilt subconscious thing ingrained in all of us, sadly. See, how we are talking about if a 'women' can't perform her 'wifely' duties. Haven't really talked about if TVS (the man) is performing his 'manly' duties…and then what if the roles were reversed…can we imagine a girl fedup with his hubby, decides to marry a man, without his consent…actually, how will society look at this girls who walks away from a marriage because hubby failed in his 'manly' duties….. can we envision this scenario – not really, as this mindset hasn't really been grilled by society in us….

I have time and agin been presented with such arguments that TVS was a better option for Sugni, now that TVS isn't in the picture, what options does Sugni have???…nothing other than to be a Bedni..

To me, from this a statement I make the following conclusions (yes, call me evil)..that the poster is assuming the following;

Firstly, that a man can only make the right decision for a girl, or the decision that a man makes is a better one than one a girl is 'capable' of making

Secondly, she will only make a wrong choice and that choice will not be good for her and she can't think of a 'third' option/choice….so a girl's capability is just 2….

Finally, even if she made a choice, then in case if the choice is wrong, she will not be able to live or accept it and take responsibility of that wrong choice. So, it is better to is prevent her making bad choices, choices are going to be made by someone else especially and conveniently by a man….she could rather blame everyone else, then take responsibility of her own actions..

So, see how we have started to value a women's ability to 'think'…and sadly we as women are doing the honors…..

We have talked a lot about being a second wife. Now say, we have a scenario where the first wife isn't able to perform a wifely duty, say to give any heir…So, she decides to request her husband to take a second wife who will fulfill that duty. Now since she consented to a second marriage of her husband can we conclude that she was actually happy doing it? Wasn't her decision motivated by her guilt of not having performed her duty, or her deep sorrow of her 'own' inability or if/or in some cases that hubby forced her to take this decision….so are we just assuming and accepting it on face value…

Anyways, might have digress a bit, but to me the issues isn't as simple as the chemistry of the Jodi… my 2 cents/….

And you are right, women are treated as second class citizen anywhere in the world, be it in the West or East, but my opinion is that the 'respect' given to women in general is better in the East than that in the West….my 0.99 cents of opinion here 😃….