IP REDUX ; Khichdi !! - Page 2

• Mera pati mera Devta hai? Bhala hai bura hai jaisa bhi hai...?😕 OR
• No he can never do something like that. Chhote has been lying to me much lately😭 OR
• I will not think about it coz thinking needs brain and my brainwa went for a walkwa the day I met snakewa.🤢 OR
• Nobody will give me proof so I will get it myself from the horses or in this case snakwa's mouth.

Today Hopefully I would not be contradicted by anyone if I say that the second part of the episode was most intriguing. The conversation between Arnav and his Dadi was the most captivating part of the entire episode. Hats off to both Barun and Swati Ji for literally living and breathing as ASR and Dadi...👏👏👏👏

Today we all witnessed Dadi accusing Arnav for making the same mistake that he made before...What mistake did he make..???

She points out the importance of Shyam in Anjali's life. She points out that the baby needs to take the dad's name. She accuses Arnav for stealing the baby's right and making the baby grow without his or her dad...the same way he grew without his dad...This statement was enough for Arnav to charge like a bull...and leash his anger... I had to grow without my dad because he committed suicide. Not only did he do that he also pushed my mom to commit suicide before him... My heart went out for Arnav today who had to live his whole life thinking his parents never cared enough for myself and his sister to stay alive'''..

Dadi counter attacks him by stating a simple truth that your mother was not courageous enough to stay alive and protect her family and children...for a moment Arnav is lost without an answer...he regains and instructs Dadi to never say anything about his mom...

But the truth is Arnav did know that his mom was not a fighter she choose to leave them...but today that was voiced out by Dadi...

A small boy, who had just entered his adolescent years, couldn't enjoy the joys of life the teen years presented. At fourteen years he loses the love of his mom not by natural cause, but because she committed suicide. Suicide is a moment decision but a decision taken without knowing the implications of the effects that it would have on the lives of those around them. You live life only once and to finish it at your free will is simply escapism...Suicide, an immediate solution to the problems for the person committing it but a life sentence for the loved ones who witnesses that and continue their journey of life.

They live through each day with the haunting truth was I responsible for that, could I have saved my mother, I didn't do enough, She left me without thinking about me & my sister, we weren't important to her otherwise she wouldn't have done that. You left us mom, I hate you''no sorry mom'..I could never hate you''..I love you so much''..you should have never left us'''.I can never be you and I will never be like you. I will face this world, protect my sister and fight against this world. I am a fighter'''...

Next the anger focusses on the person responsible for it. In this case his dad. You pushed her to do that. Guilt'..guilty of negligence, guilty of not being a good husband to his wife, guilty of spoiling the life of a girl because of lust and finally guilty of snatching away the mother from his children had pushed the snr Malik to follow his Wife's path. Was that the right path. No''.Was anyone benefited by his sucide''.No'''

Today we see an ASR who had always tried to prove to this world that he is not a coward and he can never let others decide his fate. He is a fighter and he writes his own fate whether it's right or wrong and take things under his control. The most important thing or rather the best thing about making a decision is that you can never blame anyone else for the outcome. You are solely responsible for it.

Now who else other than Arnav is a fighter''A fighter who does it in her own style''who couldn't be controlled by the Mighty ASR himself''.Of course it's our darling Khushi''.. He fell in love with her for the same reason''.

May be this was the reason he was always pulled towards Kushi from the beginning. A quality he adored and never found so far in any one else not even in Lavanya. He tested Khushi in every possible way only to be proved wrong.

Khushi was eight years old when she lost her parents. She was literally a baby who was completely dependent on her parents from decision making to everything...She didn't even have the exposure that ASR had.

Khushi's parents were snatched from her by fate...try snatching a doll from a child and see their reaction...Sometimes I am confused and wonder with whom was life more cruel to...Khushi whose parents were snatched away from her by fate or Arnav & Anjali whose parents choose to leave them without thinking about them

Whatever is the answer I finally settle for the fact that two fought for their survival and one yet to fight...

Now coming to the rest of the episode. The morning started with Arnav happily reminding his beautiful wife that tonight it's there Suhaag raat. He loved watching her reactions and the affects his words had on her. He walks out with a smirk on his face only to be greeted by his Brother Akash, who requests him for some signatures in a deal. He signs the deal with the smile still lingering in his face. Akash notices this smile and enquires the reason for it and if there was any good news that he wants to share. Arnav merely replies that it's just a good day.

Here I have to point out something I felt when I was watching this scene...

Arnav became an adult and lost his innocence on the day his mom committed suicide. when he lost his dad the family responsibility was automatically bestowed on his shoulders. The responsibility he was never shy off. But in that process he completely lost his adolescent days. He never got to live as a carefree teenager. Today I could see him reliving those days. Carefree teasing Khushi more like his girlfriend''and the walk in the corridor before being interrupted by Akash'..was too good''

Ok now back to the episode...

A frightened Khushi is greeted by Payal in the kitchen who mentions the fear she had before her Suhaag raat. This answer doesn't help Khushi and she becomes more anxious. We all know the implication of our anxious Khushi...More Jelabies, Salwar suit inside out and she went one step ahead and filled the rest of the glass with water...which initially had milk in it...

Arnav enjoys the outcomes of her petrified actions pulls her aside and reminds her yet again about their Suhaag raat.

Anjali politely refuses Arnav's offer of accompanying her to the temple. She also refuses to take Mami to the temple and leaves the house silently. We can all safely assume that she had left the house to meet Shyam. When Anjali doesn't return in the speculated time Mami calls the driver to enquire. When the drives tells her that he had been waiting for two hrs in the temple, Mami hurries to inform Arnav, only to be stopped by Anjali's phone call stating that she is on her way back home.

The day her brother realises the fact that Anjali went behind his back and met Shyam he will be completely devastated. He will be left cheated by Anjali for whom he destroyed his Khushi's happiness...

Thank you all for taking a moment to read my analysis...😃

Love

Sharmi😊

Today's story

A very flustered, confused and scared Khushi is just not paying attention to her surroundings. She pours water into the Dadi's glass instead of nani's, wears her kurta the opposite way and makes jalebi's when nani asks her to prepare kheer. Her naughty husband continues to tease her asking if something is wrong and then reminds her about their SUHAG RAAT when they are alone. He's enjoying her discomfort very much.

Anjali is ready to leave for the temple and refuses the company of both Aranv and mami; she has a secret rendezvous with SOMEONE and is definitely not at the temple. Mami tries to contact her and on finding from the driver that he's' still waiting at the temple and no sign of Anjali, decides to tell Arnav.

Meanwhile, Dadi is grilling Nani about the whereabouts of damaad ji and why he hasn't come to see her. Even though Nani tries to pacify her, dadi does not want any more excuses. Arnav hears dadi's loud voice, comes down and tells the truth about kicking out Shyam because he gave Anjali a lot of grief and cheated on her. He has no intentions of bringing back Shyam, ever.

Dadi asks how Arnav was trying to protect his sister by sending away her husband; didn't he realize Anjali's kid will need the father and does he want the kid to grow up without the protection of the father just as he did? An angry Arnav tells her that he grew up without his father because he committed suicide and his mother was forced to commit suicide too. This, he will not let it happen to his sister.

Dadi hits a raw nerve by telling Arnav that his mother was a weak woman who didn't know how to take care of her family. She says he's still making the same mistake as in the past and supporting the wrong party. Arnav asks her not to bring up the past, the past that shattered the whole family. How hard he's tried to build back his life and to forget the past. Why is dadi bringing back old memories, doesn't she want them to forget the past? Dadi tells him we cannot run away from the past, but we can however fix the present, isn't it? By not bringing Shyam, the future of this house will definitely be affected. Arnav disagrees and feels that his decision is correct, both in the past and now; in the past it was dad's mistake and today it's Shyam's.

Nani comes and uses the ace card 'Anjali' to stop the confrontation and argument. She reasons with them that Anjali is happy because of the puja, so let's all stop for now. Dadi and Nani walk away one after another and Anrav is left all alone once again.

Lone Soldier

Arnav has always been the lone soldier, the one who was forced to grow up fast after his parent's died, take care of Anjali, pick up the shattered pieces of their lives, build a new life that they can call their own, run a business, ensure the safety and happiness of his family members etc. In all this he's had family support, but still he's all alone.

Isn't it true that we all have to fight our own demons? Help may come in the form of Khushi or someone else, but the fighting is ours and ours alone. Arnav is once again a lone soldier who's been fighting his past; he got a brief respite in all these years when he opened up to Khushi, but there's still a long way to go. So, what battles is he fighting now? His father cheated on his mother by having an affair just the way Shyam tried to do with Anjali and both his parents committed suicide and here we have Dadi who's bent of bringing up the past again and again, the same past he's trying to forget and move on.

Sometimes your worst nightmares come true, and in Anjali's case, it has come true in the form of husband being blamed, sepeartion and loneliness. Arnav who's chosen himself to fight her battles has jumped into the war field once again. Remember, Arnav married Khushi because of Anjail; Arnav threw Shyam out because of Anjali; today, Arnav's and Dadi's confrontation is once again because of Anjali. Wondering why Anjali is not fighting her own battles? It'll happen only when the family stops mollycoddling her and gives her a chance to fight on her own. I've said this before that she has to remove the blindfold that she's wearing and see Shyam for what he is.

Living in the past

Funny story: A guru and his young disciple were trying to cross a river. A young and beautiful woman joins them. She's scared of water and asks for help in crossing. The young disciple thinks to himself that touching a woman is a sin and god knows what'll happen, so he refuses. The guru without any hesitation picks up the young girl in his arms and starts walking. Once they reach the other side, he sets her on the shore. The young woman thanks him and leaves. The guru and disciple continue on their way, but guruji realizes something is bothering his disciple and asks him about it. The disciple then asks him how could he just pick up this young woman, she's of opposite sex, didn't he have any feelings, aren't they supposed to practice celibacy etc. etc. The guruji smiles and tells him, he was just doing his duty to a fellow being and forgot about the young woman completely the moment he left her on the shore and his responsibility was done. But, the disciple is still hanging on to her from the time he met her on the other side of the water front and is still unable to forget her. So, who's hanging on the past here? Shouldn't we learn to move on?

Note: Though a funny little story, it had a lot of meaning for me. So, I thought to include it here.

Let me ask a question. Who's not living in the past in the Raizada pariwar? Every single one of them is bearing the burden of the past, all except Akash.

Dadi ji, has been living in an ashram for about 14-15 years and we assume she's learnt to deal with her past by now. But, has she? Like the young disciple in the story, she's decided not to take up the responsibility, left her grandkids with nani and hasn't been in touch with them. Not only that, she's hanging on to the past without letting it go. Does she realize that her family is already burdened with too many things and they do not need the 'WOH HAADSA' and 'WOH AURAT' brought into the picture?

Having said what I did above, I'll give a slight different perspective about dadi. To perform a surgery, you need an instrument. In our case, the patient is Arnav Singh Raizada whose wounds have to be exposed first, the stuff gone bad has to be removed and then the wound has to heal. How to expose the wound? Just cut it open. The instrument in his case (yup, you guessed it) is none other than Dadi ji, she has no choice except to bring up the past which caused a deep wound in Arnav. Can one blame the instrument for doing its job? I'll leave you to your own decision.

After watching today's confrontation between Arnav and Dadi, I was thinking about whos' right and who's wrong. Arnav does not want his sister to be hurt again, he knows the truth about shyam and has made it clear that he will not bring back Shyam. His past is definitely affecting his decision here, so, he's right from his side. On the other hand Dadi feels that Arnav is siding with the wrong party (how does she know this?) and in her POV, Arnav's decision now is bound to affect the future i.e. future of the baby to be born. We never know how the baby will react once grown up and he/she finds out what Arnav did to his father. A very valid point from Dadi's side. BTW is Dadi evil? NO. Does she hate her grandkids? NO. Does she want the best for them? Yes. Considering all these, can we tell who's right and who's wrong? Once again, I leave the decision to you.

To ponder:

1) Will Dadi support Shyam if and when she comes to know the truth?

2) Does Anjali know what trouble she getting the family into by trying to meet with Shyam and hiding things?

Bahut Mazaa Aaya:

I think the whole episode was about confrontation, a FACE OFF, between grandmother and grandson. Swati Chitnis and Barun Sobti were fantastic👏👏👏. But, had a small problem with Barun's tone of voice; volume was not high enough in some places and I missed out on very important dialogs.

Jayashree T. - It's always a pleasure to see you.👏👏