Originally posted by: DiyaS
Also remember Anjali had her own set of complexes to start with, being handicapped. In one of the earlier episodes, she mentions how good Shyam was to marry a handicapped girl like her ... so her first complex, her handicap, second, her marriage broke on her wedding day, third, her mother died on the same day ... many traditional old women would immediately label her unlucky, and apparently she didn't get married for almost ten years after the haadsa ... adding more to the chip on her shoulder ...
Then Chachaji threw them out, they were left homeless, and she was supposed to look after a younger brother on top of it all ... she obviously caved under the pressure, and it was Arnav who had to grow up overnight, look after his sister and take over the role of parent.
In all the Anjali-Arnav discussions when the past comes in, Anjali is never the mother figure ... she weakens Arnav, never strengthens him ... this I have noticed from the start of the show. Both were scarred, but she more than him ... he hid his scars, she nurtured them, both his and hers ...