Would you keep your sister with you?

This never really hit me till my mum came out with a random remark while watching an episode of Behna. She said 'Does Jeevika have nothing better to do other than taking care of Manvi?' (Don't jump on my mum because she will make a comment on every show I love and she's not exactly a regular viewer either). I looked at her and it suddenly made me see something that I took for granted. Keeping your sister in your sasural, especially in the very first year of your marriage is a massive sacrifice in itself. Yet no-one really made a point about it when Jeevika told Manvi to stay with her, none of us really thought that she has her own marital life which any girl would want to enjoy especially in her first year. But why is it not a sacrifice? Well because Jeevika never made it seem like it was a big deal and nor was it dwelled upon. So I asked myself, would my older sister who is happily married keep me with her like that? Well no she wouldn't. These things are much easier said than done. Don't get me wrong, I am really really close to her and I am her baby but after marriage a lot of things change and we know a certain distance has to be maintained. Even if I was suffering from a deadly disease, I wouldn't expect her to keep me with her. Yes there is a difference because JM are orphans but are they really? They have the most loving family in Hrishikesh who dote on Manvi but Jeevika still kept Manvi with her. If Jeevika is not a great sister then why do we ASSUME she has to take care of Manvi? We accuse J of not being the Ek hazaron waali Behna but out of 1000 sisters, how many would REALISTICALLY do what Jeevika did and is doing? We expect big sacrifices from her (which I'm sure will come in abundance) but how did this sacrifice go unnoticed? Is it because it wasn't emphasised on much? Is it because Jeevika never made a big deal about it? Except IT IS a big deal. Maybe not for Jeevika herself because loving and protecting Manvi is like her first nature but it's not that easy as people assume it to be.

very well said...
I second each word of urs:)

A very good question...we couldn see what she was doing for mannu because for jeevika it wasn a big deal..i mean she always looked her sister like her baby..and even if she would get a fever also,jeevika couldn bear it..and now such a deadly disease ke liye tho wo mannu ko ek sec ke liye bhi nai chod sakti..and also jeevika sasural is also soo good..i mean the people der(except swamini and dadaji) also care for jeevika's happiness..and FOR JEEVIKA , MAANVI IS HER HAPPINESS...and also her sasural ppl know it..so it dint become a problem for jeevika ..and now coming to the question if i could keep my sister with me like dat after marriage,i think that purely depends on my sasural and their understanding nature...if they are like jeevika's sasural ,then y not...or else if they are not like that ,den may be i would call her 1000 times per day and find out how she is and all( ofcourse thats an other thing )

Yes Jeevika's sasural has been very supportive but there's also been a history with Swamini-Manvi too. But my point was more about Jeevika's own life rather than her balancing act between her in-laws and sister. That will become a bigger issue later on anyway but for now, even if there were no in-laws left, a girl wants to enjoy her marital life freely and that is something taken granted in show. We EXPECT Jeevika to take care of Manvi but not all sisters would do that- with or without pressure from in laws.

Originally posted by: *Reemz*

Yes Jeevika's sasural has been very supportive but there's also been a history with Swamini-Manvi too. But my point was more about Jeevika's own life rather than her balancing act between her in-laws and sister. That will become a bigger issue later on anyway but for now, even if there were no in-laws left, a girl wants to enjoy her marital life freely and that is something taken granted in show. We EXPECT Jeevika to take care of Manvi but not all sisters would do that- with or without pressure from in laws.

if u see other soaps no sister wud sacrifice her happines so much n let her baby sis live wid her but here we r talking about d show ek hazaroon mein were d theme says how much des sisters meant to eachother..n for jeevika her happiness starts from manvi n same goes wid manvi too

.Not a lot of sisters would do it ... jeevika has completely sidetracked her married life ... what amazed me was how jeevika didn't make a fuss, didn't even think ... her sister was ill, she needed to be with her ... as simple as that

, i'm also thinking from the pov of the parents - who lets their terminally ill daughter go and live in someone else's house"? ... makes no sense

and more than that - the vaderas never objected ... its a huge responsibility ... what if something happened to manvi ? ... how will they face beeji ? ... no family in real life would say yes ... bec if something went wrong, how will you face the parents?

@viratmanvi: Yes exactly! With Jeevika and Manvi we assume they will do all this but while criticizing Jeevika for maybe not supporting VM or other small things, maybe we should stop to think that actually Jeevika is very much there for Manvi even if it is in the background. VM's story may not have blossomed if Jeevika hadn't made Manvi stay with her in the first place. If we can criticize her for small things then why not appreciate her for this silent sacrifice? And if we take it for granted that Jeevika should do this then surely she isn't a less than great sister after all.

Originally posted by: bips

.Not a lot of sisters would do it ... jeevika has completely sidetracked her married life ... what amazed me was how jeevika didn't make a fuss, didn't even think ... her sister was ill, she needed to be with her ... as simple as that

, i'm also thinking from the pov of the parents - who lets their terminally ill daughter go and live in someone else's house"? ... makes no sense

and more than that - the vaderas never objected ... its a huge responsibility ... what if something happened to manvi ? ... how will they face beeji ? ... no family in real life would say yes ... bec if something went wrong, how will you face the parents?

@reems i do agree with you.. We should actually stop blaming jeevika for all such things and virat never misunderstood them.. He could understand the reason but few people even me couldn understand it..now when we think about jeevika's point of view,she was actually right..it was the fear in her which stopped her ..and ya practically i dont think what jeevika is doing can be done in todays world ..and rest as i said in my first post..:-)

So I get what you are trying to say. Jeevika is sacrificing her own life for her sister and that she is not able to enjoy the first year of her married life because her sister is there.